What should I do? Capricorn dilemma with Virgo

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Hi, Cap here.

I met this Virgo who also went to college with me (he's two years older than me.) And when we met, the connection was great which he admitted that he likes me and wants to get to know me and also adds in that "he knows what he wants". Despite the amount of hurt I've went through in the past, no matter how many times I tried to push this Virgo away, he still wants me, so I decided to give this Virgo a chance. After days of seeing each other...and yes intercourse was involved (sue me), everything was going fine...until THE TALK. Virgo and I follow each other on Twitter so when I was going on a rant about something that happened in the past, he thought it was about him. When we had the talk, I told him about the patterns of the past guys I've encountered of what they did to me....hot on me then went cold without a reason. Virgo's case of course he's finishing college and working two jobs so he has a lot of stuff to do .. understandable... I was in college too until I withdrew. Everything went fine until he asked me "What do you want from me, how do you feel about me?"

I utterly hate this question because to me, telling someone how I feel is very hard to do..I rather let my actions show you rather than telling you. I managed to answer him "I like you and I want to get to know you to see if it could lead into a relationship."

NOTE: The word "if". I said "if" for a reason...I'm not jumping into the gun too fast now.

Virgo, however, likes me and wants to get to know me but isn't ready in a relationship...buzzkilled. He also added for us to talk to other people and didn't want me to give all of my attention to him. And also added that "it's a competition to win his heart". Why should I compete with your heart when you should compete for mine? Turn-off for me.

Shortly after, I knew things wouldn't wind up well for me and Virgo. And the day he cut me off proved my point.

Virgo cut me off because 1. "It's a good idea for us to not talk because ever since you mentioned the word "relationship" everything changed" This baffled me because he made it seem like I already wanted a relationship with me when everything between us was brief, calm down Virgo.

2. "I was broken and wanted me to heal"...but my POV is you knew...and yet you still ride the coattails.

3. "Trust me, it's better to not talk anymore because I know what I am capable of and I don't want to hurt you and don't want to be guilty in destroying you" This stood out to me which confused me.

This isn't the first Virgo I've met so I am familiar to what you guys do but I just need you guys (VIRGOS) input and should this all be dust in the wind and I should just go on with my day? Although this was brief, for some reason he's been on my mind.
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I'm laughing at number 3.

SMH.

Oh trust me, it's the most comical thing I've read during that period.
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Go cold. If he approaches, be super sweet, but make sure he sees you having the time of your life. Date someone 10x hotter and better, amd better yourself even more. You know what to do Cappy, you don't need to hear it from me.

I'm still laughing at number 3. This weirgo, smh. He just don't know.
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I'm laughing at number 3.

SMH.

Oh trust me, it's the most comical thing I've read during that period.
Go cold. If he approaches, be super sweet, but make sure he sees you having the time of your life. Date someone 10x hotter and better, amd better yourself even more. You know what to do Cappy, you don't need to hear it from me.

I'm still laughing at number 3. This weirgo, smh. He just don't know.
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Thank you my love, it's like I know what to do but it's like it hurts to still have these type of men...or shall I say boys come in my way when I don't want to be bothered at all.
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I'm laughing at number 3.

SMH.

Oh trust me, it's the most comical thing I've read during that period.
Go cold. If he approaches, be super sweet, but make sure he sees you having the time of your life. Date someone 10x hotter and better, amd better yourself even more. You know what to do Cappy, you don't need to hear it from me.

I'm still laughing at number 3. This weirgo, smh. He just don't know.

Thank you my love, it's like I know what to do but it's like it hurts to still have these type of men...or shall I say boys come in my way when I don't want to be bothered at all.
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Your age group, in college...it's considered normal. Probably only 10% of those guys are consciously looking for something serious at this point in their life. As hard as it may be, try not to sleep with them so soon, and if you don't want to be bothered, just ignore them. I was the ice queen in college 😄

Guys would say I was an enigma.
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jerseycapricorn
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I'm laughing at number 3.

SMH.

Oh trust me, it's the most comical thing I've read during that period.
Go cold. If he approaches, be super sweet, but make sure he sees you having the time of your life. Date someone 10x hotter and better, amd better yourself even more. You know what to do Cappy, you don't need to hear it from me.

I'm still laughing at number 3. This weirgo, smh. He just don't know.

Thank you my love, it's like I know what to do but it's like it hurts to still have these type of men...or shall I say boys come in my way when I don't want to be bothered at all.
Your age group, in college...it's considered normal. Probably only 10% of those guys are consciously looking for something serious at this point in their life. As hard as it may be, try not to sleep with them so soon, and if you don't want to be bothered, just ignore them. I was the ice queen in college 😄

Guys would say I was an enigma.
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Thank you Sensei! Will do !
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I'm laughing at number 3.

SMH.

Oh trust me, it's the most comical thing I've read during that period.
Go cold. If he approaches, be super sweet, but make sure he sees you having the time of your life. Date someone 10x hotter and better, amd better yourself even more. You know what to do Cappy, you don't need to hear it from me.

I'm still laughing at number 3. This weirgo, smh. He just don't know.
.....But all the while crying on the inside? evol ay
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I've never cried over a virgo, so don't get your Dik too hard there.
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Hi, Cap here. Although this was brief, for some reason he's been on my mind.
it's killing you? see thread that was posted by the aqua girl about her cap friend.
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What's killing her is the audacity of this virgo drama queen.

"Competition for me" bs... lol. It's only bcuz he didn't feel secure that she liked him. Probably used to other women flailing over him and she didn't.

She'll be over it in no time. Just the whole situation irked her.
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Hi, Cap here. Although this was brief, for some reason he's been on my mind.
it's killing you? see thread that was posted by the aqua girl about her cap friend.
What's killing her is the audacity of this virgo drama queen.

"Competition for me" bs... lol. It's only bcuz he didn't feel secure that she liked him. Probably used to other women flailing over him and she didn't.

She'll be over it in no time. Just the whole situation irked her.
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BINGO !