Virgo guy/Taurus girl

Hey so I came across this site because I was reading another forum about this and then got hooked. Anyways, I'm a 19 y/o virgo guy and I have this odd relationship with a taurus girl. I met her my freshman year and instantly was attracted to her in every way. Then junior year came along and we started texting (went to different high schools, same town) all day every day and that turned to flirting and hanging out with mutual friends but I never initiated much, I think me being a virgo that's pretty self explanatory..anyways we both seemed to keep each other at a distance and eventually I ran I can't explain why and ended up being with another girl for two years, a leo..it was horrible. My feelings for her never changed and I think its safe to say that since freshman year not a day has gone by where she hasnt at least crossed my mind. She's back in my life now but she's got a cancer boyfriend that shes been with almost 2 years I think. Well it's been about 3 months. It started out talking everyday, then hanging out, then kissing, and now we are at a point where its basically a relationship but she wont break up with cancer but gets angry at me for wanting to walk away. I don't know what to do because I want her so bad and I can't figure her or feelings or thoughts out.

Posted by CluelessCancer
*chuckles* you'll get your chance dude,just wait till the Cancer guy finds out.🙂

he'll dump her cold, she's probably cheating on him with you, cause he's got a side piece and she's trying to compensate.

ooh sigh, what web we weave. After she gets with you finally, you two will be in a relationship, the whole time she'll be thinking about the Cancer guy and how he eats her out for hours and the little kisses and he's so warm and affectionate..he'll toy with her...half in ..half out..while he's with some new chick

Sigh, you can't make this sheet up.

You have a thing against virgos don't ya?

You are definitely grumpy thats for sure but thank you for your input. I guess it's a lot deeper than how I put it cause words can't really explain but after thinking a lot about it youre both right on one thing, she's still with him so no matter what she says to me or how she puts it the fact remains the same.

Honestly I don't know shit about the other guy. I know what he looks like but thats it. My guess is she's having her cake and eating it too because I'm allowing it to happen.

Okay I'm in the mood too elaborate and still in this situation so here it goes. When we were first involved, junior year of high school, we were never physical but we talked all the time and loved each other. Like a really deep unexplainable head over heels for each other kinda thing but at the same time, like I said, distanced ourselves and I fucked up and chose this Leo chick over her and stopped talking to her all together. To her and anyone else it would have seemed like I never cared about her but I thought about her all the time and wished that we would have worked but she scared me and the Leo girl was easy. Throughout the two years I was with Leo I would text her whenever I got the chance and the spark was still there but again I got nothing more out of it and eventually she got a boyfriend. I broke up with Leo, one because I wasn't happy with her but two because I noticed Taurus was coming back into life more than before. We started texting 24/7 and hanging out with friends and then it was my birthday and I had her and some friends over and we drank and she got extremely drunk, broke down crying telling me how much I hurt her and broke her heart then we both blacked out then she went missing and I searched for hours trying to find her and finally found her in a tree and brought her back to my house and I laid down a blanket and pillows on the floor and she sat on the couch for a bit and I told her I was gonna go lay down and soon after she came behind me and laid next to me and we ended up kissing for the first time and after that is when things started getting really messy and now we are here, she's been cheating on Cancer with me and I've been begging her to just break up with him already if she wants me but its always "It's not that easy!" or something along those lines. Now I'm the point where I've told her I can't be around her anymore because I have zero will power when it comes to her and that she has to break up with him she wants me around. Not those exact words but anyway...there's the details..what's going on with her? Where's her head because I can't figure her out.

She's afraid you will hurt her again. She doesn't trust you to give up what she has.

She doesn't trust you.

Posted by Taurusgirl3
She's afraid you will hurt her again. She doesn't trust you to give up what she has.

Lol +1

Posted by Taurusgirl3
She's afraid you will hurt her again. She doesn't trust you to give up what she has.

I can understand that, honestly. What I can't understand is why she's keeping me around and doing and saying all these things if she isn't gonna trust me and "give up what she has". It's extremely frustrating and this was the sort of thing that made me walk away before only not nearly as serious as it is now.

Shes gotten herself into a very bad situation. She can't hurt the one she is with because hes done nothing to deserve it. She cant leave you because she likes you. She doesnt want to lose you and she doesnt want to be rejected by you again so shes stringing you along. She can't fully commit to you because she will always have that hurt from the previous time. As soon as you do something to bring that pain back again she will withdraw from you until she can't take it and leave completely. Im sure it will be or already is a lot of push and pull between you too. Shes always going to hold that previous pain over your head. Shes waiting for you to mess it up so she can prove to herself that she was right and knew to trust her instints. Im sure she is watching you very closely right now.

If you don't like the situation you're in you have the power to leave it. You're giving her to much control over you. You're allowing her use you. Walk away. There are so many other women out there that are single that you could have a connection with. Why wait for what if or when. Live your life. You need to ask yourself, what you are getting out of this? Is this bringing you happiness?

Best of luck.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Cut the strings, she has a boyfriend, that's just common sense?

Oh duh what was I thinkin