Married Virgos Naughty Boyz

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cancerintherain
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hello to everyone, another Cancer here stressing over Virgo guys. in this summer, I came in contact with three Virgos, all about 15 years older or married. but the fact they're married doesn't seem to bother them at all. I guess it's true what a textbook case of Virgo says about their view on cheating. however, I really can't help myself falling in some serious liking with one of them. I just like him too much, he's just too perfect. :/
so before I let myself loose to free-falling, I would like some thoughts (from you, naughty Virgo men or ladies with experience with them) on

1. does he really like me or is he just looking for an easy affair ?

2. if we would be together, and things were good, would he consider a divorce (or are Virgos, like Tauruses, an undivorcing kind of men?) ?
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Damn... The more I read on here about bad evil Virgo men. The more I ask myself why I ever wanted a divorce from mine.. He's perfect.. No cheating, works hard, great father, great in bed, funny, always put me first, etc.. I really have nothing bad to say about him. He must be another sign in disguise....

OP- stay clear of married/taken men.. Once a cheat, always a cheat. You won't make anyone change their ways.
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Herself
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Damn... The more I read on here about bad evil Virgo men. The more I ask myself why I ever wanted a divorce from mine.. He's perfect.. No cheating, works hard, great father, great in bed, funny, always put me first, etc.. I really have nothing bad to say about him. He must be another sign in disguise....

OP- stay clear of married/taken men.. Once a cheat, always a cheat. You won't make anyone change their ways.



Why did you want to divorce him? Is it due to you wanting something better or thinking the grass is greener?
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Hard to explain. When I tell people they just don't get it or think I'm crazy.

I met him when I was 14. I went from taking care of 4 younger siblings right in to taking care of him and having a baby.. I don't regret that at all but fast forward 20 years and I found myself wanting to know what it was like to be me & have simple things like my own room. Wanting to stop at the store after work without getting a text asking if I'm ok b/c I'm late. Purchasing something without either having to discuss it first (expensive stuff) or to just keep him in the loop balancing the bank accounts. When you get married you really are one person... I wanted to know what being my own person was like. Selfish? Maybe. Mid life crisis? Could be. Idk..
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I met him when I was 14. I went from taking care of 4 younger siblings right in to taking care of him and having a baby.. I don't regret that at all but fast forward 20 years and I found myself wanting to know what it was like to be me & have simple things like my own room. Wanting to stop at the store after work without getting a text asking if I'm ok b/c I'm late. Purchasing something without either having to discuss it first (expensive stuff) or to just keep him in the loop balancing the bank accounts. When you get married you really are one person... I wanted to know what being my own person was like. Selfish? Maybe. Mid life crisis? Could be. Idk..

" Herself

You know I can completely relate. I'm very independent. I think more women now days are, and have to be given the economic circumstances. What I think affected you so deeply was you playing the supporting role so early to your siblings, then becoming his main support to a new born babies'. That's
a lot of giving. And it's not selfish for you to want to have some "me" time and find yourself. We have all been there.

I've been married 15 years, and have two 12 year old boys. One by birth, one by overseas adoption. There are times when I'm picking up after all 3 boys and doing their laundry I think, "damn, it would be so good to be single again and not have to do all this extra work".....That doesn't make me a bad wife or mother, it just makes me human.

I think the saving grace for me, other than the fact I married a really good guy with a big heart, (even though he can't ever hit the laundry bin), is that we didn't get married until we were in our early 30's. That helped me find myself a little more, and have time without all the other pressures in life. We had our first child when I was 36, so we gave our marriage a chance to build a firm foundation before we brought a child into the world. Granted, it was really God who decided when the child was going to be born, not us. We just did the heavy lifting.....

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I commend you for not only hanging onto your marriage, but for doing all the heavy lifting for so long. If more women and men were like this, we'd have fewer divorces in this country. It's become far too easy to give up and divorce. I would suggest that have a heart to heart with your husband and tell him you need some more "me" time and give him ideas what you need IE: one day off a week from doing housework/errands, massage and facial day, weekend vacation getaway by yourself or with your best friend, or a day to shop until you drop.....My husband realizes when I'm burning the candle at both ends. He knows that I need a break, just as he does. We give each other that time to do our own thing and it reenergizes us. You deserve that too.
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Posted by cancerintherain
hello to everyone, another Cancer here stressing over Virgo guys. in this summer, I came in contact with three Virgos, all about 15 years older or married. but the fact they're married doesn't seem to bother them at all. I guess it's true what a textbook case of Virgo says about their view on cheating. however, I really can't help myself falling in some serious liking with one of them. I just like him too much, he's just too perfect. :/
so before I let myself loose to free-falling, I would like some thoughts (from you, naughty Virgo men or ladies with experience with them) on

1. does he really like me or is he just looking for an easy affair ?

2. if we would be together, and things were good, would he consider a divorce (or are Virgos, like Tauruses, an undivorcing kind of men?) ?



Just a little FYI.....

I was in a similar situation years ago. I was single and a male virgo, who was married and had children, made an advance on me in a night club. Because I had known him for a good part of my life and thought he had strong character, I was so shocked and embarrassed, I had to leave. He walked away from me in a second after he realized I wasn't going to be his accomplice in cheating on his wife. I had to come back to retrieve a sweater I had left on my chair and I caught him walking out of the clue with another young lady about 10 years older than I was. Other than age, she resembled me from hair style to build. Seeing that made me want to throw up.

There are men who flirt with other women, but never go beyond that. Some people in both genders have a natural tendency to flirt. Sometimes that's all it is: FLIRTING.

If you chose to have sexual relations with the man you are referring to, it will be YOU who will be helping this man cheat. What makes you think he will be so in love with you that he will be convinced to divorce his wife? This kind of scenario rarely happens. Most men who cheat don't leave their wives for the "other" woman. He has too much invested in his marriage. You will be nothing more than booty call.....which in effect is his way of using you to boost his insecure male ago.

THREE PROVEN FACTS:

1. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2. If he had no problem cheating on his wife, he will do the same to you.
3. In the end, it will be YOU, the woman who is hurt the most. And any integrity you had pri
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Posted by SuperVirgoWoman
We ALL need some Me time and because you started early...I truly understand. I find myself single again and truly enjoying myself. Sometimes lonely...someting wonderful.



I feel exactly the same way. I was married before and would like to again one day. But right now
it's nice being alone w/o being lonely. But then again there are times when I'm lonely and
would like someone to just snuggle with.