Argument w/ Capp Man Last night...confused-LONG

So im an aquarius woman I met my capp a week 4 days ago. He has already confessed that he is madly in love with me and tells me he loves me everyday. I have cooked for this man damn near every day and I am happy to do so. He has been very giving and I am excited to have met some1 willing to take some of the load off me. He TALKS marriage and having kids and the other day threatened to "not wear protection" cuz he wants to get me preggers. On a daily basis, we talk 6 times a day and see each other almost everyday. He has even asked to move into my house. Do capps usually move this fast? He gets mad because I am guarded but dude-its only been a week and a few days. WTH

He called me last night ranting about how we were supposed to meet up but I couldnt due to legit circumstances beyond my control. He was very angry (cursing and making accusations). He argued the whole time and I just listened. I didnt say a word. I was very shocked. At the end of the conversation he said "Dont call me, Just wait for me to call u" and them 10 minutes later he called but I didnt answer. BUT this is not the first instance. I didnt let him spend the night a few days back and he shut down on me again for a whole day. I am a true AQ and I have little tolerance for BS. I like him and we have had fun BUT I will not tolerate this behavior from any man. I am giving him the benefit of the doubt because he had been wanting to see me all day yesterday and to abruptly cancel may have hurt his feelings and I apologized. There are other ways he couldve handled this nor he did he have to talk to me so aggressively.

Should I give him another chance OR keep it moving. It almost seems as if he "THINKS" he is punishing me lol. Little does he know-I have no problem moving on! I dont hold grudges and would like to send him our usual good morning text but since I have been asked "not to contact" him I didnt. This is childish and Im almost tempted to say "eff him" BUT I want to be fair. U guys are the experts and may know capp men better than me. Im used to dealing with Libra's and other AQ men and these unions can be a challenge as well so a lil challenge is nothing for me but I will not be disrespected or controlled or punished. Is this normal? What should I do? I also posted this on the Capp board but they moving 2 slow for me,lol

i dont know anything about caps and i dont want to, lol. Anyways, he sounds a bit obsessive- a speedy moving relationship is the 1st sign. Check out symptoms of obsession. I went through something similar so i recognise the signs. Read about it.

i see u've been hounded by a taurus too, my experience above was with them too. Creepy those bulls are sometimes. Do u have any venus/pluto/neptune contacts in your natal chart? any combo of those 3 attracts weirdos

Posted by WaterCup
i see u've been hounded by a taurus too, my experience above was with them too. Creepy those bulls are sometimes. Do u have any venus/pluto/neptune contacts in your natal chart? any combo of those 3 attracts weirdos

My taurus was locked up behind his stalking. I dont know what "Do u have any venus/pluto/neptune contacts in your natal chart" means. My bday is 2-16 if that helps any.

This capp guy has turned me off. I dont blame you for not wanting to get to know one. Ure not missing anything. They are needy and he keeps asking me for stuff. He said he got drunk last night and lost $ 500 gambling which according to him was my fault. "I threw his night off cuz I blew our plans"

I'm a cap female. No! That is not usual cap behavior. Run, run, run!

do a natal chart online and check what contacts venus makes to either pluto or neptune. Or do a composite chart of u and the person involved, u might get your answer. Venus/pluto equals to obsession, venus/neptune equals to not seeing u clearly, idealised. I got both of those and i know what they can get up to when it comes to dating. Hope i helped.

also the problem might not be u, but him. Do his birth chart as well. He is a cap, so he might have planets in scorpio, look out for that or pluto contacts in his chart. And his 8th house planets, the 8th house gives scorpio undertones regardless of sign.

Posted by WaterCup
do a natal chart online and check what contacts venus makes to either pluto or neptune. Or do a composite chart of u and the person involved, u might get your answer. Venus/pluto equals to obsession, venus/neptune equals to not seeing u clearly, idealised. I got both of those and i know what they can get up to when it comes to dating. Hope i helped.

I just did my chart and WOW. This is so dag on accurate. Especially this part "Venus in Capricorn Loves are sincere. She is basically attracted to those with problems, which complicates life because she takes on those people's problems. Her feelings are deep, stable, solid, definite. She is not very expansive and can be melancholic." Every guy I have ever dealt with has had some type of issue. I have always been the "upgrader". When I am finished with a man he is in a better place in life. I call them "my cases". Unfortunantly, Im not taking any more cases,lol. But thanks for putting me on to that info. Preciate it

no probs girl, any of the fatal contacts i mentioned? Venus in cap, wow. older men fetish? Lol

"the other day threatened to "not wear protection" cuz he wants to get me preggers."

