Aquarius Boyfriend - is it over?

I am a Cancer with a Capricorn moon and my boyfriend is an Aquarius with a Sagittarius moon, we have been dating about 6 months and are best friends. Lately our relationship has been harder because he is working 80 hours a week and has taken on a second job. I understand that he is just trying to be productive get himself together. But it has been harder because we don't get to talk as much or see eachother. It has made the relationship feel a lot more distant. At first when I was talking to him about this things were okay and we were on the same page, he felt that things are harder and wanted them to improve. But then the conversation ended up getting too deep and I said if we only exchange a few texts a day it's harder for me to feel the love truthfully although I do know he loves me still, but this really bothered him. Then I said I felt like he was trying to build a future for himself and not taking our relationship into account anymore. I was saying do you think this relationship will work just trying to end the conversation on a good note since we were on the phone. Then he just kept remaining silent when I asked him questions and said things and kept saying I don't know and he wanted to get off the phone. Afterwards I said that I want to work through this together and I still want to be with him. He said back that he cares about me but just isn't feeling it anymore and that he may have taken on too much with work and a relationship. And now he needs to figure things out and find himself. I asked if that meant he doesn't want to be together anymore and all he said is idk. So I never responded because I'm just tired of the way he is acting and I've chosen to distance myself and break contact with him and wait for him to reach out to me. Me and him have talked about our future and are very serious, it just blows my mind how he could change his mind and come and go so quickly with things. I feel that if you love someone you should stick with them through the hard times. Am I handling this right? I just don't know what to do anymore. I still want to be with him but the way he is acting hurts.

Nobody knows.

What you said could have been written by myself; I went through something very similar. Including "I've chosen to distance myself and break contact with him". Aqua argued that he still loved me and wanted to stay in contact. I told him I would like to be left in peace for the next 1-2 month. That was the day Brangelina ended, and I haven't heard from him since. Not that I expect to hear from him again...

If the way he is acting hurts, what is the point of wanting to be with him...?

Aquas and cancers rarely click together.

As far as this case goes, it's usually best to give Aquarius some space in this relationship, since we seek independence and freedom without restrictions. I'm no relationship specialist, so I can't really comment that much. But he might get around to come back, seeing as he has a sag moon.

Posted by TheGreatSearcher
Aquas and cancers rarely click together.

As far as this case goes, it's usually best to give Aquarius some space in this relationship, since we seek independence and freedom without restrictions. I'm no relationship specialist, so I can't really comment that much. But he might get around to come back, seeing as he has a sag moon.

omgosh!! PSYCHIC.



I was going to post something on Zhang ziyou, the Chinese actress, who just recently married her Cancer sun fiancé, last year. They were dating for awhile I remembered how she was saying how she longed so deeply for a family, with children and dogs, pets running around, she longs for a deep relationship with that kind of thing....

ok, so her cancer man was married 2x before, but I saw his chart..... Aquarius mars, Gemini venus, vIrgo moon. lol

Posted by Cancersagmoon
I am a Cancer with a Capricorn moon and my boyfriend is an Aquarius with a Sagittarius moon, we have been dating about 6 months and are best friends. Lately our relationship has been harder because he is working 80 hours a week and has taken on a second job. I understand that he is just trying to be productive get himself together. But it has been harder because we don't get to talk as much or see eachother. It has made the relationship feel a lot more distant. At first when I was talking to him about this things were okay and we were on the same page, he felt that things are harder and wanted them to improve. But then the conversation ended up getting too deep and I said if we only exchange a few texts a day it's harder for me to feel the love truthfully although I do know he loves me still, but this really bothered him. Then I said I felt like he was trying to build a future for himself and not taking our relationship into account anymore. I was saying do you think this relationship will work just trying to end the conversation on a good note since we were on the phone. Then he just kept remaining silent when I asked him questions and said things and kept saying I don't know and he wanted to get off the phone. Afterwards I said that I want to work through this together and I still want to be with him. He said back that he cares about me but just isn't feeling it anymore and that he may have taken on too much with work and a relationship. And now he needs to figure things out and find himself. I asked if that meant he doesn't want to be together anymore and all he said is idk. So I never responded because I'm just tired of the way he is acting and I've chosen to distance myself and break contact with him and wait for him to reach out to me. Me and him have talked about our future and are very serious, it just blows my mind how he could change his mind and come and go so quickly with things. I feel that if you love someone you should stick with them through the hard times. Am I handling this right? I just don't know what to do anymore. I still want to be with him but the way he is acting hurts.

what kind of job is 80 hours a week as an example.

you need to be more patient. Patience is key with a man who works long longggg hours.

who wants to be successful.

he sounds like a workaholic.

are you two planning on marriage soon? if you do, you know how his work schedule is, with 80plus hours and a 2nd job.

you have to understand how you're going to "cope" with this.

