2nd Question of the Day for AQUARIANS

This is a discussion board & I am very interested in various responses from you guys. I understand opinions are opinions but I did not join this board to argue or respond to negative responses. When I ask questions (for discussion purposes), I just want the ANSWERS, not negative comments (that are irrelevant to the question) or ignorant remarks. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO ANSWER THE QUESTION, THAT'S FINE, BUT KEEP IT MOVING and act like the adults we're ALL supposed to be. Alot of people click on my posts because they are interested in seeing the thoughts discussed regarding the question, NOT to see pointless arguements from other childish members. If you feel like my posts are useless to you, then the solution is SIMPLE: Don't click on them! But if you do, I'd appreciate the feedback. With that being said, here is the question of the Day for Aquarians:

QUESTION OF THE DAY (For Aquarians):
Out of all of the bad things commonly said about Aquarians, which trait can you honestly admit is usually true of Aquarians?

I'd have to say.....We RARELY change our minds or opinions once it's set. Once we've got our minds made up, that's it. It's done. I hear alot of say about Aquarians being very stubborn & closed minded, & I believe this aspect ties into the fact that we rarely change our opinions or minds. This is obviously not ALWAYS a good thing, but unfortunately, I find it to be mostly true.

Just because we dont change our opinions doesnt mean we are closed minded. Far form it actually. We have the ability to hear everyone out and see the sides to every story. I think we are quite open-minded.

Oh, I don't think as an Aquarian that I am close-minded. If anything I was naming some of the traits I hear others say about our sign. And you're absolutely right, there is a difference between having a fixed opinion & being closed minded. I don't agree with others when they say we are closed minded or 1 sided, but I do agree that we tend to stick to our own opinions FOREVER lol, which is a little stubborn every once in a while.

I do admit to people when hey have made a point and Im left with out words to argue the point, because I do see there side of the story. (which is quite annoying when you have your own view😛).


I have to admit the aloof trait is true. I just dont feel the need to 'care' about any and everything. Other times/ most of the times my mind is preoccupied.

You're right. I love that about our sign. Even when we're proven wrong, we still don't let it get to us because we know that the other opinions and concepts in our minds are right. And you're right, Aquarians will hear out ALL sides of the story, & then take all the pieces and form our own opinions. But once all sides of the story have been heard & once our opinion has been set based off of both sides, THEN that opinion stays! It takes a HELL of a person to make us change that!

"Out of all of the bad things commonly said about Aquarians, which trait can you honestly admit is usually true of Aquarians?"


Well I have to honestly admit that out of all the negative Aquarius traits the unpredictable & intractable bad traits are true for me.

I love to shock ppl & do things out of the blue and I can be difficult to deal with also for some.

YES! Aquarians are natural born rebels. We always do the unexpected. Some people HATE unpredictable people but there's always those who love not knowing what to expect next (good or bad). I've asked 3 of my ex boyfriends some of the things they loved about me the most & alot of the feedback concerned the fact that I add fun & adventure to the relationship because they never could predict what I was going to say or do. And see me? I love people who are unpredictable (in a good way) because it adds anticipation & a spontaneous vibe to the atmosphere

Well I have to honestly admit that out of all the negative Aquarius traits the unpredictable & intractable bad traits are true for me.

I love to shock ppl & do things out of the blue and I can be difficult to deal with also for some.


AquaLuv4ya does this mean you say things to hurt people also.

I'm dealing with an aqua who said some really fucked up things to me, i didnt give her the reation she wanted so she kept going on and on.

Basically she knows i like her she came over we had a good day.

she went home text me saying she had a great time them out of nowhere she said she needs a man.

At first i was shocked like why are u texting me this and you know i like you but me being who i am. i just told her i had a friend for her, at first she seem intrested but the more i pressed the issue making sure she know i was serious she started backing off said she didnt want to meet him.

I thought this behavior was so disrespectful i always been so nice to this girl i never went over the line. i dont touch her unless we are saying goodbye and she wants a hug.

Why does she feel like she can tell me she needs a man even if you really fealt that do u have to tell me?

Take it as a hint...She NEEDS a man.

"AquaLuv4ya does this mean you say things to hurt people also."

Well to be truly honest with you I think I do hurt other ppl feelings sometimes, I am a know-it-all, fickle, & quick-tempered person, but it probably has something to do with my Virgo Rising & Aries Moon also not just my Aquarius Sun.

