Help me virgos :( I'm a sad scorpio

I'm a scorpio female and have been with my guy for almost 2 years now. This is the first relationship I have no control over. Not that I want control. I think that in any relationship both people should not feel tied down and should feel a sense of freedom. Me and my guy BOTH give eachother freedom which is good. But I find that I'm the one who puts more into the relationship, I'm the one who initiates most of the contact etc.

We have almost broken up a couple times in the near past and it was horrible. I feel so emotionally stressed lately. (i dont show this though cause any sign of insecurity makes him turned off) he is all I want! When I look at other guys, I don't feel ANHTHING, no matter how cool or attractive they are. I am completely devoted to my guy and it breaks my heart when I don't receive some of the same treatment back. He is alot more selfish then I am. I would always want to put him first to keep him happy (I don't show it as much anymore though cause I feel as though he takes advantage) but he always puts himself first. I guess he doesn't want me to rely on him. But I don't, I have myself pretty well together and am quite independent. 😢 I don't know, I think he's screwed in the head and I wish he could see what he has right in front of him. I'm beginning to think that it's a case of "you don't know what you have until it's gone" (for him) I want to gain control of the relationship again but don't know how.. I hate feeling this way! I have found that by giving him heaps of space and letting him be works well.. But I feel like I shouldn't have to play those types of games. When I love someone I want to give them my 100% all & I HATE not being able to do that with him (believe me, I've tried.. And he just takes it as too clingy/drowning him in love and affection)

also.. He had a brother who died 7 years ago. My guy was only 16 at the time and his bro was a little bit younger but my guy got bullied in school and his brother was his best friend. From what he has told
Me it affected him VERY bad.. He seams alright now but I know he gets down about it often although he doesn't show it, but I just know. He used to open up completely about his brother to his pisece ex of 3 years. Long story short, she took complete advantage of his vulnerability and used it against him. She cheated on him then when he tried to break up with him she would use the "you can't break up with me, you need me" and he actually believed it. She was the only perso

She was the only person he completely opened up to, so he felt like he couldn't leave her. He eventually did.. And I think since me there has been a few more people he has opened up to about it, some of them girls, and some of them just guy mates. When me and him first got together he opened up to me about it a bit but now he doesn't at ALL! And I am trying to figure out why! He says he 100% trusts me, I have completely proved my loyalty to him! I have had attractive guys approach me or try to contact me via Facebook and I have straight out rejected them. I am extremely faithful. Anyway, it breaks my heart how he sometimes will open up to his mates who he hasn't even known for that long about his brother in front of me when we are drinking etc but when it's just me and him he won't talk about it anymore but he would at the start when he hardly knew me?

I do remember one incident that happened in the early stages.. We came home from a night out and were still drunk.. And we were talking about his brother and he was opening up. I remember we were both soooo drunk and I think I passed out by accident! And I think he must have kept talking about it until he realised I wasn't responding? I am afraid that he must have taken that the wrong way that I wasn't interested about what he had to say! But THAT'S NOT THE CASE! I also recently went to a psychic and she spoke alot about my boyfriend and mentioned his brother. I told him this and he said that his good friend who's a girl who he grew up with (he opens up to her cause she had someone close pass Aswell) and he said that she recently saw a psychic too and they spoke about my guys brother too!! So I suggested he go and see a psychic cause that's DEFIENTLY a sign.. But he doesn't believe in spiritual stuff that much! And I think he's scared to go, but he would never admit that.

Help 😢

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan

If I can pick up on your contradiction and neediness through text over the internet--you're practically screaming it at this guy and don't even know it. This is not only a major turn off, but frustrating, and the more you pile it on the more he's going to be tempted to withdrawal. Take some time for yourself. Chill, get your own head clear before you worry about his.

No, i am not screaming it. he has no idea that i secretly want to regain control again.

he wears the pants. he does whatever he wants, and i am free to do what i want, but the difference is i secretly want to revolve my plans around him (YES, i know i shouldnt do this. no need to remind me) but i just cant help it! im in love with him! i wish he would sometimes out of the blue want to put my wants first like i do for him 😢

ahhhhhhhh!

Do you know each other charts if so what are they.

Posted by virgoking
Do you know each other charts if so what are they.

no, how do i find it out? and then i will post it.. im not 100% sure on his exact time of birth though. i asked his mum but shes not 100% sure haha

Posted by scorpio24

Posted by virgoking
Do you know each other charts if so what are they.

no, how do i find it out? and then i will post it.. im not 100% sure on his exact time of birth though. i asked his mum but shes not 100% sure haha

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look for free natal charts on google and then put the info in it.

me:


Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Conjunction Mercury 1.42 597
Sun Conjunction Venus 2.01 815
Moon Conjunction Uranus 1.26 288
Moon Conjunction Neptune 4.23 173
Mercury Conjunction Venus 3.43 566
Mercury Sextile Uranus 3.31 27
Mars Sextile Jupiter 2.56 59
Mars Conjunction Ascendant 3.39 152
Mars Trine Midheaven 0.39 55
Jupiter Square Pluto 5.33 -7
Jupiter Sextile Ascendant 0.43 82
Jupiter Opposition Midheaven 2.17 -75
Saturn Conjunction Neptune 7.27 92
Saturn Sextile Pluto 2.27 87
Uranus Conjunction Neptune 5.48 84
Pluto Square Midheaven 3.16 -7
3077 -89 2988

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Scorpio 1.03 Ascendant Gemini 10.48
Moon Capricorn 7.42 II Cancer 2.16
Mercury Scorpio 2.46 III Cancer 21.54
Venus Libra 29.03 IV Leo 13.49
Mars Gemini 14.27 R V Virgo 12.46
Jupiter Leo 11.31 VI Libra 24.02
Saturn Capricorn 19.31 VII Sagittarius 10.48
Uranus Capricorn 6.16 VIII Capricorn 2.16
Neptune Capricorn 12.04 IX Capricorn 21.54
Pluto Scorpio 17.04 Midheaven Aquarius 13.49
Lilith Sagittarius 9.31 XI Pisces 12.46
Asc node Aquarius 2.44 XII Aries 24.02

nah shes not lying to me, so absolutely loves me, shes just like that.. haha! not suprised at all that she doesnt 100% know!

Posted by ellessque
No, I'm from Indiana and it's clearly not on the birth certificates.

My virgo son has a sag moon and he's lost his birth certificate at least a dozen times. I've studied that thing more than my own.

Hummm Thats interesting I was born in new york and it has mine on it so does my daughter and she was born last year in FL. I guess it matters which state your in.

Posted by scorpio24

I'm a scorpio female and have been with my guy for almost 2 years now. This is the first relationship I have no control over.

First two sentences is all I need to read .... you obviously have control issues.


Typical Scorpio

Wow, it was weird reading your situation with your boyfriend because of how similar it was to mine ( Me being the Virgo male and girlfriend Pisces ). Anyway, what I learned from the 3 1/2 year relationship was whoever cares less about the relationship basically controls the relationship. With my ex, as much as I hated to believe it, simply fell out of love with me and I knew I was losing her for awhile during our relationship. So just end it now and let the healing process begin 😄

LOL@birth certificate time, not sure why the conversation cracked me up but it did.

+1 Amallegn

Either stop secretly wanting to revolve your life around him or move on. You don't feel loved so why in the fuck you're still in the relationship I dunno but clearly you love him more than you love yourself and that's a huge problem because he loves himself more than he loves you.