Aqua input please

If you thought a close friend of yours was being fake, would you tell them? I have a friend who I feel is acting that way, and my Aqua coldness is making me clueless as to whether it'd be appropiate to confront this person or not. It's difficult to keep thoughts to myself so that's why I want to say something. But I know people are sensitive and I don't want to put a strain on our relationship so that's why I'm confused.

What do you think? Should I speak my mind and risk problems or just bite my tongue on this one? Thanks

It doesn't affect me personally but it bothers me personally because I don't like fakeness around me. I like to associate w/ people who keep it real. That's why I have the need to say something. But because I'd be attacking a friend's character, does that make it wrong?

What is she being fake about? Personally, i dont like ppl like that, if its nothing major i keep quiet and dont make an issue about it. But if its a huge thing, u gotta go and take your phony self somewhere else.

i know its bugging the heck out of you. i had a friend like that, she thought she would get more attention from men if they thought she was a damn 26 year old virgin. it was so lame because we all knew she was a slut. well you have to decide. you can only hold your tongue for so long...its best to talk to her calmly one on one than to just go off on her when you are finally fed up. like i did....

so basically it depends on how much you value the friendship. 🙂

She trashes people one minute and then acts buddy buddy with them the next. I care less who she's friends with because I actually think it's awesome for everyone to get along. It's just severely annoying hanging with someone who flip flops aaaall the time. If you have an opinion, why can't you stick to it? Even if it's about hating people. What's worse is sometimes I feel she talks trash about people so I'll feel that way too. And I honestly do get a little influenced because she's like a sister and her opinions matter to me. But once I start to agree, she befriends them and I look like the one who was hating all along! And you're right it IS bugging me not to say anything. I've confronted her in the past before and it didn't go well. That's why I don't know if doing it again would be a douche move. Should I just shut up and keep to myself this time? Thanks, I appreciate all your input.

Also, do most Aquarians find it difficult keeping their mouth shut?

Call her out on it you said it yourself she is a sister to you just trust your gut on this. 🙂

Thanks guys. And thanks, LittleAquanot. I think I'll zip the lid on this one and start using that same policy. It's just hard not being able to say whatever's on the brain, you know? As I get older I'm starting to see that maybe it's better to shut up sometimes, but then I get confused because I feel like I'm not being true to myself if I can't say what I truly want to say whenever I want to say it. It's a personal battle but that's a whole other story! Anyway, REALLY appreciate the advice! It helped tremendously and I think I'll start watching my back a little with this friend

That's where we all differ as aquas. I cant keep my mouth shut. If something bothers me, i will talk about it once and if i see no change i will cut them off. I like to be around ppl that are positive, i absorb+sense ppl's energies and i dont want no negative ppl around me. Do what works for u.

I cant keep my mouth shut either. If your my true friend then you know that we check each other. If I have some bad behavior that makes me look like a back stabbing two faced person, I want my friends to tell me. True friendships are not about only telling you the good things about each other. I've had serious arguments with my friends and we are still friends because they are true friends.

and her behavior affects you...you said you look like the one that was hating all along. thats not good. you are the company you keep.

for instance the 26 year old faux virgin liar...she made us look like sluts. so I had guys that thought I was a slut coming up to me, because of something she told them. to give credit to her lie. Yea I dont really give a damn what people think of me. But im not going to have some lying heifer telling people i am a damn slut and she calling herself my friend.

so yes we do choose our battles, but this is a battle that can cause a lot of problems. if she is a sister as you say, you two should be able to get through the bad things and she needs to stop this behavior.

i think that avoiding situations like this is what some aquas do that limit there connections with other people. aka us being aloof, stand offish.

holding back you feelings is not being true to yourself.