Long Distance Love

Hi! It is my first post here but I read the board because it has a lot of good info

I met a virgo male through a friend of a friend and he came to visit my city for his birthday. I live in the US, him on another continent. We had an amazing time together, he was the sweetest man I ever met. I didn't have expectations of getting to know him more than a friend because he was visiting. Then he kissed me and everything changed, it was the best first kiss I ever had and no, I am not a teenager. We became intimate and when he left, it was hard for both of us

For the last few weeks, we have been in constant contact but the distance is hard because neither of us want a relationship with a messenger. I have family in his part of the world, I am there on occasion and I have plans to move there to be closer to family. We spoke about him coming back to visit again and he said he was saving to. Then the following week he said he would not come to visit and I need to go to him but this I understood because he has something going on for work

Days after that, I told him I have feelings for him, something I do not ever tell a guy first but with him I felt comfortable saying it. He told me he did a day after. Over the weekend he blew up and said he could not do this anymore that he could not drag me on this way that he only has time for work. I know at times I was a distraction for what he has going on but because I trust him, I didn't think he had an imbalance of time to focus on work and me

We didn't speak for days and I saw from social media he is having a hard time for work so I msged to ask how he was. He apologized for how he treated me the other day. He said he had plans to contact me in days. He told me he unfollowed me online because he did not want to see my status updates, just regular non personal posts but he said it was his way to avoid me. We spoke a little and he told me he loves me. He said he thought about it and we can not be together that we are different and our circumstances are hard

He msged me later and he said he did that over the weekend to make me hate him. He said he was scared that he would bring me half way around the world and expecting to settle down. He said he could not handle people falling for him. He told me he was scared that he fell for the wrong people that it is easier to quit while ahead. He told me if he lived in the same city he would be with me. He said forget us and do what I need to do to m

ove there for my family and to let him fall for me again if the time is right. He said again that I need to do what is needed to get there. He said he would love for me to show up ready for good not to visit. I asked what if he meets someone else but he said he would not answer

I love this man, but I am scared. I had love and marriage before, it did not feel like this. We are kind to each other, we respect each other, we are very attracted to each other. When he made love to me it was the most beautiful, intimate thing I experienced. I know I need to clarify some things with him about my moving there. I understand love is not easy sometimes. I know work is important for him, he has things going on that are his priority and I care about him enough that I can wait for him but I worry. It should also be mentioned that before I knew him, I already started planning to move to that area, I speak one of the languages used, and my career is in demand. If anyone has any advice or anything please help

Um...what exactly is it that you would like advice on?

It is pretty clear to anyone who reads this. He was very honest with you which IMO is pretty characteristic of any Virgo. Now if you do what you want to do and it does not turn out the way you hoped it would. Is it his fault or your fault or does fault not even factor in?

If you love him, which you say you do then do what you feel you must do. Jut realize that whatever you do, is your choice and you will need to own the outcome good, bad or indifferent.

Best wishes.

I didn't meet him online, I met him from a friend and he spent time here the end of this summer

I took a walk while running errands to think about it. Him and I are at different points of our lives. While someone's affluence isn't a deciding factor for me, I had an entire career and he is just starting out

I guess it is fear of if he could will be ready for me when I get there. I worry if I show and he is surprised. I trust him but this is a big move

I want to visit before moving there and he repeats that I need to move there to be with him. For me it is realistic to visit first. For him he sees it like I am not serious

Posted by lovingpisces
I didn't meet him online, I met him from a friend and he spent time here the end of this summer

I took a walk while running errands to think about it. Him and I are at different points of our lives. While someone's affluence isn't a deciding factor for me, I had an entire career and he is just starting out

I guess it is fear of if he could will be ready for me when I get there. I worry if I show and he is surprised. I trust him but this is a big move

I want to visit before moving there and he repeats that I need to move there to be with him. For me it is realistic to visit first. For him he sees it like I am not serious

Unless you can be with someone 2-3 times every month or live very close...FORGET IT.

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Posted by lovingpisces
I didn't meet him online, I met him from a friend and he spent time here the end of this summer

I took a walk while running errands to think about it. Him and I are at different points of our lives. While someone's affluence isn't a deciding factor for me, I had an entire career and he is just starting out

I guess it is fear of if he could will be ready for me when I get there. I worry if I show and he is surprised. I trust him but this is a big move

I want to visit before moving there and he repeats that I need to move there to be with him. For me it is realistic to visit first. For him he sees it like I am not serious

Unless you can be with someone 2-3 times every month or live very close...FORGET IT.

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When I move to that area, there are trains avail daily to

It will only be then (when you move close to him and see him consistently) you will know if this will work out. Anything short of that..not so much.