"Why does she feel like she can tell me she needs a man even if you really fealt that do u have to tell me?"

Lol, kind of sounds like me a little. I know ppl don't want to hear what I have to say sometimes, but I say it anyways, because the more they act uninterested the more I want to talk about it, I'll go on and on until I get my point across.

"but I say it anyways, because the more they act uninterested the more I want to talk about it, I'll go on and on until I get my point across"

Oh man, that is like the THEME for Aquarians. When Aquarians are underestimated or feel we are not being heard out, that is our AMUNITION to keep going!

Chill, Mr Nice

this is really funny but i really see where you guys are coming from because it seem like this little bytch likes to see me mad it's the only time were happy and can move on. I really dont understand if u want a man why spend all your time with me. There is a difference when 2 "friends" go out and when your going on dates. Why do you get all dressed up to come to my house just to lay on my bed you know were not going n e where but yet you still continue to come over and lay in my bed with club attire.

To all aqua females how would let a guy know you just wanted to be friends what are some signals?

Mind you this girl gets mad if i dont call or dont see her, she wont say it but she just starts playing phone tag with me and i do the same cause i'm not gonna sweat your ass.

or do aqua just love plaing games and sending mix signals?

I really would love for this girl to act like my friend if she just wants to be just friends she cant have both. When things start to get hot dont run and try to pull i want a man type shyt.

Well speaking on behalf of an Aquarian woman, I must say....Aquarian women are VERY unpredictable. Don't take too personal that she's getting all dressed up (usually OVERdressed) just to come & sit on a bed. Alot of people ask me why I get all dressed up just to go to the store, but it has nothing to do with them. Aquarians love to look at themselves (not in a conceited fashion) & we like to see our own selves just as groomed as we'd like for others to see us. And some Aquarian women who continually try to impress a potential partner is doing it as their signal to you that they want to keep your interest for them alive. I'm always "flashy" and love to look nice even when it's just me alone in my own house, but when I start dating someone eventually that need to be "desired" slowly goes away. Trust me, she might dress like that when she's around other guys or other people, it may not just be about you. And if it IS about you (to where you know she's only getting "fresh" for you), then that's a good thing.

And even though Aquarian women are known for being VERY upfront & very blunt & communicative about what they want, also know that we send signals out in the form of body language & other things in order for you to get the point. The key to opening up an Aquarious is communication. Ask her, "What are you looking for right now?" And voice your concerns. If anything, the one thing I hate is when I send out a signal that I'm "feeling" someone & they can't seem to get it, so when I feel that they are either rejecting my signal or are ignoring it, I'll back off because we are not ones to be overly affectionate or aggressive when it comes to the this dating stuff. But once we back off, we have it configured in our minds that it's THEIR turn to show US what they want from us so it might have to come down to you just straight coming out and asking her.

Another thing that bothers me is when I can sense that something is bothering my potential partner about me or when I can tell my partner is holding back but WON'T actually come out and say it. We are constantly asking for honesty & communication & trust me, we can handle it when we get what we asked for.

You sound like a leo in that first paragraph. That sounds nothing like me.

virgo28: SHe just likes the attention...not necessarily you...in that way. She may like you as friend, but in order to get the special attention she has to lead you on. She knows exactly what she is doing...and yes she's screwing with your emotions and doesnt care.


You have to set boundaries, because she's definitely looking to see how far she can push you.

I dont think she wants a relationship with you though.

"Another thing that bothers me is when I can sense that something is bothering my potential partner about me or when I can tell my partner is holding back but WON'T actually come out and say it. We are constantly asking for honesty & communication & trust me, we can handle it when we get what we asked for."

I agree, that comes back to pushing boundaries theory.

"when I feel that they are either rejecting my signal or are ignoring it, I'll back off because we are not ones to be overly affectionate or aggressive when it comes to the this dating stuff."

yeah when I give out hints that I like someone, I expect them to catch on quickly, if not I kind of feel rejected, so I retreat, I hate the thought of someone having to take time out, to think about do they want to date me or not, it bothers me, if someone don't answer or say what I want to hear quick enough, I back away, your lost, & my journey continues.

Exactly. When we send out signals (good ones), in our minds we feel that our signals (no matter what form we send them in) are CLEAR as day for anyone to see. And if a person rejects them or ignores them (even if it's due to pride OR shyness), we think, "Oh well, we've done our part" and we back off until the other person picks back up the tab. We NEVER chase once we've given out the signal. It has to be a give-and-take situation, not just us giving giving and giving & waiting on you to come around.

