SoInLOVE
@SoInLOVE
12 Years
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I really want my virgo back. Is there a chance?
Awh. _—. I'm sorry about your broken heart.
No, don't write her a letter.
If you were the one who broke it off and hurt her, then I would insist on you writing a letter. I'm a sucker for love letters if I've been hurt.
But since that's not the case. She broke it off with you. It's cliche of me to state, but give her space. A gushy letter from a once upon a time lover whom of which I don't want to currently see, won't change my mind. I'll appreciate the sincerity of it though.
Maybe wait a month or so with no communication, and see how you still feel about the departure. If you still can't take the separation, then go ahead and write her a letter of how you feel. After all, if you're not back together in over a month or two, a letter won't hurt, and you have nothing to loose.
Best of luck.
No, don't write her a letter.
If you were the one who broke it off and hurt her, then I would insist on you writing a letter. I'm a sucker for love letters if I've been hurt.
But since that's not the case. She broke it off with you. It's cliche of me to state, but give her space. A gushy letter from a once upon a time lover whom of which I don't want to currently see, won't change my mind. I'll appreciate the sincerity of it though.
Maybe wait a month or so with no communication, and see how you still feel about the departure. If you still can't take the separation, then go ahead and write her a letter of how you feel. After all, if you're not back together in over a month or two, a letter won't hurt, and you have nothing to loose.
Best of luck.
Forget it, move on... Believe me I know..
Posted by Lenore0908
You're too nice
Its sad that a person is seen as "Too Nice." I didnt spoil her... I didn't "worship" her... I simply treated her like a SIGNIFICANT other. Someone who is important in my life. Before she went "cold" I was the same way and she was like me, and it was amazing... The change was all so weird that I didnt know how to take it. Im not constantly in relationships and I take my time when I meet someone. She got me to feel very optimistic. She was like a breath of fresh air for me and then BAM! No more. It hurts, and i just want that back with her. SMH...
Anyway thank you guys for your feedback... Especially Antonarnia
You're too nice
Its sad that a person is seen as "Too Nice." I didnt spoil her... I didn't "worship" her... I simply treated her like a SIGNIFICANT other. Someone who is important in my life. Before she went "cold" I was the same way and she was like me, and it was amazing... The change was all so weird that I didnt know how to take it. Im not constantly in relationships and I take my time when I meet someone. She got me to feel very optimistic. She was like a breath of fresh air for me and then BAM! No more. It hurts, and i just want that back with her. SMH...
Anyway thank you guys for your feedback... Especially Antonarnia
I read your past posts.
She probably felt annoyed that, during her personal time of hardships, you added more on her plate by putting all of your feelings on the table. Now she feels like she has to be careful with your feelings. I'm sure she missed being with you but she doesn't want to hurt you.
You want her back? Then give her back the carefree fun lover who doesn't take everything so serious. She doesn't want to sort out a relationship right now. Assure her that you don't care about all of that serious complicated BS and she will probably sleep with you again. She is not going to give you the "girlfriend" title quickly tho. It will take time.
She probably felt annoyed that, during her personal time of hardships, you added more on her plate by putting all of your feelings on the table. Now she feels like she has to be careful with your feelings. I'm sure she missed being with you but she doesn't want to hurt you.
You want her back? Then give her back the carefree fun lover who doesn't take everything so serious. She doesn't want to sort out a relationship right now. Assure her that you don't care about all of that serious complicated BS and she will probably sleep with you again. She is not going to give you the "girlfriend" title quickly tho. It will take time.
well,the going cold bit,is our famous fade away.Long distance is a tough one.And you said her mom just found out,her life style ,and that she had a friend to boot.If she still has to depend on her moother,then,she isn't going to rock her boat and get thrown out on the street.And with her other stuff going on,taht's not a good combination.So if you are one of her first gals,maybe she's really unsure if this is her true calling.When we say"give us space"consider that a warning shot.Coming out is tough on it's own.We like to have as less drama as we can.
We always have a lot going on,sometimes on purpose to get rid of people.I'm not saying that this is the case,but if you haven't given her space,the we will create the space.She knows your thinking of her.But I will tell you that,sometimes when someone is going through a crisis and the people is there for them ,it's tough when they finally get their crap together.It's like they shed their old selves like dead skin,they shed everything.
Think to yourself if this could be the case,or does she really just need to tie up loose ends—If you push her into taking you back,because YOU can't live without her,then you've not given her the time she needed and it then becimes what's best for you,she will see that instantly.She asked for space and you didn't give it to her.Think back to when you came out,didn't things go a little haywire??She's got heaps on her plate.One well expressed letter will do nicely,but don't send it tomorrow,give it a beat.Give her time to decompress.
