Please answer all Virgo men!

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I have two Virgo exes who were similar. A guy I dated back in high school, who would tell our friends how cold and mean I was. Behind closed doors he was physically abusive. I broke up with him because of the abuse, but I was very young and quiet about it. Over 10 years later I ran into his sister who gave me death stares. That's a long time to hold a grudge, so no clue what he said.

My recent ex used to tell me how manipulative and crazy her ex wife was and that she never wanted to marry her in the first place. And that she ended the marriage because of how toxic her wife was, yet her ex-wife is her best friend now. I recently found out that she actually ended the marriage over another woman that she had a crush on / affair with. And it seems like there may have been someone else involved in her breaking up with me too. I don't know what she says about me, but if the things she says to me are any indicator...

My Virgo bestie has done this after breakups as well. But to be fair, I don't think any of them would ever talk smack about friends or just for the sake of it. I can say that all three hate the idea of hurting people and they will go to great lengths to justify doing so. So in a way it's self-preservation.
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I have two Virgo exes who were similar. A guy I dated back in high school, who would tell our friends how cold and mean I was. Behind closed doors he was physically abusive. I broke up with him because of the abuse, but I was very young and quiet about it. Over 10 years later I ran into his sister who gave me death stares. That's a long time to hold a grudge, so no clue what he said.

My recent ex used to tell me how manipulative and crazy her ex wife was and that she never wanted to marry her in the first place. And that she ended the marriage because of hot toxic her wife was. I recently found out that she actually ended the marriage over another woman that she had a crush on / affair with. And it seems like there may have been someone else involved in her breaking up with me too. I don't know what she says about me, but if the things she says to me are any indicator...

My Virgo bestie has done this after breakups as well. But to be fair, I don't think any of them would ever talk smack about friends or just for the sake of it. I can say that all three hate the idea of hurting people and they will go to great lengths to justify doing so. So in a way it's self-preservation.
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Well, the only thing I can say is that he kind of does that to everyone, I always thought it was him needing to vent frustration. At the same time we were friends, we were confidants to each other, resigned to friendship. He claimed my mom stoked the fire which feels pretty crummy too. I believe he is that critical of himself and others around him, bitter with life. In as much that I don't think he means to hurt people, I would rater see him say positive things too. I thought I was the closest to him. That's why it hurts. I love him as a person, would like to seem happier.
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Hi there, I have been around Virgo men almost all my life, raised with 1, dated 2. I generally feel like I understand Virgos well but an ex boyfriend has me perplexed. Broke up 1 1/2 yrs ago, reconnected strictly as friends. He said some nasty things about me to my family, and makes no qualms explaining that's his nature, he trash talks everyone. I am very loyal to friends and those I care about and always defend them. I felt we were each others confidants, I don't get it, why so disloyal Virgo, can anyone give me perspective? In general I don't see this trait in Virgo men, does he feel superior to me, does he give a damn, he initiated friendship, but why?
Virgo are like that.

The question you should be asking yourself is why on earth would you want to entertain him now. He may have a score to settle especially if you broke up with him. A Virgo moon is one of the ugliest moons I know.

Leave trash where it belongs in the rubbish bin.
I don't believe in leaving a person behind. That's the easiest thing any person to do. People cause them probs, then one leaves. Another cause problems, leave again.

So I don't get your view. I'm more curious to find out the reasons behind that and transform the negatives into positives.
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I never Trash talked any of my exes because wtf? Even when things end badly i may say things ended badly so i dont want to see that person again but not develop. I tend to have low self esteem after a break up so i blame myself for not being good enough. I have a cordial relationship with all my exes and admire them for who they are today, except for two with who things ended badly and i burned bridges so no clue who they are today. I don't see the pattern therefore