New virgo girl

I recently posted about a Virgo ex and did say I would be open to dating a virgo again. Well as chance would have it I have the opportunity to date a very attractive virgo girl. To be honest I'm kind of surprised she is interested as she is almost 9 years younger than me and can afford to be very choosey about who she dates but it was her who approached me.
What I'm finding a little tricky to figure out though is how she seems to switch between appearing very very keen to appearing slightly elusive at times, is this normal virgo behaviour in the very early stages?

LOL

yes...virgo, the spazz

spemelior,

It is not "spazzing".

Yes, this type of behavior can be quite normal for the Virgo girl.

We can easily blow from hot to cold and underneath the "cool" believe it or not, we are quite moody creatures, but doesn't mean we love you/care about you any less. The elusiveness that you speak of is usually a direct result of what we could be feeling at the moment or something that's happening in our lives, or simply that we want some alone time (we're big on that).

This^^^goes for any type of relationship--romantic included. Even if you are a husband, we can be "keen" on you one day, and distant the next.

Being elusive/aloof/distant etc., at any given moment is just part of our nature. Sometimes there's a rhyme or reason, and sometimes there's not. I wouldn't take it too personally if I were you. If you are trying to find out if she really likes you or not, I wouldn't use this as a barometer (especially so early on in the relationship). Now if she was avoiding you altogether, that would be another story. Can you give more info?

And my "LOL" above was me poking a lil fun at you for coming back so soon. Nice to see you've already moved on. 🙂

He's married? Oh...

Lol I just realized how that may sound.

No, wrong poster.

He's being mixed up with a male Cancer poster who was here a few weeks ago inquiring about a Virgal.

@ VirgoVixxxen

I think some of the posts on my last thread here helped me move on from the previous relationship, the lack of answers was what I found so difficult to deal with then, scorps need answers lol, but I have definitely moved on now.

I think your post has pretty much answered my question regarding the new girl though. The elusiveness isn't really all that elusive, it's just a bit contrasting to how keen and intense she seems at other times. I think I may be noticing it more though because of my own insecurities mainly relating to being that bit older than her, I think I'm kind of wondering what the attraction is for her.

Back again? Lol. I think you should just go with the flow. Why do you always need to figure someone out? When people want to figure me out, I believe it's a tactic to try and manipulate me, not saying that's what you're doing, but shit. Just let things happen organically and stop trying to calculate everything.

Posted by AriJekt
Oh, woops he must think Im crazy lol. Thanks for clearing that up 😛

😉

Posted by speromelior
@ VirgoVixxxen

I think some of the posts on my last thread here helped me move on from the previous relationship, the lack of answers was what I found so difficult to deal with then, scorps need answers lol, but I have definitely moved on now.

I think your post has pretty much answered my question regarding the new girl though. The elusiveness isn't really all that elusive, it's just a bit contrasting to how keen and intense she seems at other times. I think I may be noticing it more though because of my own insecurities mainly relating to being that bit older than her, I think I'm kind of wondering what the attraction is for her.

More than likely your insecurities ARE creating a perception that's not the reality. Unless she's told you (?) straight up or has indicated in some way that she has a problem with the age difference, just relax and take it one day at a time. If you allow your insecurities to overcome you, you'll blow it.

Have you spent any one-on-one/quality time with this girl? If you are wondering what the attraction is, maybe this is something you can ask her once the two of you have moved into a more comfortable/familiar place in the relationship (I get the impression that it's just in the beginning stages?)

We normally don't waste our time (AT ALL) on anyone that we are not into, or considering pursuing a serious relationship with so unless you feel like she is a game player or that you are being jerked around, let it flow naturally.

Posted by RealTalk
Back again? Lol. I think you should just go with the flow. Why do you always need to figure someone out? When people want to figure me out, I believe it's a tactic to try and manipulate me, not saying that's what you're doing, but shit. Just let things happen organically and stop trying to calculate everything.

I'm a Scorpio, we're always trying to figure out people and situations, I do manage to go with the flow at times but it can be a fight against my nature lol.

@ VirgoVixxxen

It is just the beginning stages, we've had a couple of dates since I posted last week and talked on the phone a fair bit.
I now know she doesn't have an issue with the age gap too and in a way it may even be part of the attraction. She's more than a bit fed up with younger guys trying to hit on her with the sole intention of trying to get her into bed. She wants someone who will engage her mind and want her for who she is and not just how she looks. So far the conversation is really flowing well between us and she seems like a really nice girl. I can tell she is genuinely interested in me and I am in her so I am happy to go with the flow and see where, if anywhere, this goes. As my insecurities have more or less gone now I'm also fine
with the virgo quiet times lol.

Posted by speromelior
@ VirgoVixxxen

It is just the beginning stages, we've had a couple of dates since I posted last week and talked on the phone a fair bit.
I now know she doesn't have an issue with the age gap too and in a way it may even be part of the attraction. She's more than a bit fed up with younger guys trying to hit on her with the sole intention of trying to get her into bed. She wants someone who will engage her mind and want her for who she is and not just how she looks. So far the conversation is really flowing well between us and she seems like a really nice girl. I can tell she is genuinely interested in me and I am in her so I am happy to go with the flow and see where, if anywhere, this goes. As my insecurities have more or less gone now I'm also fine
with the virgo quiet times lol.

You guys are moving along pretty nicely. Cool.

Yeah, just relax. Scorps and Virgos are pretty much the same with the insecurities (romance-wise). There's a whole lot of it going on underneath but we both manage to hide it pretty well.