Hell NO...that is out of control. and only after a week. but this is how caps are. i've seen my friend chasing women down trying to make them do what he believed they suppose to do. its crazy. i tease him and tell him he is going to get arrested for stalking.

girl please you dont have to take this crap. this irrational, erratic behavior should not occur because you cancelled plans. if he cant handle his feelings of disappointment too bad. he is a grown man. he should not be shouting at you over that. nah just let him go. he will do this again.

and that whole getting me pregnant thing is a deal breaker.

Posted by WaterCup
i dont know anything about caps and i dont want to, lol. Anyways, he sounds a bit obsessive- a speedy moving relationship is the 1st sign. Check out symptoms of obsession. I went through something similar so i recognise the signs. Read about it.

your the best watercup so helpful a true aqua to your heart 😄

Hmm...cap men are supposed to be extremely I mean extremely slow to love. Him saying he loves you, wants to move in and then wants to get you preggers is NOT normal for this sign... at all. I was suprised as all hell reading that. Hell merfolk are the ones who supposively to fall fast and hard but I can't really recall a sign or ANY sign that would say such things within an extremely short period of time.

Yikes...my mermaid senses are tingling. If a guy said that to me so quickly a red light would be flashing and I would be scared and swim off. That's not normal in any sign really. That's just....yeah I can't even define what that is besides scary.

Now I can attest to the setting something up and cancelling last minute does hurt like hell... BUT for him to go off like that.. pff what happens when you need YOUR personal space luv? It's coming. You guys run hot and cold... iceburg is coming right ahead to him when you want to unplug and re-evaluate things or just want to focus on earth as a whole. lol

Dude I have a feeling he will totally and completely spazz out on you. I have a taurus moon so I get routines but when my aqua friend cancelled plans this weekend to meet which he set up I didn't freak out on him. I just said fine and moved on with my life. Hmm yeah the more interaction the more attached he's gonna get and the higher the freak out level is going to get. I just really do hope that one day he doesn't get supremely drunk and jealous and comes over and give ya a shiner. That level of possessiveness (which coming from a Taurus moon mind you) is freaking scary and quite honestly worries me. Be careful with this one. If you do call it quits...I think you may have a stalker on your hands. Take self defense classes and carry a stun gun. He's gonna be a doozy. God speed and BE SAFE!!!

my last ex was a cap n he was VERY aggressive from beginning to finish lol. him being pissed off about you not being able to make it sounds familiar too. i like to take my time and he'd always get angry when i was late. i read that time to them is everything so maybe thats why. but this one time i planned on coming over but i was having dinner with my best friend first (which shouldn't have been a prob), n he was so furious that i didnt come right away that he punched 2 holes in the walls at his house!

im not saying all cap guys r crazy like that, but i think it's just aqua & caps r so completely diff n that's wut makes it difficult. they're traditional and think they know better; we're untraditional and actually DO know better haha. but differences aside, i think u guys can both learn from each other if u stick it out. ultimately, it's up to how YOU feel. if u feel u can't tolerate him, then dump him. if his antics r forgivable, then stick it out n just explain to him whats wrong in your eyes. caps aren't as good communicators as we r and can b very stubborn when accepting new ideas and diff outlooks -- but if anything, we're the ones to teach them. and vice versa, they can teach us things out of our realms too.

sorry long rant, but again, it's just a matter of if u can tolerate whatever struggles u have being w/ him. in my opinion, there's an upside and downside to being involved w/ a cap but it's def not something worth missing if u decide not to. they're not as intellectually stimulating as an air sign or exciting as a fire sign to me.

hope this helped! 🙂

Posted by WaterCup
no probs girl, any of the fatal contacts i mentioned? Venus in cap, wow. older men fetish? Lol

OMG yessss. I cannot believe how accurate that was. I dont date a man under 40. Not enough experience or money for me...lol

Posted by chemengin
"the other day threatened to "not wear protection" cuz he wants to get me preggers."

Hell NO...that is out of control. and only after a week. but this is how caps are. i've seen my friend chasing women down trying to make them do what he believed they suppose to do. its crazy. i tease him and tell him he is going to get arrested for stalking.

girl please you dont have to take this crap. this irrational, erratic behavior should not occur because you cancelled plans. if he cant handle his feelings of disappointment too bad. he is a grown man. he should not be shouting at you over that. nah just let him go. he will do this again.

and that whole getting me pregnant thing is a deal breaker.