Gotta ask what did you to be so"passionate about your feelings? In Virgo speak = you've overwhelmed me.Relax,I mean if the relationship is going to rebuild itself,you want to ready for it,meanwhile take some time for yourself.
We always have a lot going on,sometimes on purpose to get rid of people.I'm not saying that this is the case,but if you haven't given her space,the we will create the space.She knows your thinking of her.But I will tell you that,sometimes when someone is going through a crisis and the people is there for them ,it's tough when they finally get their crap together.It's like they shed their old selves like dead skin,they shed everything.
Think to yourself if this could be the case,or does she really just need to tie up loose ends—If you push her into taking you back,because YOU can't live without her,then you've not given her the time she needed and it then becimes what's best for you,she will see that instantly.She asked for space and you didn't give it to her.Think back to when you came out,didn't things go a little haywire??She's got heaps on her plate.One well expressed letter will do nicely,but don't send it tomorrow,give it a beat.Give her time to decompress.
Gotta ask what did you to be so"passionate about your feelings? In Virgo speak = you've overwhelmed me.Relax,I mean if the relationship is going to rebuild itself,you want to ready for it,meanwhile take some time for yourself.
So what about a Virgo guy who starts to back away anf you confront him on it. He then asks for much needed space and wanting to be alone and I give him the space as much as he wants. Then a day later he messages me, and ehen I become cold and vague with one or two word answers he calls me.
What happened to the space he so wanted?
Is it mind games... I dont get it.
What happened to the space he so wanted?
Is it mind games... I dont get it.
Posted by VullcanLazz
well,the going cold bit,is our famous fade away.Long distance is a tough one.And you said her mom just found out,her life style ,and that she had a friend to boot.If she still has to depend on her moother,then,she isn't going to rock her boat and get thrown out on the street.And with her other stuff going on,taht's not a good combination.So if you are one of her first gals,maybe she's really unsure if this is her true calling.When we say"give us space"consider that a warning shot.Coming out is tough on it's own.We like to have as less drama as we can.
We always have a lot going on,sometimes on purpose to get rid of people.I'm not saying that this is the case,but if you haven't given her space,the we will create the space.She knows your thinking of her.But I will tell you that,sometimes when someone is going through a crisis and the people is there for them ,it's tough when they finally get their crap together.It's like they shed their old selves like dead skin,they shed everything.
Think to yourself if this could be the case,or does she really just need to tie up loose ends—If you push her into taking you back,because YOU can't live without her,then you've not given her the time she needed and it then becimes what's best for you,she will see that instantly.She asked for space and you didn't give it to her.Think back to when you came out,didn't things go a little haywire??She's got heaps on her plate.One well expressed letter will do nicely,but don't send it tomorrow,give it a beat.Give her time to decompress.
Gotta ask what did you to be so"passionate about your feelings? In Virgo speak = you've overwhelmed me.Relax,I mean if the relationship is going to rebuild itself,you want to ready for it,meanwhile take some time for yourself.
Im not out either... Her family knew about me... everyone accept her mom. As far as space: she was always the one to call me. Once I learned that when she was upset, she needed space, thats what I gave her. She would call me. since we broke up, I have never called her or text her or anything. She tried that break up thing before but it was over something so stupid. I had listened to her complain about her situation for an hour, when I would suggest something positive, she snapped at me and my reaction was to raise my voice a little because of my frustration (Im usually pretty even tempered) and she ended u
Posted by SoInLOVE
pls leave the homophobic comments at the door
Posted by SoInLOVE
Im not out either...
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Fucking hypocrites really piss me off
Posted by P-AngelPosted by SoInLOVE
pls leave the homophobic comments at the door
Posted by SoInLOVE
Im not out either...
Fucking hypocrites really piss me offclick to expand
Just cuz one is not out does not make one a hypocrite and Im not scared of liking women. There are a lot of reasons as to why one may not "come out," but as far how you feel... You can stay as pissed off as you'd like... I really dont care
The rest of post was too long-I was going to say there are plenty of support network sites to help you with the coming process.Spend some time caring for yourself and if it was meant to be ,things will fall into place.
Since you have given more details,I'll go with what you have given .I understood what you said.You want things back the way they were and she wants space.Yelling at anyone isn't helpful,especially a Virgo.We don't thrive on a rollercoaster feel to a relationship,the arguing then make up sex ,is just a ploy to cover up what the underlying issues are.She knows that you care,that's why the continuing of the game you play on the phone.
