Sex, relationship

Hello my lovely virgo friends!

Just trying to understand a virgal friend of mine! Won't bore you with the story but basically at one stage we were very close and considered the idea of a relationship. I told her I wasn't wired up in a way unless there's exclusivity and so nothing ever happened as a result of that because she wanted more of a FWB dynamic.

Fast forward a year, I get a message from her randomly saying "You know I've always loved you, stupid cunt" (she loves that word). I can't help but think that she still had some feelings and felt the need to say something now that she knows I'm with someone.

So I guess there's two parts just for my curiosity. What do you think of physical intimacy? Is it something you need proven to work before you take that next step? Second part: have you personally witheld your feelings for a particular reason?

And to satisfy the third but you don't have to: What's your moon/merc/venus/mars.

scorp/libra/leo/aries

Oh geez. It's hard to tell with a virgo female. Me personally, I wouldn't go out of my way to message a guy friend I almost dated unless I actually still had feelings for him. If I like someone, I know from that first instance of meeting them. It's been quite a challenge for me to form a liking/relationship towards a guy friend after being friends for such a long period of time. There's a reason why he's been in the friend zone for that long. I don't think she's messaging you all of a sudden just because you have a girlfriend. But I would take her with a grain of salt. She could be feeling lonely, and misses your warmth to make her feel of worth. It's hard to tell though since you've only provided your situation on the surface.

Have you replied to her message yet? If not, I could help you concoct a swanky array of words.

Sun in Virgo
Moon in Gemini
Mercury in Libra
Venus in Scorpio
Mars in Libra

Posted by MellyMel
Hmm... I will have to ponder this and come back to it..

Also, I notice you're an Aqua. Did you recently have a birthday? Could that have something to do with the reaching out on her end?

I've had a similar situation to the one you described, only it was backwards. Me, as the Virgo was the one to veto the FWB, while the Aqua was the one trying to push the issue..

Hmm I never thought of that but I think given the timing, I'm 23 Jan, seems a bit too far away to be wishing someone a belated birthday and we do keep in regular contact.

It's so strange when I hear stories of other Aquas pushing for FWB! I like to entertain the idea but truth be told I would probably chicken out at the last moment lol.

Posted by antonarnia
It's hard to tell though since you've only provided your situation on the surface.

Have you replied to her message yet? If not, I could help you concoct a swanky array of words.

Hmm well I wanted to leave it out partly due to the fact I'll see her in a negative light if I were to believe it. She was there when I met the new girl. I know she's always been sarcastically critical but it went into overdrive. That's when I confronted her about this and she assured me she was just worried.

Definitely haven't replied to her yet, I honestly don't know how but I think our friendship status might have to be put on hold.

Posted by VirgoFlirt

It's your moon|venus|mars(fishies)...She knows what works on pisces traited people also(you). She want stop till she gets what she wants either. It's like a piranha waiting to unleash... She will wait years if she has to 😛

Haha I really wish that's not the case. There are times before where I wish I wasn't so into wanting a real connection but regardless of all the fishiness I have, I did try it out as an experiment! Failed miserably!

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
I can't speak for any of my fellow Virgos but I've never really seen physical and emotional (relationship type fuzzy feelings) intimacy as being mutually exclusive. I've known people with whom a relationship developed from a physical connection and vice versa, and I've also come across a few where our connectivity was purely carnal in nature. It all comes down to the individual experience really.

There have been times when I've withheld personal feelings to avoid conflict. Such as developing an attachment to someone new while already being committed to another because my sense of loyalty reaches masochistic heights and I would never allow myself to stray. Or when I know a relationship with a particular person would be impractical and never succeed in the long term. And also on a few occasions when romantic emotions arose for a close friend whose friendship was too valuable to me to jeopardize.

Hey MoodyVulcan *waves* 😄

The bolded part made me think about what she said once. Something to the effect of she can see relationships end before they even start. I always challenge her on that view though with really thoughtless statements like "What if it's true love and you were too blind to see it", drives her up the walls.

Hmmm... in retrospect I can sort of piece it together but might be to selfish to think she was implying me.