OH but I need to update yall. He acting right now. I straightened that azz all the way up. We good. lol

Posted by aquarius21
my last ex was a cap n he was VERY aggressive from beginning to finish lol. him being pissed off about you not being able to make it sounds familiar too. i like to take my time and he'd always get angry when i was late. i read that time to them is everything so maybe thats why. but this one time i planned on coming over but i was having dinner with my best friend first (which shouldn't have been a prob), n he was so furious that i didnt come right away that he punched 2 holes in the walls at his house!

im not saying all cap guys r crazy like that, but i think it's just aqua & caps r so completely diff n that's wut makes it difficult. they're traditional and think they know better; we're untraditional and actually DO know better haha. but differences aside, i think u guys can both learn from each other if u stick it out. ultimately, it's up to how YOU feel. if u feel u can't tolerate him, then dump him. if his antics r forgivable, then stick it out n just explain to him whats wrong in your eyes. caps aren't as good communicators as we r and can b very stubborn when accepting new ideas and diff outlooks -- but if anything, we're the ones to teach them. and vice versa, they can teach us things out of our realms too.

sorry long rant, but again, it's just a matter of if u can tolerate whatever struggles u have being w/ him. in my opinion, there's an upside and downside to being involved w/ a cap but it's def not something worth missing if u decide not to. they're not as intellectually stimulating as an air sign or exciting as a fire sign to me.

hope this helped! 🙂

Yes this helped hun. Thanks. He called me with that BS again and I told him bye bye babes. U not hurting me one bit. Im not conceited but hunny it wont be hard to replace u. Since that convo he has been the best thing since pumpkin pie. Now when we have plans and Im running late which is almost all the time...I just call him. And when I do that he says "thats ok baby-take ure time" so its all about communication and compromise. Imma post that update from the Capp board. BRB.

Ok...so here is the update. LOL. Things took a very sharp turn. After the argument-I just left him alone. And that was going OK for about a day then he called and apologized. He confessed that he was used to getting his way and he thought that that was the case here. But he has realized that I am different and that I actually been what he has been looking for. He said that he was tired of what he was used 2 and has been trying to settle down but the women in this area dont give him a challenge so he runs over top of them with charm.

With that being said. Things have slowed down. He is more "realistic" with his feelings. He still says I love U occassionally BUT he proves it. In this little bit of time he has done so much for me and hasnt asked me for a red cent which I am certainly not used 2. I havent asked him to do anything for me but its like he anticipates my needs and just does it or takes care of it and I have always needed someone like that because I have alot on my plate. Plus I feel important and relevant.

And let me just I have never had sex this amazing in my life. He is "gifted" in that department and everything I have researched on the capp man this happens to be the truest...

caps have sex!? A GREAT one!? News to me, lol. Them and virgo men dont look like they know where/what a v-jayjay is, they look too serious for such things. Business man in the office and a chipperndale dancer in private, i guess. Never judge a book..

Well I dunno if you're gonna see a cap do a private dance...that's mermen. But caps know how to handle business in the office and the bedroom...so I've read.

Posted by MissAQ4real
Ok...so here is the update. LOL. Things took a very sharp turn. After the argument-I just left him alone. And that was going OK for about a day then he called and apologized. He confessed that he was used to getting his way and he thought that that was the case here. But he has realized that I am different and that I actually been what he has been looking for. He said that he was tired of what he was used 2 and has been trying to settle down but the women in this area dont give him a challenge so he runs over top of them with charm.

With that being said. Things have slowed down. He is more "realistic" with his feelings. He still says I love U occassionally BUT he proves it. In this little bit of time he has done so much for me and hasnt asked me for a red cent which I am certainly not used 2. I havent asked him to do anything for me but its like he anticipates my needs and just does it or takes care of it and I have always needed someone like that because I have alot on my plate. Plus I feel important and relevant.