However that fade away,is because,she is hurt deeply,she figures that if you knew her well enough to cause the hurt,your aware enough to clean it up.If you don't know her well enough to know what pushes her buttons ,then a whole handful of love yous isn't going to cut it.
The little details matter to us,paying attention matters to us,being constructive matters to us.But if we've been hurt to the bone,rarely are we going to stick our hand in the wasp nest again.If she is keeping in touch with,she's waiting to see if you have gotten what she was trying to express to you and if you continue to do it some more ,she backs away again.
It takes to move in the sane direction,obviously this isn't happening now.You need to have an honest talk and get to the bottom of what is going on.If she contacts you again,the ask her about defining what type of relationship that is going on and what you need and what she needs.If you can't come to an understanding or even deciede to move in a direction together,then chalk it up to a heartbreak and find someone who is on the same path as you.Good Luck
Since you have given more details,I'll go with what you have given .I understood what you said.You want things back the way they were and she wants space.Yelling at anyone isn't helpful,especially a Virgo.We don't thrive on a rollercoaster feel to a relationship,the arguing then make up sex ,is just a ploy to cover up what the underlying issues are.She knows that you care,that's why the continuing of the game you play on the phone.
However that fade away,is because,she is hurt deeply,she figures that if you knew her well enough to cause the hurt,your aware enough to clean it up.If you don't know her well enough to know what pushes her buttons ,then a whole handful of love yous isn't going to cut it.
The little details matter to us,paying attention matters to us,being constructive matters to us.But if we've been hurt to the bone,rarely are we going to stick our hand in the wasp nest again.If she is keeping in touch with,she's waiting to see if you have gotten what she was trying to express to you and if you continue to do it some more ,she backs away again.
It takes to move in the sane direction,obviously this isn't happening now.You need to have an honest talk and get to the bottom of what is going on.If she contacts you again,the ask her about defining what type of relationship that is going on and what you need and what she needs.If you can't come to an understanding or even deciede to move in a direction together,then chalk it up to a heartbreak and find someone who is on the same path as you.Good Luck
Posted by VullcanLazz
The rest of post was too long-I was going to say there are plenty of support network sites to help you with the coming process.Spend some time caring for yourself and if it was meant to be ,things will fall into place.
Since you have given more details,I'll go with what you have given .I understood what you said.You want things back the way they were and she wants space.Yelling at anyone isn't helpful,especially a Virgo.We don't thrive on a rollercoaster feel to a relationship,the arguing then make up sex ,is just a ploy to cover up what the underlying issues are.She knows that you care,that's why the continuing of the game you play on the phone.
However that fade away,is because,she is hurt deeply,she figures that if you knew her well enough to cause the hurt,your aware enough to clean it up.If you don't know her well enough to know what pushes her buttons ,then a whole handful of love yous isn't going to cut it.
The little details matter to us,paying attention matters to us,being constructive matters to us.But if we've been hurt to the bone,rarely are we going to stick our hand in the wasp nest again.If she is keeping in touch with,she's waiting to see if you have gotten what she was trying to express to you and if you continue to do it some more ,she backs away again.
It takes to move in the sane direction,obviously this isn't happening now.You need to have an honest talk and get to the bottom of what is going on.If she contacts you again,the ask her about defining what type of relationship that is going on and what you need and what she needs.If you can't come to an understanding or even deciede to move in a direction together,then chalk it up to a heartbreak and find someone who is on the same path as you.Good Luck
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Prior to us breaking up she was going SO cold on me. She would still call me consistently and we would be on the phone for hours. She all of a sudden didnt get my jokes. I always gave her space. Thru her problems I was the only one that was really trying to help her thru it and it felt like she just took how she was feeling out on me. She was just mean. When I told her how it made me feel she would turn it around and get mad at me because I was "so passionate about my feelings" Thru the relationship I was always the same. We would both express how we cared and love each other... then she kinda stopped doing all that. Its like she put no more caring into our relationship. We have a long distance relationship and when i went to go see her, I got random bits of affection but no sex or anything. I asked her why we hadn't and I asked her, was she just not into me anymore... She said no thats not it. I just dont get it at all.
We have this game we play on our phones... I havent played in weeks but she would still try and nudge me to play. then I played yesterday, and we just went back and forth, but never actually said anything to each other.
Virgos pls tell me how to do this or whats going on... I really want her back. I dont know... should I write her a letter? I cant even just play that game on the phone with her.
Do you think there is a chance for us to get back together?