"To all aqua females how would let a guy know you just wanted to be friends what are some signals?"

idk about any other Aquarius female, but I always took every guy I ever dated on a roller coaster, one minute I was so into them/the next I wanted space. Sometimes its hard for me to be friends with guys because if we are just friends sometimes I mistake them for a boyfriend and if a guy is my boyfriend I might mistake him as just a friend, I know weird, but this is honestly how I am.

"Mind you this girl gets mad if I don't call or don't see her, she wont say it but she just starts playing phone tag with me and I do the same cause I'm not gonna sweat your ass.

or do aqua just love plaing games and sending mix signals?"


Honestly from what I read it seems like she is kind of interested in you, me personally Yes I know its not right to play games with ppl, but if I feel like someone is playing with me, I become unsure about them and yes I may send them mix signals because part of me likes the person and then another part me is wondering is it worth it, Aquarians are drowned in there thoughts, I know I am, sometimes we even get lost in our thoughts, but a lot ppl read about Aquarius are unemotional, just because we don't express our feelings often does not mean they aren't there/we are very sensitive. I'll admit that it takes a special person to deal with a Aquarius female, if you can't deal with it, its best you find someone else to be friends with or whatever, because we are very unpredictable & even fickle sometimes.

She is so right. We swim in our own minds (but we justify this of course). Aquarians are known as unemotional, detached & somewhat not affectionate & from the outside looking in, yes it does appear that we are this way. BUT we are in fact very sensitive, we cry just like everyone else, when we get hurt we get ourselves together & move on (even if we still cry at night, we still laugh during the day) & this very thing about us makes us appear to be like sociopaths (as if we have no feelings at all). When we first start dating we make sure we are appealing to your eyes, we like to intrigue you with our intelligence & verbal skills (communication) & it appears that there is easy access to our hearts but in fact getting into the door of an Aquarian female is VERY difficult. We will conversate, make friends & intrigue the minds of ANYONe, but it takes a SPECIAL person (and someone who's gotten mass many multi-layers we've set up) to actually bring the emotions out of us. There are many levels they have to "pass" in order to make it to the heart. And one thing that can make us stop & question another's motives is when we sense that the signals we sent out (stripping ourselves of our own pride), are not clearly getting across to the other person.

Nobody can tell us anything. We must always learn the hard way. That and love of friends.

virgo28's friend is an attention whore...simple.

"idk about any other Aquarius female, but I always took every guy I ever dated on a roller coaster, one minute I was so into them/the next I wanted space. Sometimes its hard for me to be friends with guys because if we are just friends sometimes I mistake them for a boyfriend and if a guy is my boyfriend I might mistake him as just a friend, I know weird, but this is honestly how I am."

This is me 100% . This is why I always, now at least, make a point to SAY "I like you" BACK to the guy when they say they like me. I feel as long as I've said it, and reaffirmed it, then whenever I get off into "aquapixieland" and it seems like I'm ignoring them or whatever they will not be able to say I wasn't interested.

"Honestly from what I read it seems like she is kind of interested in you, me personally Yes I know its not right to play games with ppl, but if I feel like someone is playing with me, I become unsure about them and yes I may send them mix signals because part of me likes the person and then another part me is wondering is it worth it, Aquarians are drowned in there thoughts, I know I am, sometimes we even get lost in our thoughts, but a lot ppl read about Aquarius are unemotional, just because we don't express our feelings often does not mean they aren't there/we are very sensitive. I'll admit that it takes a special person to deal with a Aquarius female, if you can't deal with it, its best you find someone else to be friends with or whatever, because we are very unpredictable & even fickle sometimes."

Yes, so very true. Dating and Aqua and being an Aqua is even nuttier. But one thing I've noticed is that there is a lot of acceptance and tolerance, and I like that.

""idk about any other Aquarius female, but I always took every guy I ever dated on a roller coaster, one minute I was so into them/the next I wanted space."

Ive got the same issue, in fact Im going through it right now (the no feelings phase). I dont know if this will ever stop. Is it me or is it just the guy? Its highly confusing and annoying.


With aquas, things are always better and simple when theres little emotions involved. Im awesome with all my guy friends....the fact that I'm not interested in them makes it that way.

