Need advise on Virgo female Help !

I have met a Virgo female about 5 months ago and she completely took my heart by storm. She is the most awsome person I have ever met everything about her is appealing to me. When we first started talking she would text message almost on a daily basis and call me from time to time. As our friendship progressed she mentioned that she has a boyfriend and nothing was going to happen between us. although the situation is how it is we kept on communicating and stayed friends. One night around 2 A.M. I received a text message stating she needed me. I immediately went and met eith her at her house and it was obvious that she had been drinking a bit (maybe alot) As we began to talk she suddenly exploded with her family issues and following her saying what she had to say it looked as if a load was lifted off her shoulders, and she had a look of gratification on her face. The conversation then sort of shifted towards us. She was constantly asking me why I like her? and insisted that she is very average and not pretty. (Not True) then she insisted that I will run for my life once i get to know her better. I asked her what (if anything) she felt about me and maybe it was the wrong time to do so but i did. She didnt say a word she just sat there starring in my eyes and it drove me nuts! She could not tell me anything at all. Anyway as the conversation progressed she found 101 faults of why I will not like her. One day I told her that I was in love with her because she is the most genuine person I have ever met, and that I would do anything in the world to not see her sad or suffering. she said she knew that what I was saying was true and that she knew I would never hurt her. After taht the flirting and messages got less and less and out of the blue the flirting and the text messages stopped completely and I havnt heard or seen her since. Can someone give me some insight before I go nuts. Based on everything I have read on Virgos she is 100 and 50 % Virgo no doubt. I know things are the way they are right now but is she scared or confused or what. I love this girld more than anything in the world, even though they say that Gems and Virgo dont stand a chance.

Sounds like she might come around, but that she doesn't feel like she deserves someone as nice as you and she doesn't trust that your feelings will stay true after you get to know her. She doesn't sound like she likes herself very much. You may be scaring her. Try pulling back a bit and give her some space. Let her do a little bit of the chasing.

gslove thank you for responding to my posting. Its been a bit over a week since Ive heard from my virgo and I have to tell you, I am totally loosing my mind. Now granted I know she is in a relationship, but I told her that our friendship is the most sacred thing in the world to me. She also knows I would do anything for her at the drop of a dime. I sent her a little text on friday saying "Hi" and she didnt respond back. Im so hurt you cant imagine. Based on the little that she has told me her relationship is "Just there". Although she is not 100% happy (I beleive) I never ever told her to leave her current situation. On the contrary I encouraged her to try and work things out. Anyway, I think I have really lost her now. I once told her that Ill be loyal to her and loyal to our friendship regardless of the current situation. I go out with friends and (really amazingly) no other girl looks anything remotly appealing to me. Its like theye are not even there. I have women come and talk to me and other than just being nice and cordial thats where I draw the line. I could accept the fact that she is involved and she has her issues or whatever. However for her to ignore me hurts unlike no other. Should I move on or wait for her until (hopefully) she comes around. I love this person more than anything in the world and would do ANY THING for her. If she is hurt again in a relationship (as she told me she has in the past in nearly every single one) I wont know what to do. Thats what I want to avoid. Am I silly for trying to be loyal as hell to her ?

Johnny:

I am not a virgo female but, I am a Sag female who has/had been dating a virgo male. He wasn't attached but, he repsonded the same way. My virgo male shut me out too. He told me that he thought I was too good for him and that I would adventurally get tired of him. I told him I thought about him day and night and I really cared about him. He appreciated the honesty and everything would go fine and then something would happen that had nothing to do with me and then he won't return calls or even acknowledge any of them and he has done this on and off. He isn't very sure of himself and his past seems to hold a huge grip on him. I noticed that Virgo's seem to let the past drive thier future and they have a hard time letting it go and learning from it. The Virgo I know has been having a lot of self descructive behavior because he doesn't think he is worthy enough. I have tried to show him that he is and that things can be good and that he can be happy. Apparently, he doesn't want that or doesn't know how to except that and always finds some small thing bad and makes it huge and then doesn't want to talk to me for a week or two. Alot of people on here says to wait and they will come around. How long is the wait well, no one knows for sure and they also say that Virgo's can be loyal and their hearts will be with their family even if they choose to be with you. Be careful because she is with someone and I know it's hard to let go but, you need to either ask her or let her go. If a Virgo doesn't want you in they won't let you.

Hi Johnny, just read your story........know you are hurtin.
After being with a virgo for nearly 4 years, the "magic" virgo words that always work for me are the following - "Fair, Reasonable, I Expect and Behaviour".

OK so Ms. V. has opened up her heart to you - and you were there for her 110% --and now we have the no contact mode...perhaps she is embarrassed by opening up so much—?No-one knows except her.....but I do feel she should respond to you and let you know one way or another what's the story....

