Hey, I will try to make this as short as possible. I meet an aquarius guy at work, at the beginning we were chatting we seemed to really communicate, shared same ideas etc. after 3 months he texted me and this is how it all started. We got close phisically really fast it was just like a dream, the chemestry was really strong on both sides and I wes falling really fast. we would see each other 3 times per week, he would text me all the time etc. We spent most time in my flat he would never invite me to his house cause it was 20 km away from town but I was getting suspicious and once I asked him as a joke "why won't u show me your house? Are u hiding something? A wife?" and he replyed with a smile and in a bit sarcastic tome YES A WIFE, but I didn't treat it seriously (I asked at the beginning of the relationship if he had some1 and he said NO) After 3 months I told him that I was in love with him but his reply was "really". After that I noticed that he changed, bacame more distant etc. I could sense something was bothering him and then I found out during a random conversation from some1 who knew him that he was married :/ He told me that "he didn't tell me cause he didn't want to scare me away and later on it was even harder to tell me" It was a shock for me, I was depressed, crying couldn't eat etc. but we had a conversation and he told me that he's trying to divorce his wife, that he tried once but the court rejected it because she didn't agree. He told me that she wants to keep the entire house so he needs to try to talk sense to her. He told me that because of that he changed his job and moved to a different city. He told me that he's not going to go come back to her that there is nothing between them. Lately he told me that they reached an agreement with her and her parents that when he gives tham back all the money they put into the construction of the house she would agree on that divorce and he can keep the house. But the situation looks like this: every weekend he gets back to his house (wife still lives in the house - they divided it she lives downstairs and he upstairs) because she is really jealous of him and can cause problems if he would not get back for the weekend, so he meets me once per week just for few hours on his way back to the other city so that wife wouldn't notice. He tells me that he will divorce her but I really don't know if I can trust him. All other things he says are true, he's honest about them, and if I ask him proper ques
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if I ask him proper questions he gives me an honest answer. But he doesn't want to discuss his divorce or feelings, he's avoiding any topics involving emotions. I asked him what he liked in me and he said without thinking " you're warm, patient, understanding and calm" but when I asked him if he loved me he said "I don't know what I feel for you. I don't know how to describe it" so at this moment I don't even know if I should be patient or just walk away (it's been 6 months now and still he doesn't know what he wants and he knows how I feel about him)I wonder if he's just using me as a rebound or temporary entertainment or he's really in a tough situation and needs time to sleep on it. He changed his job but probably things won't work for him there for long and he'll need to find another job soon. Is it possible that his strange behaviour is one of those aquarious weird ways to deal with feelings? I asked him if he treated me just as a lover only and he denied, I asked if he treats me seriously and he said that he does but his actions or lack of actions make me so confused. He told me that he has difficult character and he has those time outs and that he hasn't been able to change in 30 years so he won't change his ways. I just don't know what to do. I really love him, something inside me tells me to give him time to fix his personal problems but I'm not sure what to do. When we are together I sense that he cares but when we're apart and he has his silend ways I just have more and more doubts. I would appreciate any kind of advice as this uncertainity hurts so much. He is an honest person, helpful but when it cones to 1:1 contact with me he seems as if he was afraid of me. He never asks directly if he can come and visit me, its always some sort of making me take the initiative so from my perspective he seems like he no longer cares but he has never skipped even one visit when he was heading back to the town he works in atm so I'm really confused.
heyy i like a cancer guy......we are in the same classes...i have a crush on this cancer guy...he always sitz in the last bench and i sit on the second bench..one fine day he came to sit behind followed by a week ...then after 1 day from he sitting behind me...he started to use hiis shoes up and dowm around my feet (you know what i mean like seducing)..i was kinda happy cuz it was him..(the one i like so much)he used to do it everytime i kept my feet behind..and then once mamm showed us a video and the lights were all off.i usually keep on moving my feet a lil ahead everytime he tried to do so..but that time i gave my one feet totally to him...and he started carressing it like soo good!!!it was an awesome feeling...then once i had worn a flowery top and he started rolling my top near my hands around his fingers...i found it too much sillly so i just turned around and looked at him..and there he said a very polite sorry..that's it! i know it's silly but is it a sign that he likeszz me a lott...as i know cancerians are touchy

something inside me tells me to give him time to fix his personal problems
You said it and this is your gut instinct and what you need to do...however, you also need to tell him that WHEN he has sorted out his personal issues, then and only then can he see you again!
Make that stand and make it very clear right now...if you don't then consider yourself his mistress!
You said it and this is your gut instinct and what you need to do...however, you also need to tell him that WHEN he has sorted out his personal issues, then and only then can he see you again!
Make that stand and make it very clear right now...if you don't then consider yourself his mistress!

This is a really messy situation. I think his behavior reflects a married man who is going through a divorce. You need to be warned that he may not be mentally ready to jump into another serious relationship so soon. Not saying you should walk away, just protect your heart.
I do think you freaked him out when you told him you loved him after only three months. At least he was honest when he said he didn't know how he felt, but he now has something to think about.
I do think you freaked him out when you told him you loved him after only three months. At least he was honest when he said he didn't know how he felt, but he now has something to think about.
Thank you for your advice I really appreciate that. I feel like he's not ready for a relationship atm but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings so he would rather distance himself. I'll tell him straight that he needs to straighten his personal stuff first and well time will show I guess.

Who knows what the future holds! 🙂
heyy help me too plzzzz

Posted by alinashah
heyy i like a cancer guy......we are in the same classes...i have a crush on this cancer guy...he always sitz in the last bench and i sit on the second bench..one fine day he came to sit behind followed by a week ...then after 1 day from he sitting behind me...he started to use hiis shoes up and dowm around my feet (you know what i mean like seducing)..i was kinda happy cuz it was him..(the one i like so much)he used to do it everytime i kept my feet behind..and then once mamm showed us a video and the lights were all off.i usually keep on moving my feet a lil ahead everytime he tried to do so..but that time i gave my one feet totally to him...and he started carressing it like soo good!!!it was an awesome feeling...then once i had worn a flowery top and he started rolling my top near my hands around his fingers...i found it too much sillly so i just turned around and looked at him..and there he said a very polite sorry..that's it! i know it's silly but is it a sign that he likeszz me a lott...as i know cancerians are touchy
I didn't want to derail the thread, but it sounds like he likes you. Why don't you post this on the Cancer Forum.

Posted by alinashah
heyy help me too plzzzz
This is alla's thread. It's not fair to derail someone's thread with a different problem. Why don't you create a new thread? I'm sure you will get a lot more responses.
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