Talking to an aqua does require a lot of patience goodness this is hard. I usually talk to this girl everyday but last friday i text her telling her i was about to call her and she said she's watching a movie she hit me up later. she never did i didnt take it personal because her friends were coming from out of town so i was gonna give her space. She called sunday but i was on the phone handling business so i could talk. We have been playing phone tag since sunday i'm tired of it matter fact when i return her phone call monday she didnt even bother to call me today. I'm think that i'll just send her a text telling her to come over. I want to see her i havent talk to her in 5 days and this is usually not like us. I dont care what none of you aqua say i know she misses me like i miss her. I cant remember the last time i didnt talk to her atleast once a day.


I think she feels me pulling away a little bit because i dont do everything i use to do "phone wise". I've really just been taking a step back trying to analyze our situation.

Do you guys think i messed things up between us or she is waiting for me to make a move?

i dont want to come off too aggressive by just sending a text just saying come over even if that's what i want.

I kinda think i'm ok because even though we havent spoken in 5 days she's return everyone of my phone calls except the last one.

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh i miss her and i know she miss me 2, tommorow is my day off and she knows it hopefully she wouldnt hold a grudge and come over. I've seen her every wednesday for the last month, we havent missed one yet.

okay.

what do u mean ok?

"I dont care what none of you aqua say i know she misses me like i miss her."

LoL, Someone's Cranky. I never said she did not miss you, because I personally do not know you nor her, I am only going by what you wrote and letting you know that most Aquarius Women have a weird approach to love and when I miss someone it really depends on how much I care for them, if I care for them a lot I'll return and act like nothing has happen, but if I really don't care about someone I'll walk away and never return. Even though I don't know her personally and all Aqua Females are not the same. I can say most Aqua Females won't easily fall in love with just anybody, but when we do fall in love no matter what happens in the relationship if we feel you are the one, you'll never be forgotten.

So like I said before it seem like she is interested in you despite the games, if she has showed you any interest, there must be something special she has seen in you. I know I never date/like/talk/play with just any guy he has to be worthy, that's another thing I found true about the Aquarius Woman Description for me I have High Standards when it comes to dating and not many are worth my time, unless that person is Super Special & Understanding. So, If you miss her truly and she probably misses you just as much, just make the first move and let her know you care about her still, she's probably waiting on you to make a move, you'll get nowhere by keeping asking questions and waiting around as if we know her & have talked to her and can tell you what she's thinking.

I said okay, because you said your peace.
You dont want any advice and thats fine. Your gonna go with your instincts and thats even better.

You should pose your issue on the virgo board as well. It gives a perspective and a commonality to way the others feel towards air and such.

""idk about any other Aquarius female, but I always took every guy I ever dated on a roller coaster, one minute I was so into them/the next I wanted space."

thats me, but i really can't HELP IT! sad to say, cuz I really don't like being like that... 😢

I dont like it either 😢 Does it ever stop or have I just not found the right guy?

well we got into a huge argument today so it's all over.

I guess me and her weren't meant to be anything she takes my critism too personally and she's too upredictable for me.

She told me things werent going to work out and she cant be my friend i said alright and she said alright sorry then she hung up.

okay.

Just want to say Hello to everyone...HELLO!

To answer the question, I'd have to say that aqua people are very distant most of the time but can also be very warm at others. I dont do well at funerals, I seem very uninterested, even if Im dying inside. We just dont do emotions very well.

I'm like that also i thought there was something wrong with me. I can remember even when i was younger not crying at funerals. When i actually think of the person i get sad but i dont cry

This is just a general question but do aqua's really live by out of sight out of mind?

It's not that the emotions aren't there. Oh, they're there. It's just that we don't express them as openly. Everybody knows that one friend they have that always over reacts to everything, always has to cry in public, always has to tell everyone their problems & their business. Well...Aquarians are totally the opposite. Yes, we vent (normally to those closest to us) and yes we cry, we just prefer to appear sane on the outside to others even if we're going insane on the inside. If anything, I think we are one of the most sensitive creatures on this planet, it's just a matter of not appearing to be weak or knowing when the right time is to express ourselves openly. I've been to a few funerals where I've cried in public & others where I just couldn't. I don't know why I couldn't, but I know it had NOTHING to do with worrying about what others would think.

Did I want to cry? Yes. Was I torn up inside like everybody else? Yes, but for some reason I couldn't cry until weeks later. But in OUR minds we don't see ourselves as detached or unemotional when we don't cry at funerals because we know deep down that we are hurt inside when we're looking at the dead body of someone who was probably just on our doorstep.

