Help me understand Virgo women

Hello all,

I've been reading through some of the posts here and hopefully I can get some Vigro's help in understanding a Virgo women. Generally, I do find it hard to understand you being a Cancer Sun / Aries moon.

Anyways, this Virgo girl I know is source of confusion so thank you so much in advance if you can give me some insight into things. She was a very good friend for a number of years. I'm best friends with some of her best girlfriends, and apparently in the past she has been somewhat commitment-phobe. About 2 years ago, we had what can best be described as an intense friendship. She really liked me, I really like her but things never took off. I think a large part of this was due to inexperience by me, although in essence she did lead me on for a few months. After this ended, I remained friends with her. A few months after this she started seeing another guy whom ended up cheating on her.

At this point, I ended up drifting away from her for a year, without much contact. At a friends birthday this past October we ended up chatting, I realized that I really missed having her in my life - weather as a friend or not. This past November I invited her out to a friends bday where we got a chance to catch-up, dance together etc. At the end of the evening we ended up holding hands and I kissed her on the cheek goodnight.

I'm not sure if I went too far that evening, but what can I say, I was feeling confident. Since then, she's been busy. But I'm not sure if she's blowing me off. I had tried getting in touch with her again...last weekend I called her and it turns out she was in Mexico (while the week before she said I should call her that week). This week, a bunch of friends were suppose to meet and go out, but we had a huge snow storm. When I called her today, she say that she was just going to stay in cause she had been a bum all day.

So, from that sounds of I might be getting the ol'brush off. This is fine, although I seriously do want to maintain a friendship. How should I approach this Virgos?

Great advice, StringsAttached, thank you!

No, the "intense friendship" never became sexual, nothing more than kissing. I guess I could add to some info there by saying one of the reasons we really stopped talking for a long time was that she was continually inviting me out to be with her and this guy that eventually hurt her greatly. I just thought this showed a lack of respect for my feelings.

I think your right though, she probably has no feelings and doesn't want to hurt mine. There is a chance that everything was bad timing - yesterday was a very cold and major snowstorm and her friend (whom is mine too) spoke to her and wasn't able to come in. I'll speak to that friend today to see what she thinks about it. From the get-go, I was kind of hesitant about this whole thing but then I thought we hit off that night so who knew - she didn't necessarily reject the advances, but then again, why even bother going down that road again.

Anyways, friendship is important to me. One issue is that as a Cancer, I have a really hard time letting go of people out of my life. Also, we have vivid memories, and I can still remember a lot of the confusion and pain that occurred.

So I might take your advice and in the New Year and e-mail her to ask to get for coffee/drinks and just explain to her that I didn't want to put pressure on her that night and clear up the confusion in the friendship.

Do you think this is a good plan?