Posted by TheGreatSearcher
Aquas and cancers rarely click together.

As far as this case goes, it's usually best to give Aquarius some space in this relationship, since we seek independence and freedom without restrictions. I'm no relationship specialist, so I can't really comment that much. But he might get around to come back, seeing as he has a sag moon.

"might get around to come back, seein.. sag moon."

can you elaborate more on this, specifically to woman with a sag moon

Posted by Undine
If the way he is acting hurts, what is the point of wanting to be with him...?

We do have a very strong connection, and I love him. So it's hard for me to not want to be with him especially since I really thought this would work. Things just haven't been going as well lately, I just don't feel that's a reason for him to end things or act so cold. It's just not making sense and it feels weird not talking to him but I guess it's best that I wait for him to reach out.

Is Zhang Ziyi an Aqua? Her beauty is surreal, it gave me goosebumps watching "The house of flying daggers".

My Aqua ex has also ben married to a Cancer, for a long time.

He has (most likely) a Cap rising, so his DC falls in Cancer...

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Posted by Cancersagmoon
I am a Cancer with a Capricorn moon and my boyfriend is an Aquarius with a Sagittarius moon, we have been dating about 6 months and are best friends. Lately our relationship has been harder because he is working 80 hours a week and has taken on a second job. I understand that he is just trying to be productive get himself together. But it has been harder because we don't get to talk as much or see eachother. It has made the relationship feel a lot more distant. At first when I was talking to him about this things were okay and we were on the same page, he felt that things are harder and wanted them to improve. But then the conversation ended up getting too deep and I said if we only exchange a few texts a day it's harder for me to feel the love truthfully although I do know he loves me still, but this really bothered him. Then I said I felt like he was trying to build a future for himself and not taking our relationship into account anymore. I was saying do you think this relationship will work just trying to end the conversation on a good note since we were on the phone. Then he just kept remaining silent when I asked him questions and said things and kept saying I don't know and he wanted to get off the phone. Afterwards I said that I want to work through this together and I still want to be with him. He said back that he cares about me but just isn't feeling it anymore and that he may have taken on too much with work and a relationship. And now he needs to figure things out and find himself. I asked if that meant he doesn't want to be together anymore and all he said is idk. So I never responded because I'm just tired of the way he is acting and I've chosen to distance myself and break contact with him and wait for him to reach out to me. Me and him have talked about our future and are very serious, it just blows my mind how he could change his mind and come and go so quickly with things. I feel that if you love someone you should stick with them through the hard times. Am I handling this right? I just don't know what to do anymore. I still want to be with him but the way he is acting hurts.

what kind of job is 80 hours a week as an example.

you need to be more patient. Patience is key with a man who works long longggg hours.

who wants to be successful.

he sounds like a workaholic.

are you two planning on marriage soon? if you do, you know how his work schedule is, with 80plus hours and a 2nd job.

you have to understand how you're going to "cope" with this.

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He works full time at 1 job 40-60 hours plus a second job part time at about 25 hours. I'm okay with this and have been supportive even though it's hard because I can be an independent person too. We aren't planning on marriage for awhile until we are more settled and have our lives together. He has never been a workaholic up until now just the past month. I just am confused as to how quickly he can change his mind and be unsure of this already.

Posted by Cancersagmoon

Posted by Undine
If the way he is acting hurts, what is the point of wanting to be with him...?

We do have a very strong connection, and I love him. So it's hard for me to not want to be with him especially since I really thought this would work. Things just haven't been going as well lately, I just don't feel that's a reason for him to end things or act so cold. It's just not making sense and it feels weird not talking to him but I guess it's best that I wait for him to reach out.

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I know, it didn't make any sense to me either...despite having Aqua Mercury conjunct in synastry.

I have to admit that my logic is not his logic and vice versa.

Why do you call yourself Cancersagmoon, if sag is his moon, not yours?

