Please tell me if I am being crazy!

I am technically a Leo, but truly feel I am more Cancer, as I am born on the cusp, and have so many of the Cancer traits.
I have met a Virgo through work, who lives a distance away from me, and I am irrisistably drawn to him.
Initially he was very outgoing (to the point that it embarrassed me) and I was a little overwhelmed. I didn't know Virgo males, and didn't realize what they are like in character, somewhat shy etc.

We share many many things in common, including sense of humor, and life history. I have read a great deal about Virgo men, to be able to understand him, and he is so true to the traits, and now, very shy and quiet, a man of few words.
But I don't mind that. There is a strength in his quietness.

He calls me - not frequently - but fairly regularily, and we email, right now. Due to my present circumstances, the distance is OK, and I am not in a hurry.

BUT am I fooling myself? Is this a dis-interested man who is just being nice?

He will send me books, and DVD's about movies we are discussing etc. He has called me 'kindred spirit' and his 'alter ego' early on in the first weeks.

Give it to me straight. Am I just reading too much into this, should I let go (if I can).
Can someone give me some insight into this?

I appreciate that insight. That is kind of how I am proceeding.
From what I have read, Virgo men need a fair bit of alone time. This doesn't bother me, but I also don't want to be a fool and assume there is an interest, when he is just being polite.

Here's a question. If a virgo male wasn't at all interested, being the quiet types they are, would they even put forth the effort to communicate?
thanks
I think he has an incredible mind.