Aqua misses her ex

So, my aquarius friend came clean with me and finally has admitted to being withdrawn and the reason is because she misses her ex. She told me she misses her ex, her friendship and their dog and that since Thanksgiving until now it has been rough and she is sad because it is the 1st time in 3 years she hasnt spent the holidays with her ex. She said she hasnt contacted her and wont attempt to but she is still sad over the situation. They have been broken up for more than 8 months. Has any aqua ever felt this way about an ex while in a relationship? I told her I understand, which I do, but I feel the need to take a step back. We are supposed to spend newyears together and now I am unsure if I want to.

YESSS!! Are you the current SO? If she is being honest with you then fear not. Hopefully that will fade with time. Its hard to fall inlove, once we do it takes a lot to unclean the slate. I respect her honesty, most of us are honest about things like that & plz dont punish her by withdrawing. At least she is not a liar, take that as a good thing.

Yes, I am the SO and I noticed her withdrawal from me. When I noticed and confronted her she accused me of being "extra" and insecure. I was none of those things, it was just her sudden withdrawal caused me to rightfully question what was going on. I sent her a message letting her know I couldn't deal with the sudden withdrawal and indecisiveness and that is when she came clean to me. She also said she understands if I choose to let her go and maybe she is not ready for a relationship because I deserve someone who is whole. She said she is trying but she is not perfect. I don't know how to feel if we are spending time together she she is thinking about the ex. How am I to know at this point that if the ex contacts her she will not go back. She actually broke off the former relationship because she said she wasn't truly in love with her ex, but she wanted to keep the friendship.

Maybe u need to give her space to figure her feelings out. Personally i would be wary of sumone who just write off the past as if it never happend, it will show how shallow they are. Im not saying you deserve all that is happening, maybe is being sentimental. How long were they together? How long is your relationship with her? And how long did the two of u get together after her last relationship ended?

They were together for 2 1/2 years and broke up towards the end of last year... I guess officially in April of this year. They had not been intimate in months though, because my gf states she only saw her ex as a friend and couldnt be that way anymore. She dated a couple of people after her, then her and I met in September... she is the one who asked for a committment in November.

Whoo i dont know, sounds messy. Two and a half yrs is a long time. And she didnt wait long enough to fully get things out of her system- all those other relationships inbetween u two. I think its sentimentality since u mentioned its their 1st holidays apart. Give her space to clear her mind, she knows where to find u if she decides to continue things with u. If ur unhappy about the whole thing then leave, u dont owe her anything. U deserve that 'wholeness' she mentioned

Thanks guys for the good advice. We both agreed that we really like each other and we would go with the flow. She expressed how she never really took time to find out who she is and what she really wants since being out of a LTR. We brought the new year in together and it was wonderful. I'm giving her space and at the same time focusing on me, my hobbies and so on.

That is a tuffy. It would hurt very much to know the person you with is thinking about an ex while they are with you. A tough, bitter, ragged pill to swallow. I hope that both of you are able to come to an understanding and that you are able to come to a correct resolution that will make you feel both loved completely with or without her.