scorpio woman confused about my virgo man

I hope someone can give me some insight, here's the thing I've been with my virgoman for seven years hes been telling me for five years that we wanted us to move in together, but now i have my own place he's acting like he scared to take that next step he's at my place alot we get along very well still til this day the only time we have a problem is when i think he's not spending enough time with me....so i told him i will have to end our relationship he says that's not what he wants he loves me and everything about me it's just not good timing right now........so im confused he loves everything about me but he's not ready like he was claiming to be......SMH!

Maybe you should try some more equal ground?

You're not asking him to move into "your" place are you? This sort of thing is hard on a Virgo, and I know this from experience. We are willing to live with other people, but it really only works if the place mentioned is not already inhabited by someone else. I'm sure as a Scorpio, you like dominating your own world/space. Which is fine, but we do too. Of course we can share a little bit more freely than others, but I would suggest making the space somewhere you BOTH can have domain. I think it would make him a little less nervous.

Clearly, you have absolutely nothing to worry about as far as him still loving you. He told you. So, yes he does.

If it's not the space/equal footing issue. I'm willing to bet something is going on in his inner world that he doesn't want to "burden" you with. Probably doesn't even have to do with you. Is he doing everything in his professional world that he wants to? Guys in general are often weird about relationships when they haven't lived up to their "ideal" professional life scenario.

^ Decan....isn't that what I said with a sassy male spin on it? :p

Posted by scorpio75


I've been with my virgoman for seven years hes been telling me for five years that we wanted us to move in together

... now i have my own place

Question(s): did you not want to live with him? because he's been asking for 5 years.

If the answer is 'yes' then why did you get your own place and not one together?

I don't understand your logic when you say he's scard to take that next step, when he's been talking about it for 5 years.


Something is very wrong with this picture. Your tongue says one thing, your actions say another.




Can you clarify?

Posted by scorpio75

.... the only time we have a problem is when i think he's not spending enough time with me....so i told him i will have to end our relationship ...

I doubt it's a far reach, due to you being a Scorpio, which generally means you'd have the propensity to manipulate your way into what you want ... that you giving him an ultimatum like that is probably the relationship's demise. It won't be now, because he is still reacting, and when people react, thier thoughts aren't in order. But once he sorts it out, the relationship will probably take a wrong turn for you = right turn for him.

The Trust Factor is paramount with these men, and though your aim was to manuever him into your arms, the very act in itself is likely now screaming in his head ... telling him you just played on his feelings in an attempt to get your way, rather than do this the honest way, which would have been to discuss your concerns before taking action in which he could reason was done against him.


They are simple men. They aren't going to be responsive (in a good way) to complicated emotions, and being a Scorpio woman, you are going to have to work really fucking hard at staving off your natural inclinations to twist his feelings to suit you.

Well yes i did want him to move in with me, it just when he was asking i wasnt ready....so now he's not ready.....he called me yesterday and chewed me out for six minutes, first of all i have HUGE trust issues stemming from my relationships before him he with him not being ready after seven years makes me feel like im not the one for jim although he says that's not the case he's still attracted to me in every way, but yet in still he says that right now is just what it has to be, so mow he's mad at me because he says he can't keep trying to convince me that he dont wanna anyone but me he says im stressing him out so i csn go drive my self crazy.....it's hard for me because n my mind i see us as going back to square one.....i just want yo move forward i need to feel comfortable.

Yes im back, here's the thing now my virgo man of seven years tells me he's leaving town witch was lasy Sunday his birthday so on monday my son tells me he sees my virgo boyfriend so here's why im mad and ending our relationship every time he tells me he's leaving AND DON'T he lets me know with all that's been going on with us i feel like i just can't trust this guy he was calling everyday after i told him it was over my home ph and cell but i wouldn't answer and i blocked his number on my cell ph, i just been thinking why did he not tell me he was still here....smh! This guy reall confuses me he always says how much he loves me how pretty i am how he loves everything about me but im crazy.....and still deceive me?

Posted by R24
This observation is from a scorpio woman who was married to a virgo.
Virgos like to feel secure. Esp about their home. They need to control that. I doubt he will ever want to move in with you. Scorpios' emotional reactions are somewhat fascinating to virgos, but too volatile for them to want to build a home together on that foundation. Its too seismic for their taste. What if you get mad about something and kick him out? Virgos are analytic and they worry--a lot. They also don't like risks. He is probably concerned about this possibility. Also, it was probably a blow to his ego when you got your own place instead of moving in with him. A virgo man's ego is every bit as big as any leo man's but they are just quieter about showing it.

*ITA. Virgo moved in with me and he has bought almost all new furniture. He has asked me what I like and I said anything you choose is fine with me because it is, and we have similiar taste. I can tell he loves that about me.

worry..yep. he said we cant set our wedding date til he finishes getting his financial affairs in order. Its his need to provide. As a Cap and knowing what those financials are, I get it and agree.

virgo and leo ego..absolutely.