The Earth Signs Capricorn, Virgo and Taurus....

I posted this in the Virgo forum because it was inspired by a post by 25thDecan earlier this week on another topic.

He states : "Don't mention what you don't like as if it's light....so he can make moves. When he does make them, let him make them. Don't try and guide this man into your ideal of how he should court. When you give a condition to something like this, you also take away the beauty of natural progression.."

Wow, this was a revelation to me as a fire sign...I tend to try and move a new relationship to MY speed. I don't always utilize patience which is a big no no to earth sign men. Do you earth signs realize this as coming from a more impatient sign or does moving too fast ruin it for you altogether?

Again 25th , I just have to say I fell in love with your words...

Wow, those WERE beautiful words. Well done, 25th!

I've recently gotten myself in an addictive (bad?) habit of turning the television off when I get home, and snuggling up with a good romance novel, when I'm not bringing work home or at class. I say it's possibly bad because they've become my new "fix", and I find myself wanting to rush home to find out what happens next. It's amazing to me that even though I know the guy gets the girl in the end, I *still* want to read how. I've gone through like 6 books this past month (Amazon.com LOVES me, lmfao--I'm ordering another 6 on Fri.) and I thought I'd have gotten tired of them by now...but no! They're still so romantically predictable yet random that I find myself drawn to them over some good ole fashioned Family Guy/South Park/Futurama...which disturbs me, cuz mama loves her adult cartoons...

Bottomline is as impatient as I may be when it comes to love and relationships...I would totally be turned off by something that happened too quickly. The courting stage, the wine & dine stage, the wooing, the tentative kisses and hand holding...I'd take those over the know-you-for-only-3-hours-rough-and-tumble-fu.ck ANYDAY. I want to build to something, I want to even take breaks in between just to see if I crave you when you're gone. I want to miss you, I want to see if you invade my thoughts at work/school. I want to wear a small, yet knowing smile when I recall a conversation we had, or a glance you gave my way...in short, I want the type of romances I read about--long, drawn out, and strong.

I look at it this way--if we work out, I have the rest of my life to toss in some "quickies" here and there, lmfao. For now, let's take it slow, and kill the accusation that young people don't know what love is anymore.

Speed is an indication of somebody wanting to fulfill his or her own needs.

Mutuality runs at its own pace bringing separate entities into a bond that does not skip a beat but on enhances and strengthens the tempo of their song together. The song may remain the same or change, but the beat always stays on pace.

Once the beat is unbalanced, a new one takes over.

@CLCNY30 "when I get home, and snuggling up with a good romance novel, when I'm not bringing work home or at class. I say it's possibly bad because they've become my new "fix", and I find myself wanting to rush home to find out what happens next."

Yes! That is it for me too, ROMANCE, a lot of men forget that. Although my knight is likely to be riding up on a donkey, not a white horse...tee hee

@25thDecan: You are so right in many ways. I do not want every encounter to be an outing. I think my issue with the Taurus man (player), was that he NEVER wanted an outing. Never had time and always complained about having no money. How romantic is that? lol...Now my new guy (Virgo) wants to do outings with me, a walk on the beach last Sat night. A quiet afternoon at the park by the marina watching the boats go by. Now that is romance to me! We also spent a Friday night together watching movies at his place. I think its letting him take HIS way (like you stated b4) with the courting, and not rushing things. I am slowly thinking about him more and more even though he is different than the man I would've thought I would want..does that make sense?

@sorti: "Speed is an indication of somebody wanting to fulfill his or her own needs"

Yes! you are so right with that statement...since I am so new to dating again, it took me time to see that. I am still in a learning process I guess. The "perfect" love is what we make it, not like in books and movies.