Posted by Undine
Is Zhang Ziyi an Aqua? Her beauty is surreal, it gave me goosebumps watching "The house of flying daggers".

My Aqua ex has also ben married to a Cancer, for a long time.

He has (most likely) a Cap rising, so his DC falls in Cancer...

she's cancer and scorpio dominant. 😛

I think so too, that he's cappy rising, makes sense, and he's older.

Posted by Undine
Is Zhang Ziyi an Aqua? Her beauty is surreal, it gave me goosebumps watching "The house of flying daggers".

My Aqua ex has also ben married to a Cancer, for a long time.

He has (most likely) a Cap rising, so his DC falls in Cancer...

she's cancer and scorpio dominant. 😛

I think so too, that he's cappy rising, makes sense, and he's older.

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Aquas and cancers go together like...

hmm mmmmm okay says, rene russo in this gif. --->

Update: So after him telling me he needed to find himself and figure things out, I had said does that mean you do not want to be together? and all he had to say was idk. So i chose to not respond. We both did not contact each other for 3 days after that trying to give things space and I finally reached out to him. He said whos this and i came to find out he deleted my number. He said what do you want, and i said why did you delete my number i thought we were just taking space from each other. He said its funny how i didnt text him back and never talked about giving him space, after 3 days he assumed it was over. I am absolutely mind blown. I can see now why aquarius and cancer is not a good mix. I tried to explain myself and he said im not going to argue about this, I am done. I have never had someone be so cold and cruel over a simple miscommunication. I am in shock right now and completely heartbroken. Just trying to give him space and clear my head ended the relationship, even though he did not contact me either. I'm pretty much at a loss for words at this point.

Posted by Undine
Why do you call yourself Cancersagmoon, if sag is his moon, not yours?

haha oh my. I'm new to this website and was kind of in a rush when trying to make a screen name because I couldn't think of anything good. I only recently learned about my moon sign so I did that by error but I don't think it can be changed now. oh well :/

And here is something that helped me:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dating-and-mating/201610/3-ways-manage-second-thoughts-after-breakup

"I feel that if you love someone you should stick with them through the hard times. "

Yeah, this is what a water sign would say and do. For Aqua men is a bit different:

"I think that if you are going through hard times, you should stop loving someone!" is their motto 😄

Posted by Undine
"I feel that if you love someone you should stick with them through the hard times. "

Yeah, this is what a water sign would say and do. For Aqua men is a bit different:

"I think that if you are going through hard times, you should stop loving someone!" is their motto 😄

Yes, I am still very confused because for the most part this is very out of character for him. Normally he is mature but this is absolutely ridiculous and childish and a very weird break up. At this point I'm not going to contact him anymore although it is hard. But since he has really hurt me and been so cold I guess it's for the best. After we broke up he also posted do what's best for yourself not others. I honestly feel like he is trying to get attention and a reaction out of all this but I might be wrong. 8 definitely feel that he will regret this and will end up contacting me in the future. And guys just deal with break ups really differently with girls more often than not. Thanks for sharing the article and your experience. I think I would like to avoid Aquariuses from now on and I now know I deserve better than someone who leaves when times get hard.

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Posted by TheGreatSearcher
Aquas and cancers rarely click together.

As far as this case goes, it's usually best to give Aquarius some space in this relationship, since we seek independence and freedom without restrictions. I'm no relationship specialist, so I can't really comment that much. But he might get around to come back, seeing as he has a sag moon.

"might get around to come back, seein.. sag moon."

can you elaborate more on this, specifically to woman with a sag moon

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Something that sag often has in common is that even if they kinda leave or go away, they will come back. Aquarius shares a rather similar trait, pretty much reinforcing it.

Posted by TheGreatSearcher

Posted by dracula

Posted by TheGreatSearcher
Aquas and cancers rarely click together.

As far as this case goes, it's usually best to give Aquarius some space in this relationship, since we seek independence and freedom without restrictions. I'm no relationship specialist, so I can't really comment that much. But he might get around to come back, seeing as he has a sag moon.

"might get around to come back, seein.. sag moon."

can you elaborate more on this, specifically to woman with a sag moon

Something that sag often has in common is that even if they kinda leave or go away, they will come back. Aquarius shares a rather similar trait, pretty much reinforcing it.

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very interesting, never have thought about it this way. I guess sag's show off this fiesty and hard headness that im done but thats just the outter shell, their inner shells says otherwise