Aqua Secret Love

My usually very aloof, macho aqua has recently started to say that he misses me and cant wait to see me much more than usual. I think he might be falling in looove! I told him i wanted to keep things simple and fun, but he's convinced im in love with him (which im not). I have told him that i dont want to be married or too deeply involved anytime soon, but this seems to encourage his attachment. I am convinced he has an unhealthy obsession with women, and so i dont want to love him to protect myself and my pride. I am Libra.

Should i laugh it off, or be serious about it? Im uncomfortable with the whole 'love' conversation and am avoiding it, but i dont want him to think im not interested. Does this make sense?..any aqua male input would be great. Thank you.

I was gonna suggest that you pretend to be bessoted by him as this will probably make him run the other way since he's an aqua but then I got to the bit where you said you don't want him to think you're not interested ie you wanna keep things on this light level and not go any further but not break apart at the same time. So with that in mind I guess I'd suggest you get him to respect the stance you wanna take and not pander to him in any way.

Its no drama Prime..im in the mood for love when i feel like a man can commit to me in a way that is without exception. Im not letting myself fall head over heels to be kept on a back-burner or until somone better comes along. Call me cynical..i'll admit to that. I dont doubt he is besotted with me, but he's confusing it wit love..I already told him that. So, what is the right thing. Im thinking about letting my heart rule my head this time round..but old wounds are casting a shadow even now. Im scared.

Go with your gut feeling on this sola. And since you're hesitating about him that's prob an indication that he's not "the one".

Im not hesitating about him..im hesitating about myself. Its the situation of letting down every defense you put in place for yourself and then, realising that you've been played again. Its happened every time, i just cant believe he's being serious. This is my problem..my issues are my own, i dont want to project them onto him. Im scared to tell him how scared i am because its a weakness that can be taken advantage of. I thought ive been sure about people before..how wrong i was. This man has done nothing to suggest he's not for real. I know im going to lose him over this if i dont give this the chance. Im going to tell him we should go deep with this. Wish me luck.

Ok go for it sola!!!!

P-lease......

"Go with your gut feeling on this sola. And since you're hesitating about him that's prob an indication that he's not "the one"."

-i completely agree...if you have your doubts now about the guy, then it is not going to get any better with him.

"Im not letting myself fall head over heels to be kept on a back-burner or until somone better comes along."

-this is exactly what happened with my aqua...he kept me around while getting to know someone else on the side and then left me for her. and he is still stringing me along, and keeping me on the back burner, in case something ever happens with his new girlfriend...messed up!!!

Sola:

Are you referring to the Aqua guy who is married? Or is this a different guy altogether>

The plot thickenzzzzz.......

I guess he's not married. If he is then obviously don't go there!

If it's the married guy, quit messing with that loser, or else *you* will be a loser, too.

There is a similar story on the virgo board about women messing around with married dudes ... such idiots (both the man and woman involved in all the bull-shit).

Well, I think it's a self-esteem problem ... I don't have high regard for myself but I know that if I get involved with a that really doesn't mean me any good (I love that phrase) then I just going to wonder aimlessly through life wondering "Is this all there is" -- gotta love Peggy Lee!!

Hahaha, I'm still on my soap box and I'm not getting off anytime soon 😉

Ha! This was funny -
The best revenge to take on a women - if your husband is cheating with her, is to let the other women have him 😉

cut him off now. If he is talking to you about love "SERIOUSLY" then you have captured his heart. All your fighting it off and independence makes you more desireable.