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Aquarius Connections..................
Well, I'll give you an example. If you're main goal in life is to be a millionaire, then chances are you'll do what you've got to do to get that million dollars. You'll get all the degrees necessary, you'll play the lottery enough times or you'll get your money the NON-legit way. Either way, you want that million dollars & won't stop until you get it. Well, if Mcdonalds & other low paying jobs keep offering you positions, NO you will not take it b/c your eye is STILL on the prize & you won't have time for anything else other than the position that can pay you the salary that you are looking for. It doesn't matter if 1,000 companies (that offer $ 100,000/yr) call you for an interview, b/c you'll only look for AND go for the jobs that START in the millions (to cut out the middle man).
Well this is how Aquarians are. Mental/intellectual connection is SO important to them. And early on they recognize that while others would've normally kept certain people around, they had the courage & the will power to let those people go. And when this happens the common denominator was LACK OF CONNECTION. So Aquarians make up their minds early on that they will ONLY give their energy to someone who has the ability to establish this with them. They're so determined to end up with a partner who they can connect with that they start testing from DAY ONE to see if their date is a match! They won't even give you a 2nd date if there is no chance of a connection. And sometimes we wait & wait, but once we see that having a connection is a No-go, we will detach & leave. The reason most Aquarians have that connection with so many people for so long is b/c they ONLY attach & attract the people whom they had a connection with from the beginning...that way they don't have to guess, try to force it or beg that person to have it. And we all know that once a connection is established, it's the HARDEST thing to break.
Well this is how Aquarians are. Mental/intellectual connection is SO important to them. And early on they recognize that while others would've normally kept certain people around, they had the courage & the will power to let those people go. And when this happens the common denominator was LACK OF CONNECTION. So Aquarians make up their minds early on that they will ONLY give their energy to someone who has the ability to establish this with them. They're so determined to end up with a partner who they can connect with that they start testing from DAY ONE to see if their date is a match! They won't even give you a 2nd date if there is no chance of a connection. And sometimes we wait & wait, but once we see that having a connection is a No-go, we will detach & leave. The reason most Aquarians have that connection with so many people for so long is b/c they ONLY attach & attract the people whom they had a connection with from the beginning...that way they don't have to guess, try to force it or beg that person to have it. And we all know that once a connection is established, it's the HARDEST thing to break.
Having a connection (to an Aqua) means the ability to:
1. Talk about any & everything, from the odd to the normal without feeling bad or annoyed with doing so.
2. Having the ability to open up & wear all your vulnerabilities on your sleeve, but only for that 1 person b/c they are worth it.
3. Someone having the ability to take your mind to place it's never gone. To think about things in a way that you've never thought of before. IT's about having something that is ODD, UNIQUE & different than what you're used to. (It's no different than why people love to travel outside of the U.S. It's b/c all the different cultures & places are unfamiliar, but yet awe you at the same time.)
4. It's the ability to share your deepest darkest secrets & actually not feel doubtful or fearful to do so. It's about being able to step outside of your normal element or comfort zone for that person when you normally wouldn't for anybody else.
5. It's having a certain & UNEXPLAINED natural comfort around that person. When I went to Italy, no I didn't speak their language & no I wasn't use to how things worked over there. BUT, there was a comfort there that I was willing to adapt to even though it was different & outside of my comfort/normal zone. And b/c I was so comfortable & in "awe" there, I naturally didn't want to leave either. It's the same thing with Aquas. Once we finally meet someone who naturally gives us an unexplained comfort zone, we hold on b/c we recognize how RARE that is. And we hope that our partner/date feels the same way. And when both people feel the same comfort, the connection tends to get deeper (without limits) & tends to last so long
1. Talk about any & everything, from the odd to the normal without feeling bad or annoyed with doing so.
2. Having the ability to open up & wear all your vulnerabilities on your sleeve, but only for that 1 person b/c they are worth it.
3. Someone having the ability to take your mind to place it's never gone. To think about things in a way that you've never thought of before. IT's about having something that is ODD, UNIQUE & different than what you're used to. (It's no different than why people love to travel outside of the U.S. It's b/c all the different cultures & places are unfamiliar, but yet awe you at the same time.)
4. It's the ability to share your deepest darkest secrets & actually not feel doubtful or fearful to do so. It's about being able to step outside of your normal element or comfort zone for that person when you normally wouldn't for anybody else.
5. It's having a certain & UNEXPLAINED natural comfort around that person. When I went to Italy, no I didn't speak their language & no I wasn't use to how things worked over there. BUT, there was a comfort there that I was willing to adapt to even though it was different & outside of my comfort/normal zone. And b/c I was so comfortable & in "awe" there, I naturally didn't want to leave either. It's the same thing with Aquas. Once we finally meet someone who naturally gives us an unexplained comfort zone, we hold on b/c we recognize how RARE that is. And we hope that our partner/date feels the same way. And when both people feel the same comfort, the connection tends to get deeper (without limits) & tends to last so long
Krys, Thanks for your thoughts....... I didn't really understand how the whole millionaire example compares to a connection with someone but it still made sense as a seperate issue.
I know that I have a connection with my Aqua but I want to know if this is a regular thing with Aquas. Does this happen in every relationship? We did have a strong connection from the beginning and at first I just thought it was good chemistry but it seems to get deeper the more I get to know him.
I just want to know in a course of an Aquas love/like life, do they have these types of connections often.