You know they say Aquarians can either be the STRONGEST or the WEAKEST people in the world

"You know they say Aquarians can either be the STRONGEST or the WEAKEST people in the world"

I honestly think when it comes to emotions, I am one of the weakest.

I never understood how people could cry at someones death and they didnt even know them. Crying at weddings baffle me too.

Well we put up such a big fight when it comes to picking who we're going to give our heart to & when we finally give in, we only do it if we feel it's going to last for a longgggg time. And when things go wrong or when we get crossed, we remind ourselves as to why we were so distant in the first place, making it sometimes harder for the NEXT potential partner.

LOYALTY...once a being earns the trust of an aqua, you will never be alone.

krysrenee7:"Well we put up such a big fight when it comes to picking who we're going to give our heart to & when we finally give in, we only do it if we feel it's going to last for a longgggg time. And when things go wrong or when we get crossed, we remind ourselves as to why we were so distant in the first place, making it sometimes harder for the NEXT potential partner."

Who are you?! You are amazing! You really hit the tail on my donkey there lol this is a way to go when it comes to love for me cuz i already went through it and never again...maybe that's why aquarians do this in the first place because all that negative emotion is logically all just a waste of time.

"I never understood how people could cry at someones death and they didnt even know them. Crying at weddings baffle me too."

hahahah! i've only cried over one dude's death that i didn't know. his name was chance (i shit you not) and he was one of my friend's cousins. a guy mistakenly came to his house and shot him in the chest. he wasn't even supposed to be killed and his three y/o daughter was home when it happened. he was young too, and i cried because i felt like his life was just yanked away from him and his family by some idiot who doesn't deserve to live themselves and seeing the reaction of my friend to it just intensified it. most of the time i don't cry at the deaths of people i don't know though. just can't.

as for weddings, omg, i've cried at them too. the first one was my brother's, because he had severe OCD (and when i say severe, i mean it; one of his obsessions made it so he was terrified to eat anything and he almost died because of it) and seeing this woman who loved him so much after being with him for four years and knowing what she had to deal with but still wanted to marry him was touching to me.

the other time i cried was at my aunt's wedding when the bride and groom took their first dance as husband & wife. i was a bridesmaid so i could see them up close. they were just swaying together and smiling at each other...and this was after they dated for at least 5 years, yet they still seemed like they were in their own little world. there was so much symbolism in it all. i looked at my grandma and her face she was just glowing with pride over her beautiful daughter finding this good guy. that's when i lost it, didn't want to though cause everyone could see my red face & makeup running from sobbing, lol.
other than that, every wedding i've been to has just seemed very boring to me. i think it's only cry-worthy for close family members, and sometimes not even.

I've only had one grandparent die in my lifetime. The rest past before I was born and the other (mean grandma) is still alive and kicking. I didnt cry when my grandfather died b/c I didnt know him that well, he came to visit looong ago when I was younger but I guess I just didnt relate to him. My sister (cancer) on the other hand BALLED her eyes out...she always cries, but she did remember him so I guess she had a reason. Dont get me wrong, I was sad. He still was my grandfather, but no tears.

The only wedding I cried at was the one where my entire family had a role and I didnt (I was about 10/11). I was upset because I didnt get to wear a pretty dress like everyone else and I didnt even get in the family picture. I hated that wedding. They are divorced now.


I think the only way I can cry is if you play a present and active role in my life (wedding or funeral). I will damn sure cry when my mother passes (god forbid no time sure). If my sister marries I'll probably cry for selfish reason, again. 😛🙂

"I was upset because I didnt get to wear a pretty dress like everyone else and I didnt even get in the family picture. I hated that wedding."

awww. how mean of them. they should have known your precious little 10/11-y/o heart wouldn't be able to take it.

I know wheels! It was my aunts wedding, I cried the entire time I was there. Its a big blur of salty tears and snot to me now.

This is just a general question but do aqua's really live by out of sight out of mind?

can someone plz answer this question

"This is just a general question but do aqua's really live by out of sight out of mind?"

I Can't speak for all aqua's, but I am drowned in my thoughts daily, so if I love someone then rather they are in my sight or out they are never forgotten, now if they don't mean much to me--out of sight, out of mind, for sure, I can easily forget something that's worthless to me.