And let me just I have never had sex this amazing in my life. He is "gifted" in that department and everything I have researched on the capp man this happens to be the truest...

o wow thats nice everything sounds like its goin good! i like that ur not toleratin his bs n he's responding to it positively 🙂 he's def learnin from u lol. n lol bout the sex. i agree they are good. a little too rough in my opinion, but not a big issue lol =P

4got to add, just b careful. they can b controlling, demanding (bossy), and possessive too. hopefully those bad qualities won't show though. i've also read caps have a strange blend of confidence and insecurity. i can vouch for that having been involved w/ one and i have a lot of caps in my fam who oddly act macho one min, and then super self-conscious the next. but yeah, just wanted to share that 🙂

i just shuddered thinking about cap sex, it doesnt sound right, lol. Good for them. Bird, i just had a visual of cap man wearing a shirt and tie doing splits with dollar bills sticking out of his arse. The mermen one reminded me of Deuce Bigalow, American Gigolo, lol. The curly hair and all, i noticed most mermen have wavy hair. My fish ex had amazing hair and feet, i used to paint his toenails- really cute feet

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Posted by aquarius21

im not saying all cap guys r crazy like that, but i think it's just aqua & caps r so completely diff n that's wut makes it difficult. they're traditional and think they know better; we're untraditional and actually DO know better haha.

we are aggressive i cannot speak for all cappys but i am. by the way i do not deny your knowledge and cappys are all knowledgeable but still with what you have said you have acknowledged that we do know better

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K 🙂

It was just a joke

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Posted by chemengin
"the other day threatened to "not wear protection" cuz he wants to get me preggers."

Hell NO...that is out of control. and only after a week. but this is how caps are. i've seen my friend chasing women down trying to make them do what he believed they suppose to do. its crazy. i tease him and tell him he is going to get arrested for stalking.

girl please you dont have to take this crap. this irrational, erratic behavior should not occur because you cancelled plans. if he cant handle his feelings of disappointment too bad. he is a grown man. he should not be shouting at you over that. nah just let him go. he will do this again.

and that whole getting me pregnant thing is a deal breaker.

OH but I need to update yall. He acting right now. I straightened that azz all the way up. We good. lol

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ok, good because that getting you pregnant shit wasnt flying right with me. and communication is key to any relationship. i'm happy he got his head in order and is acting better. he better..

Posted by tbird
Well I dunno if you're gonna see a cap do a private dance...that's mermen. But caps know how to handle business in the office and the bedroom...so I've read.

i heard that too. a cappy broke up with a girl i know. she stalked him. and thought the way to get him back was sex. he told her we had great sex but thats all it was. I was like really?? a cap that wants mental stimulation. gtfo.

she continued to stalk him after he got married too. she never got it. she was a libra. he got a restraining order against her.

and now she always compare sex with her current bf with the sex she had with the cap.

lol @ cap sex, i think im missing out on something good here. Too bad many dont look the part of a sex kitten. Next time...

your story about the libra girl reminded me of my sister's friend (sign unkown). She has been waiting for a guy for over two decades, he married someone else years ago. On their last day together (20+ fucking years ago), he forgot a shirt which she never washed. My sister says she takes the shirt everywhere in her handbag. WTF? I think its sad to let somebody ruin u like that. Oh the mysteries of a thing called love..

Posted by WaterCup
your story about the libra girl reminded me of my sister's friend (sign unkown). She has been waiting for a guy for over two decades, he married someone else years ago. On their last day together (20+ fucking years ago), he forgot a shirt which she never washed. My sister says she takes the shirt everywhere in her handbag. WTF? I think its sad to let somebody ruin u like that. Oh the mysteries of a thing called love..

wow that is very sad. 20+ years ago and he is married. she should move on.
but the libra girl keeps all the stuff that cap left at her apartment too. when i was helping her move, i was like oh well we can throw this away. i guess to save face she said yes. but why did i see her later going in the trash to get that bag he left.

some people just dont move on..

he broke up with her 7 years ago.

lol @ the trash treasure hunting. Its really sad. They all seem to be ashamed, but cant seem to stop themselves. My sister said once in some place, the shirt fell out, she quickly put it back and then started crying. Ppl like this need therapy. What makes somebody so unforgetable over so many years, that u put your own life on hold for them? I dont get it. Ppl who cant let go collect funny mementos, saw 1 guy on tyra' talk show- he had 1 odd looking toenail (more like a claw, lol ) belonging to an ex. Everybody was like 'what the hell is that thing!?'. Hahaha

Posted by WaterCup
i just shuddered thinking about cap sex, it doesnt sound right, lol. Good for them. Bird, i just had a visual of cap man wearing a shirt and tie doing splits with dollar bills sticking out of his arse. The mermen one reminded me of Deuce Bigalow, American Gigolo, lol. The curly hair and all, i noticed most mermen have wavy hair. My fish ex had amazing hair and feet, i used to paint his toenails- really cute feet

PEW...u painted his toenails lol

Posted by WaterCup
lol @ cap sex, i think im missing out on something good here. Too bad many dont look the part of a sex kitten. Next time...

