My last job... IT WAS HORRIBLE!

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I worked my first real job after college in corporate America for 5 and half years before I was let go. It wasn't my dream job but it paid the bills. I felt like no matter how hard I worked I was looked over for "real positions". I worked as an analyst but it depends on what department you're in to define how important your job is. My job was bearable. For the first 2 years I did grunt work and received a promotion (small promotion) soon after I changed departments only to discover that the person who hired me never intended to promote me once I got to the group. He wanted me to pick up the slack. I worked there for two years until I found another position in the company. This new boss had a very lofty and respected position and I had an acquaintance that worked in his group. This was the beginning of the end. It turns out that I was hired to pick up the slack of the acquaintance. I was the youngest of the group by twenty years. My boss and acquaintance were never around. The dept consisted of 5 people not including my boss. They left me in the hands of an incompetent manager in training. This manager could not answer my questions and wasn't any help. When I went around him to ask the boss questions he would get angry because it would make him look bad. I was subjected to harassment by coworkers (2 men) who worked on my floor. They would go through my desk, mess with my personal items. I suspect they did that as a result of my manager. He made it a point to humiiiate me in front of other coworkers. He would yell as me in front of the office. one time during a snow storm, he made everyone work from home but directed me to come work in the office. This of course happened after I reported him to HR. He intensified his campaign to get rid of me. I was eventually fired based on a technicality. It bothers me because I was not able to stand up for myself they way I should have.
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You have to tread carefully with a bullying boss if you need to keep your job until you find another.

Have I already mentioned you will need to find another job? If the resident bully is the boss you are already on the back foot. The boss has legitimate power over you and your role and can therefore directly influence your success or failure. Not good if you have a bullying boss and you intend to stand up for yourself.




I used to work as a trainer on a programme geared at bringing about change in managers who were either too aggressive or not assertive enough. These kinds of changes take time, effort and commitment. They involve changing beliefs as well as behaviour.

Unless your manager is on a program aimed at bringing about change in this particular behaviour, chances are slim that they will spontaneously improve.

Bullying Bosses Usually Get Results At Work

Even though their staff casualties are high, a bullying boss often gets the results they want by means of their intimidating approach. This means they have little incentive to change. Pain can encourage change, but unless your boss is experiencing a whole lot of discomfort as a result of his/her bullying, don't get your hopes up. If the company likes the results a bullying boss gets, they might not be too interested in seeing them change either. And they might not like to hear your complaints.
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I've been in situations where bullying bosses are tolerated by management because of the financial success they achieve. Don't waste your time. Make an assessment of the situation, but plan to move on.

Can't leave straight away? Have a huge mortgage and two kids in school?

Follow these steps:

If you work for a governmental organization or large firm with clear grievance procedures, follow these.

If you work for a small organization you are likely to find that these policies, even when in place, are not adhered to with equal commitment. The tips below might help.

Decide On Your Limits and Stick to Them

If the bullying is about getting you to work extra hours without pay - decide what is fair in the situation and the next time you are asked, stick to your decision.

I have found it is always useful to be reasonable and 'give' as well as take. Managers, even bullying bosses, are more willing to accept a polite refusal together with a reasonable explanation, if they know you usually pitch in when required.

Assertiveness and courage are required here. And it h
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Welcome to the corporate world, hun. It's a nasty dog-eat-dog environment most places you'll go. Take what you've experienced and try to avoid those kind of workplaces, if at all possible. Not to mention, it was your first real job. Good for you for sticking it out for so long. Your tenacity will be a positive on your resume next go around.

You'll find the perfect fit, just be patient and research the companies you apply for in the future. Ask as many questions as you can. You need to interview them as thoroughly as they interview you. And see if you can find history on the work environment. There are tons of websites now that have that kind of information to help you make an informed decision.

Thanks Caliber. Working corporate has definitely left me disenchanted. It's more about how well you smooze than how hard you work. I kind of wished I finished started and finished grad school while I was there. Anywho... corporate isn't for me. Maybe this is my wake up call to a career change.