Party animals

It might be my leo placements, but I can be pretty wild when I'm in the right mood and with the right people (and with certain influences, lol).

But, I often think about how hard it is for me to go out and enjoy things unless I feel comfortable in the situation presented to me. For example, my Taurus friend wants me to come out to a party (not sure if it's big or small) tonight at a friend's place, specifically his friend. I would actually enjoy going because I like hanging out with him, but I'm completely on the fence about going. Why? I'm not comfortable going to parties where I know absolutely no one. Unless I had my own little entourage with me, I get a lot of anxiety going into these situations. I often joke that the only way I can do this is if I had some "encouragement." I find myself trying to overlook these anxieties and make myself go out and have fun, but I'm still pretty nervous when thinking about it. If I go, I know the only way I'd probably be okay is if I basically clung to my Taurus friend, but sometimes, I wish I had more confidence to just walk up to someone I don't know and strike up a conversation. Damn being such an introvert at times.

Anyone else have this issue?

Can you get someone you're comfortable with to tag along with you? If you could, would you be okay with going, then? Or is it a matter of just not really wanting to go?

Posted by CLCNY30
Can you get someone you're comfortable with to tag along with you? If you could, would you be okay with going, then? Or is it a matter of just not really wanting to go?

Well I legitimately wouldn't mind going because it'd be a nice distraction from papers and such, and I haven't seen this Taurus for a little and yesterday was his birthday (and I feel bad for usually turning him down when he asks me to hang out with him lol). I might ask my roommate if she feels up to going, but I'm already certain that she probably won't go, so I think I can just deal with having my Taurus friend as a crutch. I just don't know how many people are going to be there, which is what is really making me nervous. If it's a smaller thing, I'd be okay after relaxing a little, but if it's like big, then it might be a little harder for me. But, I still have a fair amount of time to make a decision. When I told my taurus friend why I'm not sure whether I want to go he was like, "I swear my friends are really nice people... they're not like me." He has a way with words, lol.

Lmfao @ "He has a way with words, lol."

Yeah, that Leo placement w/Virgo sun sounds like it could confuse the hec out of the bearer, lol. I have a Virgo friend like that, who I think was born a few weeks late, so she really should have been a Leo, she always tells me, and I swear to God, she is the most social Virgo I have ever met. This girl will invite anyone over, in, w.e., and she LOVES to party. Every night, even if she goes alone, she goes to the clubs. She's 43. She's not stopping anytime soon, lmfao.

Hmmmm...if it were me, I think I'd pass--I think I'd feel more comfortable going with a female friend, but then again I have no Leo in my chart 😢

I actually think I may be a cusper, depending on when the real cut off date is. I feel I have a fair amount of leo influence outside of my venus, but venus is also pretty prevalent in social affairs as well. If we're really getting to astrology, I also have Saturn in the fifth house, or capricorn in the fifth house, which means I have no fun lol. Truly, I'm often not going out because I make myself do work instead or something lol.

"The fifth house is the house of play and self-expression. Saturn's influences in this house compare in importance to those on the first house. The fifth house is all about spontaneity. Saturn seriously impedes spontaneity. You might be recognized as the "party pooper" or a bad date. Don't let that happen to you! Individuals with Saturn in the fifth house might find it difficult to "play" or do fun things. Saturnine guilt and responsibility might make you search for a "good" reason to have fun. All work and no play might stress you out to the point of neurosis. Recognize that you don't always need a cause to relax and enjoy life. Better still use this influence to your advantage. Get into an activity like raising money for a charity. That way you have a cause and the fund-raising events can be turned into fun occasions. While dating let your date lead you a little. If your date happens to have a fifth house Saturn then you have nothing to worry about. The two of you may hit it off discussing the ramifications of the ozone layer depletion on your first date. If your date does not have Saturn in the fifth then he or she might have other ideas about ways to have a good time!"

Anyway, in general I'm telling him I'm not coming out to these things even if I kind of want to, but for once, I feel like I should give it a shot even if I'm not exactly comfortable with the idea. Either I keep hiding from it or face it in little doses.

"I also have Saturn in the fifth house, or capricorn in the fifth house, which means I have no fun lol. Truly, I'm often not going out because I make myself do work instead or something lol."

The glass is half full, not half empty 😛

Saturn in the 5th can therefore also means you feel a responsibility for having fun, or you take having fun very seriously 🙂 as dumb as it may sound.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
"I also have Saturn in the fifth house, or capricorn in the fifth house, which means I have no fun lol. Truly, I'm often not going out because I make myself do work instead or something lol."

The glass is half full, not half empty 😛

Saturn in the 5th can therefore also means you feel a responsibility for having fun, or you take having fun very seriously 🙂 as dumb as it may sound.

Hahahaha this was actually helpful. When I do go out and have fun, I'm often the one who's like, "we need to do this or that" or I suggest things we should do. I don't like to have a half-assed time unless it leads to something in the end.

But when you do put it that way, it gives me something to work towards. 🙂

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Posted by Candeh15
It might be my leo placements, but I can be pretty wild when I'm in the right mood and with the right people (and with certain influences, lol).

But, I often think about how hard it is for me to go out and enjoy things unless I feel comfortable in the situation presented to me. For example, my Taurus friend wants me to come out to a party (not sure if it's big or small) tonight at a friend's place, specifically his friend. I would actually enjoy going because I like hanging out with him, but I'm completely on the fence about going. Why? I'm not comfortable going to parties where I know absolutely no one. Unless I had my own little entourage with me, I get a lot of anxiety going into these situations. I often joke that the only way I can do this is if I had some "encouragement." I find myself trying to overlook these anxieties and make myself go out and have fun, but I'm still pretty nervous when thinking about it. If I go, I know the only way I'd probably be okay is if I basically clung to my Taurus friend, but sometimes, I wish I had more confidence to just walk up to someone I don't know and strike up a conversation. Damn being such an introvert at times.

Anyone else have this issue?

Are we twins? No really, Candeh.
Even though I love talking to people I don't know. But it took me some time to get more comfortable with it.
Working in the Theatrescene really helped.

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I think we determined we're just about the same person by now lol.

To update, I did go to this party with my Taurus friend, and it didn't turn as badly as I had imagined. Funny enough, I knew a few of the people there or I knew them indirectly, but they were all really nice, and my Taurus friend made sure that I didn't feel too uncomfortable. We even played beer pong and dominated lol.

While I don't think this will always be the case for every random party I end up at, I'm striving to take the steps to get past these anxieties so that I can have some fun for once.

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Posted by Candeh15
It might be my leo placements, but I can be pretty wild when I'm in the right mood and with the right people (and with certain influences, lol).

But, I often think about how hard it is for me to go out and enjoy things unless I feel comfortable in the situation presented to me. For example, my Taurus friend wants me to come out to a party (not sure if it's big or small) tonight at a friend's place, specifically his friend. I would actually enjoy going because I like hanging out with him, but I'm completely on the fence about going. Why? I'm not comfortable going to parties where I know absolutely no one. Unless I had my own little entourage with me, I get a lot of anxiety going into these situations. I often joke that the only way I can do this is if I had some "encouragement." I find myself trying to overlook these anxieties and make myself go out and have fun, but I'm still pretty nervous when thinking about it. If I go, I know the only way I'd probably be okay is if I basically clung to my Taurus friend, but sometimes, I wish I had more confidence to just walk up to someone I don't know and strike up a conversation. Damn being such an introvert at times.

Anyone else have this issue?

yeah im the same way..

if i am only going to know 1 or 2 people, chances are i wont show up...

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Yeah, especially if the party is huge...

luckily this one was just like 6 or 7 people.