Girl....if u know like I know...u better go get u some of that, lol.

Thats ridiculos

i think i'll pass, maybe in another life. Air and fire men are more my thing. I'm glad that ur getting your OooOoOO's though. Scream for all of us who are missing out on some good loving, lol.

@watercup: oh yeah merfolk have beautiful feet and we look at other people feet all the time. I used to paint my cancer toes all the toes. He hated it. I would smell his feet too. lmfao Hmmm yeah. Not when there smelly of course. What can I say I like feet. Pffff *gigglesnort* bahahaha

@chemengin: wow...what the hell is up with the stalking? I've never understood that. I mean you staring at a guy in the shadows or thru open blinds will never be received as endearing, more like O___o uhmmm. That's treetrunking creepy dude.

Never been with a cap... sounds intriguing though. I need someone to match my leo mars and mermaid aspects.

wow keeping a shirt after all this time and taking it everywhere. Wow I thought I was bad... I just smell my shirt after a date. I can smell his cologne on my shirt. Not all the time or more than once. Okay now I don't feel bad anymore. lol Sheesh.

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Posted by chemengin

Posted by tbird
Well I dunno if you're gonna see a cap do a private dance...that's mermen. But caps know how to handle business in the office and the bedroom...so I've read.

i heard that too. a cappy broke up with a girl i know. she stalked him. and thought the way to get him back was sex. he told her we had great sex but thats all it was. I was like really?? a cap that wants mental stimulation. gtfo.

she continued to stalk him after he got married too. she never got it. she was a libra. he got a restraining order against her.

and now she always compare sex with her current bf with the sex she had with the cap.

haha, whats the point of comparing, i don't think anyone can match a cappy in sex. how can you compare hours of non stop sex with a cappy with 10 minutes with the rest.
by the way, WaterCup has been hurt by a cappy it seems but she hats to admit it

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thats what she said, they had marathon sex. and whenever she talked about him that was all she talked about. you had to repeatedly ask her what else about him is making her act like that.

yea she was whipped.

Hey girl well I was in a relationship with a Capricorn for 8 years! We have now been broken up for almost 6 months. Aquarians and Capricorns are definetly a difficult match. It takes both to work at it really hard 50/50 for it work otherwise the flames and everything can easily die, the sparks, connection, etc..Capricorns can really get under Aquarians skin, press our buttons, and frustrate us. Be very careful.

@ilyb, never dated a cap guy in my life and hours of sex wouldnt do either, my attention span is very short- i prefer noodle sex (2 minutes flat). The ones ive met im not attracted to them (boring), plus im already taken, so i guess i'll never know.

My capp irks the crap outta me with all his "Can you's" and when I cannot answer the phone he gets mad.

Posted by WaterCup
@ilyb, never dated a cap guy in my life and hours of sex wouldnt do either, my attention span is very short- i prefer noodle sex (2 minutes flat). The ones ive met im not attracted to them (boring), plus im already taken, so i guess i'll never know.

LOL @ noodle sex (2 minutes flat)

Posted by MissAQ4real
My capp irks the crap outta me with all his "Can you's" and when I cannot answer the phone he gets mad.

i hate temper tantrums

Caps might not be known for moving fast, but the are known for being controlling as hell..And thats what this sounds like to me. In order to have the control over what he wants he feels he better make it happen quick. I would run like the wind. Not sure if you are familiar with this by "Drew Peterson" came to mind when I read this. He is the man that killed his 2nd and 3rd wife and he thought he was going to get away with it. The Drew Peterson Story sounds just like this, his last wife was a Aqua too..He was a Cap..Run girl, RUN!!! lol

Google his name up and read about it..

for me the cap sex isnt as amazing as one would hope... I've had better with an aqua...ijs. Oh yeah, and Im an aqua marathoner LOL! Its hard for me to find a mate that can keep up

Oh, yeah! Aqua sex is amazing!!!! I'm a cap, but never been with another cap. Curious as hell, though! lol! If they have half the passion, I have....well..... hahahaha!