So next text to her would go as follows if I were in your shoes:-) "I don't think your lack of contact is being fair or reasonable to me. I expect to hear from you (say her name) soon as I don't find your behaviour acceptable". Nothing more, nothing less. I know this sounds cold and calculated - believe me though it will work - virgos respond big time to others expectations and commands (for want of a better word) and to be seen to be "reasonable and fair" is so important to them. I know alot won't agree with me here but that's my take.....

Good luck Johnny.....

Alana x

Hi alana, Hi sweetherat 1969 ! Thanks for the advise. Yesterday afternoon I sent a simple "Hi" text message to my little Virgo and guess what Nothing!. At this point I think I lost her for good. As far as me asking her to leave what she is in right now is something I cant do. I dont think I could ever ask that nor expect it from anyone, becuase I probably wouldnt want that done to me. After reading both of your posts I was laughing becuase I was like "gee imnot the only one". Although the posting from sweetheart 1969 sounds so similar to my Virgo LOL sorry alana!. Truth be told is I dont want to call her again nor contact he rin anyway becuase as you ladies know there is nothing more anoying than someone constantly calling you when you dont want them too. I just cant figure it out. Would a girl flirt with you everyday, make littel comments if she wasnt interested? I just dont know. All I can tell you is I miss her to death. Even though I didnt see her much face to face (other than a couple of lunches we had, her texts and (sometimes phone calls) brightened my day and kept me going. Thats al it took for me ot smile like a geek all day long! lol. Im getting discouraged with this issue becuase she tells me nothing!. Is this a typical Virgo or is it just california women in general. (No offense California women) im just trying to figure it out. She had told me that she was screwd over in nearly Every single relationship she has ever had, so I told her that our paths crossed for a reason and we met for a reason. I cant figure out why after several failed relationships she meets the one guy who would make it Valentines day everyday (no Exception) at home and she blows me off, and settles for something she is not completely happy !!!!!!!!! good grief!. Shes a confusing little Virgo, but I love her !!!!!!!!!! 🙂

Johnny, After reading your new post I have changed my mind and I'm going to be very blunt. I believe that you have absolutely no chance while she is still involved with this other person. Maybe she is interested in you which could be why she is not responding, but if she is she probably feels guilty about responding because she is not out of her current relationship. You need to talk to her one more time and tell her that you are moving on and you will not be contacting her anymore and that if she ever gets out of her current situation and wants to talk to you that she should contact you. That is your only hope at this point. You can not push her at all. If you pull away she will come forward.....If she is interested. You sound like a great guy. Find someone who wants what you want.

P.S. Sorry Alana, I don't agree with you that he should scold her. That will just make her feel like she is hurting him and she will run away further. Johnny if you just pull away nicely she will get the message that you like her but that you have too much respect for yourself to play any games, but that if she ever gets her stuff together that you would be open to talking with her again. You don't have to say any of that. She will get that without you ever having to say a word.

Hi friends, I appreciate all of your responces. I think all of you made some real valid points in every posting. All responces were no better no worse just different points of view. Truth said, Im just giving up at this point why bother. like gslove said If she comes around she comes around. at this point the ball is in her court. Im hurt as hell but its nothing I can control. I think hope and love are both good things. Ive actually never felt like this in the past, and dont know if ill ever feel like this in the future. All I can say is im never going to stop loving my little Virgo. This girl (For at least the five months that we kept in touch) was without exagerating the best thing that has ever happened to me. She made me feel unlike none other. Check the boards from time to time and if I have any updates so will you. If you resond to postings I will resopnd back to you I look here everyday. Meanwhile Ill be sitting at home in total misery LOL !!!!!!!!!!!!! 😢

Hi Johnny,

Just now reading your post, I am a fellow Virgo girl, I am going to be totally honest with you....she is definitely not going to come around any time soon so as long as she is in a relationship no matter how terrible it may be.

From my own experience, LOYALTY, with a capital "L" is something us Virgos believe in, and we don't like to fail at things including destined to be bad relationships.

As much as I can tell this young lady does care for you and I believe truly she is interested but again because of LOYALTY to the other guy, and the fact that she does feel guilty about even spill her inner feelings to you.

We are always cautious and to open up like that to you may have taken her back a bit once she realized what she had said.

Another truth is that we as Virgos do not like to feel "vunerable" although we where out hearts on our sleeves sometimes...I know it sounds crazy but it's the way we think.

I don't know if anything has changed for you since your last post but if it is meant to be it will be

Hi, I aM A Virgo female too.
#1 We are very loyalty *From my own experience, LOYALTY, with a capital "L" is something us Virgos believe in, and we don't like to fail at things including destined to be bad relationships.
#2 If you try to get too close to us, and we don't like you like that we just look at you like cool peoples, it aint gonna happen I mean it may happen in the future. But us Vigo females are very cool down to earth females. So if we kickin it with somebody, and our first judgement of you is cool then you just cool.
I don't know if it's me but if someone try to get to close to me I run, especially if I just got out a relationship with someone else. Because I know i'm going to have to think about you when it's over.
I HATE THAT.
But good luck to you in the future, pick yourself up just remember *And this too shall pass* You'a be iight =)