Need some advice about a Virgo woman.

I'm a Pisces male attracted to a Virgo female.

3 months ago, I entered into a business relationship with a Virgo female.

We've gotten to the point where we get along pretty well. We've been sharing a lot of personal information with one another. Great conversations. I have a lot of fun with her and I know she has a good time too.

But with all the info we've been sharing with one another, she's sort of neglected to mention that she's "with someone".

Not that she has to tell me anything, I think our friendship is sort of getting to the point that she has to sense that I have some feelings for her. I have no way of knowing but deep down I want to believe she likes me a little bit.

I'm feeling a little mislead. It's something that IMO she could have simply mentioned it in casual conversation at this point...but she hasn't.

She's mentioned her parents, girl friends, guy friends...but no mention of a boyfriend.

How do I play this? Is she just playing some game?

I feel I should also mention that she not a typical Virgo. She has those beautiful nurturing qualities but she has a very tough demeanor. She's very blunt.

Posted by Fishman
I feel I should also mention that she not a typical Virgo. She has those beautiful nurturing qualities but she has a very tough demeanor. She's very blunt.

lol, all of that ^ is a typical Virgal.

She probably didn't mention it because she likes you and doesn't want to ruin what you guys seem to be building.

She probably didn't mention it because she knows you like her and doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

Posted by yellowsweater
how did you find out she was with someone?

I'm perceptive, besides...most beautiful women are taken.

I'm 95% certain she's got a BF.

Posted by VirgoVixxxen

Posted by Fishman
I feel I should also mention that she not a typical Virgo. She has those beautiful nurturing qualities but she has a very tough demeanor. She's very blunt.

lol, all of that ^ is a typical Virgal.

She probably didn't mention it because she likes you and doesn't want to ruin what you guys seem to be building.

She probably didn't mention it because she knows you like her and doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

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One of those would have me feeling pretty good. The other, not so much.

I would just ASK her face to face...

"Hey you got a boyfriend"
"You don't talk about him much"

There's no point in tip-toeing around subjects or trying to read her. Dive-in like an Olympic swimmer & just ask her what you want to know! Get the "boyfriend discussion" out of the way so you will have an idea about where you & her are headed. 🙂

Posted by Rapunzel
I would just ASK her face to face...

"Hey you got a boyfriend"
"You don't talk about him much"

There's no point in tip-toeing around subjects or trying to read her. Dive-in like an Olympic swimmer & just ask her what you want to know! Get the "boyfriend discussion" out of the way so you will have an idea about where you & her are headed. 🙂

No need to tip toe around anything, sadly.

Found out tonight that she is indeed with someone.

My initial impression of him was dead on. He looks like a loser and it turns out he's been arrested for a variety of offenses including a domestic battery charge.

I'm sad because I really thought she was a nice person. She wears that mask well...but that's all it is, a mask. It's not who she really is. For her to be into a guy like that is disappointing.

Oh well...glad I found out now.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Criminals need love too.

lol

They sure do.

Domestic assault though?? Come on, any woman that involves herself with a man like that deserves all the misery that comes with it.

With as big of a low life as this guy is, I'm not sure I want to be around this woman in any capacity.

I just want to figure out how to make a clean break professionally as well.

It's ok to feel disappointed, but why did you have to take out your frustrations on her character? You don't know THE STORY.... Turns out it's a very sensitive thing for her. But since you had suspected her of having a bf you should have just asked her, why didn't you? You were also hesitant.

Posted by yellowsweater

Posted by Fishman

Posted by CluelessCancer
Criminals need love too.

lol

They sure do.

Domestic assault though?? Come on, any woman that involves herself with a man like that deserves all the misery that comes with it.

With as big of a low life as this guy is, I'm not sure I want to be around this woman in any capacity.

I just want to figure out how to make a clean break professionally as well.

i'm not sure i understand your logic in this... just because she is involved with someone who may have made some bad decisions in life, it shouldn't reflect badly on her as a person. i think a lot of times virgos tend to attract the weaker-willed...or maybe we tend to be drawn to these "broken" people so that, consciously or subconsciously in our service-oriented mindset, we can improve them. virgos are idealistic like that.. just as the pisces is. however it's interesting to see how these opposite signs are so different and yet so much alike at the same time as it's obvious you've already formed this idealistic dream of her in your head.. but rather than pursue that and make it work (in this case a platonic/professional relationship), you've already abandoned it at the slightest onset of a reality quite different than what you've expected. even more than that, you're taking action to even cut off ties with her just because you've deemed her unworthy as a person due to her associative ties. it's one thing to admit that maybe you can't bear to keep a connection with her anymore because she's already involved with someone else, but it's another to break ties with her because you've deemed her as bad person based on the track record of her significant other.
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+ infinity! smh @ fishman...

My Virgo loves making me a better person, as I wasn't always that way. She finds pride in her ability to project such a positive influence on others. It's a safe bet this girls bf situation is a sensitive subject for fear of being judged. So don't judge her. Ask direct questions, they like this. And seriously never judge a Virgo, there is so much more under the surface you'll never know without patience, understanding and directness.

I haven't spoken to or seen her since Friday.

Our business arrangement is such that basically, in the simplest terms. I'm paying this woman to teach me a skill.

I figure that I'm just going to sit back and wait to see if she wants to meet up this week like usual.

As far as her boyfriend. Well, I still believe that she could have told me at any point, even in the most casual of ways. It wouldn't have been much of an issue. Sure, I would have been disappointed. Don't forget, I really do like this woman a great deal.

Having to find out that she not only has a bf, but the kind of person he is, really has me feeling very hurt.

The way our arrangement is, I have the thought creeping into my head that maybe this woman is only being nice to me because she wants me to keep paying her?

The hopeless romantic in me wants to believe that's not true. I'd like to think that maybe she's finally found someone who she can be attracted to, laugh with, and share and teach what she's passionate about.

That's how she has made me feel the last 3 months.

The other thing is...over the last 10 years, I've been friends with a woman who's been in an abusive relationship with a man that's very similar to the one that my Virgo is with.

It's a very draining battle if your just friends with someone, never mind if your attracted to that person.

When your headed towards 30, seeing a woman fall for the "bad boy, criminal type" gets a little old.

I understand she doesn't want to be judged, but it's easy for me to see that her bf and his group of friends really bring out the worst aspects of her personality.