Virgo girl needs time alone

I've meet a virgo girl from work almost 10months ago. She's the one who made the first approches on me and the feelings were growing towards each other very quickly. The problem was she was living with another man for the last 4 years but had no feelings for him for the last 2 years. He sheated on her and she could never forgive him for that. I'm not the type of guy to go after a women that is with another guy but she made the approches first on me and I couldn't resist and eventually fell deeply in love with her. She came to visit me about 2 months ago at my place. She overstayed her visit and when she went back to her place she was locked out so she came back and stayed with me. It wasn't easy for us both because of her situation but still had some good times together. She decided to get an appartment which I was hesitent at first but realised it was the right thing to do. She always said nothing would change between us and that I could see her anytime and she would come see me also. Just before she moved in her appartment I sensed something was wrong and asked her what was it. She started to cry and said she didn't want to hurt my feelings. She then proceeded to tell me she needed some time alone and resolve her past feelings then she could be trully mine. She says I'm a great man and her heart belongs to me. I am greatfull for what she said and my heart belongs to her also. I guess I'm just afraid she won't come back to me. I know it's been only 2 days now since she left but I haven't herd from her yet. I'm having a hard time coping.

Scop42;

I'm a Virgo woman and I often need time to myself ESPECIALLY after ending a relationship. If your friend has a lot of Virgo qualities, she's probably feeling some pain over the end of the previous relationship and how she started the relationship with you. I'm guessing she may not be feeling very proud of herself and needs time to sort herself out. If she genuinely cares for you then she will get back in touch with you once her feelings have calmed down a bit.

I would suggest just trying to be a little patient and giving her the space she requested. I always appreciate when a person can not only spend time with me, but also allow me to spend some time for myself. That seems to be hard for a lot of men to do.

Hang in there. I hope things work out for you both.

Thanks for your comment and suggestion. Even though it's hard not to call her I'll wait it out. I'm hoping for the best outcome.

"Withthin every relationship, there are moments of non-relationship. Smart couples use these moments to take time alone to reconnect with self and to recharge. They don't end their relationship when the energy gets low. They don't have an affair. They give each other room to breathe. It might be for an hour or two, for a day or two...perhaps even for a month or two. Each person must find ways back into Self and that means disentangling from other. Each person must find time to ask the question "Who am I now?" The answer to this question changes from time to time. That is why we must not forget to ask the question. Relationship is both a journey into intimacy with another and a journey into intimacy with Self. We forget that. We think it's all about other, but that is not true. Indeed, if our journey into another's heart does not take us into your own, then our progress on the path is interrupted. We need time to internalize. We need time to breathe and be alone. It is part of the cycle. We move together and apart. If we do not move apart, we cannot come back together. You can't have a relationship with all highs and no lows. You can't have a relationship that is all together. Every relationship must fall apart, not just once but many times. That is how it grows, That is how new intimacy is achieved.

Our models of relationship don't allow for his kind of interpersonal transformation within the context of a committed relationship. In our models, people either stay together in a frozen state, or they remain distant and uncommitted. People who stay together "no matter what" stop growing. They cannot even look at each other any more. Life energy leaves the relationship. It cannot abide the limiting patterns and structures.

People who fear intimacy take a rocketship out of the relationship at the first sign of trouble. They move from lover to lover, never breaking through to the source of love, in themselves or in the other person. Some relationships have no staying power. Others have no transforming power. Real relationships require both."

Taken from DANCING WITH THE BELOVED by Paul Ferrini

I posted the above hoping that it may provide some understanding as to why we need that time alone.

Hope it helps~

Thank you so much for the insite. She called and we got together to talk. We were both very happy to see each other again. Everything is going very well between us but she still has issues to resolve and start the healing process. I love her deeply and hoping for a long and prosperous relationship.

SHE CRIED? A VIRGO CRIED?

OMG, THIS IS ONE FOR THE RECORD BOOKS!

Thanks again for all your comments and suggestions. It really helps to see all the different perspectives from people. I'm understanding more clearly now and have no doubts or second thoughts about her at all. I'm not going to give up so easily at this point.