Aqua single mom is driving me insane. Help!

Right, so I got involved with an Aquarius woman about three months ago. At first she chased me around like I was The Beatles or something -- really intense and always blowing up my phone. She's got a two year old girl and she made sure I knew she wasn't interested in anything light-hearted. She's looking for a "serious relationship" she said.

But when I accepted that, she pulled away quite a bit. It really shook me up because of how intense she seemed at first ya know? I stuck it out, played it cool, gave her lots of space, and she came back . . . but this has happened again several times since. It's a cycle, and I'm starting to give up.

How it happens is she decides to cold shoulder me out of nowhere, so I stop trying to talk to her, and when I later find out her reasons they're all weird -- like she's accusing me of things that aren't true, or she's just inventing reasons to worry. Whenever I try to vocalize any of these concerns, she starts to cry. I'm not making that up, this person cries when she thinks I'm guilt-tripping her. It's exhausting.

I do like her a lot though, and unfortunately I'm very attached to her daughter already, who's like the sweetest little girl ever made (she can't help it that her real father is long gone). I want this to work out, but if this is something that's going to keep happening forever I just can't deal with it. Honestly it feels like an immature up and down high school romance and we're both too old at 29 for that.

Also, these down periods obviously mean no sex and that's annoying too. Just sayin'. I've recently been highly tempted to cheat and it was difficult to resist.

Is there something I'm missing here? Are these problems typical? If so, wtf can I do to make things easier? Am I deluding myself in thinking there's a chance? I've been guilty of it before.

She's an Aqua sun, Sag moon, Cap venus, Scorpio mars. I dunno her rising sign. I'm a Leo Sun, Cancer moon, Cancer venus, and Leo mars.

good god Tiger how did you get all that out of that one little post. could it be just a Leo not getting attention to the wanted?

if you don't question his questions how can you assume that your answers are correct.

Maybe you should sit her down and have a heart to heart talk. Don't confront her so she feels attacked, just a conversational tone and tell her your point of view on all this. You need to be honest with how it makes you feel and she needs to hear your thoughts on all this. Don't focus on what she does/doesn't do, focus on your feelings.

Such as "it makes me feel good when you do this....I feel this when this happens....I am confused, could you please explain...."

Most aquas don't mind when you talk with them like this. In fact, they respect you more for it. Just make sure it is a rational, nonemotional conversation.

Afterword, if things don't get better, you will have a decision to make on whether you want to continue or step back and re-evaluate.

And yes, mark your calendars, a Capricorn talked about having feelings!!!

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MeToo, you're such a capricorn! 😉

Aah this is so classic & typical of the average Aqua woman!

I've been guilty of being this way myself!

When you 1st meet an Aqua, they're either really shy, aloof & evasive but then turn into the world's most open/best lover after they get attached

OR

They start off very intense, very open, very affectionate, etc. & turn into the complete opposite when real feelings get involved

Aquas are great at making others think that their intensity in the beginning is reflective of their actual feelings for you.

The same goes for conversation. An Aqua can sit & talk with you for hours about any & everything, leaving the other person to think their Aqua is being open & letting them 'in' when in reality, if you look back, they really just had a general convo w/o actually sharing anything that they'd only share with those closest to them

Vulnerability is very hard for Aquas. It's all fun & games until an Aqua gets attached. Then suddenly her biggest fears, worries & insecurities come out

It's not fair & of course this confuses the other person or may even make that person think that their Aqua is playing mind games

Trust me, she's not playing mind games. What you're witnessing is your Aqua having internal battles within herself. I'm sure at some point she was testing you to see how you'd react, but if the mood swings/hot and cold stuff keeps happening, it's b/c there really ARE some inner issues with her going in

This may seem unfair but the WORST thing you can do to an Aqua when they're being this way is to start showing signs that you're close to giving up.

They want you to keep being open, intense & vulnerable with them even if they're not giving the same in return b/c others being consistently vulnerable gives us the courage to eventually come out of the shell & return to the person you fell for

If you start clamming up, even if she deep down understands why you would, she'll still clam up

Just be more patient with her. After a while, she'll grow out of that. But she 1st has to see that she can trust being vulnerable with you. And once she confirms that (may take days, weeks or months) then she'll finally submit herself fully to you & give you her all. Once that happens, these "episodes" will become less & less. TRUST ME ON THIS!

It is a very GOOD sign when an Aqua clams up sometimes!

It means that although they may be scared & insecure, they've acknowledged & confirmed that they have real feelings for you

It means that you are now someone important to them & Aquas deeply fear losing those they love, which explains why her biggest fears & insecurities are coming out

If an Aqua didn't have genuine feelings for you or couldn't see you as a long term potential, you wouldn't be seeing changes in them like you're seeing.

In other words, you're seeing her 'sweat' and the only reason she's sweating is b/c she knows your very close to her heart! And that's a very scary thing for Aquas!

Aquas are very logical & live in the logical so much that when they become emotional, it almost makes them uncomfortable.

Aquas know that when they're being this way that the other person doesn't like it. They also know that if the tables were turned, they'd probably run like hell from anyone who put them through the same thing!

BUT Aquas rationalize/figure that since this is a deep part of who they are, that the person whose truly right for them will understand this & not give up on them for this.

They rationalize that if you expect for them to fully 100% submit to you & not give up on you that the same should be true the other way around.

I've read this, and hummmm...that's very strange that you two play this very cat-n-mouse kind of dance. She wants you, she wants you not, she wants you....she wants you not today, but tomorrow is another...

You can try and be open with her and tell her how you feel, how this makes you uncomfortable. Spend time with her, and do stuff together, ect.