For example: If an Aqua has had 3 long relationships, was there a deep connection with each one? For me I dated but got bored of men really quickly. I had boyfriends for a year or so but never took things seriously. It takes a lot for me to get and remain interested. I was with a Gemini for 10 years and fell out of love when I met this Aqua. It was like my eyes were open to what I finally wanted in a man.
I know that I have a connection with my Aqua but I want to know if this is a regular thing with Aquas. Does this happen in every relationship? We did have a strong connection from the beginning and at first I just thought it was good chemistry but it seems to get deeper the more I get to know him.
I just want to know in a course of an Aquas love/like life, do they have these types of connections often.
For example: If an Aqua has had 3 long relationships, was there a deep connection with each one? For me I dated but got bored of men really quickly. I had boyfriends for a year or so but never took things seriously. It takes a lot for me to get and remain interested. I was with a Gemini for 10 years and fell out of love when I met this Aqua. It was like my eyes were open to what I finally wanted in a man.
I just want to know in a course of an Aquas love/like life, do they have these types of connections often."
Like I said, Aquas seek a connection FIRST before they seek anything else. The only people Aquas will invest energy into are the people with whom they've established connections with. So just assume that every time you see an Aqua dating someone & actually holding on to that person, it's b/c a connection was made.
And of course some Aquas (who are not ready for commitment) STILL look for a connection, even if it's just through friendship or for sexual purposes. For the most part, most Aquas seek that connection no matter what & won't feel guilty for leaving or detaching if they don't get it, which is no different than a man who won't accept a job that doesn't atleast START OUT paying a million dollars. The requirements for even getting to know our last names include having a connection & usually if an Aqua can't establish a connection with someone, they won't see the point or the motivation to continue. Thus, most of the time you see an Aqua with someone (rather it's long term or short term) it's b/c a connection has been made. There are very FEW Aquas who stay around those whom they don't feel a connection with. And usually when you do see an Aqua who's dealing with someone like that, they're on their way out the door anyways.
Like I said, Aquas seek a connection FIRST before they seek anything else. The only people Aquas will invest energy into are the people with whom they've established connections with. So just assume that every time you see an Aqua dating someone & actually holding on to that person, it's b/c a connection was made.
And of course some Aquas (who are not ready for commitment) STILL look for a connection, even if it's just through friendship or for sexual purposes. For the most part, most Aquas seek that connection no matter what & won't feel guilty for leaving or detaching if they don't get it, which is no different than a man who won't accept a job that doesn't atleast START OUT paying a million dollars. The requirements for even getting to know our last names include having a connection & usually if an Aqua can't establish a connection with someone, they won't see the point or the motivation to continue. Thus, most of the time you see an Aqua with someone (rather it's long term or short term) it's b/c a connection has been made. There are very FEW Aquas who stay around those whom they don't feel a connection with. And usually when you do see an Aqua who's dealing with someone like that, they're on their way out the door anyways.
Another example: Some men require that any woman they date has to be under 150 pounds. That is their requirement & will not go any further unless that requirement is met first. So if you hear about this same man dating a new woman, it's only natural to assume that she's under 150 pounds, automatically. If there's one thing you know about his new girlfriend, atleast you know she has to be under 150lbs.
That's how Aquas are. Aquas have a mental connection requirement in the beginning & won't settle for anything less, no matter how tempting or good that person is in other areas. So when you see Aquas dating others, you should automatically assume that they are ONLY giving that person the time of day b/c there must have been some kind of mental/intellectual connection that was established. Get it? lol
That's how Aquas are. Aquas have a mental connection requirement in the beginning & won't settle for anything less, no matter how tempting or good that person is in other areas. So when you see Aquas dating others, you should automatically assume that they are ONLY giving that person the time of day b/c there must have been some kind of mental/intellectual connection that was established. Get it? lol
And b/c Aquas have that requirement, it's only natural to assume that there must be some kind of deep connection in all of thier relationships. Alot of people that have never dated Aquas tend to cling to or be "Awed" by the 1st Aqua they meet.
My 1st love was a Libra & I knew from our first real & deep conversation that he was hooked. I just knew it. He was so amazed & so curious & in awe at how our connection had been established almost immediately. For some people they immediately establish a connection with their Aquas & for others, it may take awhile, but either way, most people usually end up with an Aqua that has left some kind of mark on them, whether the relationship lasted or not.
And yes, if both people drop all the caution & insecurity, it's common for the connection between both an Aqua & the other person to get even deeper as time goes on. Even after hurt, betrayal or something scandalous happens to break off the relationship/friendship, there is still the connection that is left behind & goes unchanged. That's why alot of Aquas & people who deal with them have the hardest time getting over the relationship & moving on emotionally. Having a connection that is that unexplainable & awesome is not something the average person wants to give up, even if the relationship itself is not worth saving.
My 1st love was a Libra & I knew from our first real & deep conversation that he was hooked. I just knew it. He was so amazed & so curious & in awe at how our connection had been established almost immediately. For some people they immediately establish a connection with their Aquas & for others, it may take awhile, but either way, most people usually end up with an Aqua that has left some kind of mark on them, whether the relationship lasted or not.
And yes, if both people drop all the caution & insecurity, it's common for the connection between both an Aqua & the other person to get even deeper as time goes on. Even after hurt, betrayal or something scandalous happens to break off the relationship/friendship, there is still the connection that is left behind & goes unchanged. That's why alot of Aquas & people who deal with them have the hardest time getting over the relationship & moving on emotionally. Having a connection that is that unexplainable & awesome is not something the average person wants to give up, even if the relationship itself is not worth saving.
Krys, again, thanks so much for your insight! I just want to be able to understand where I am in my own situation with my Aqua.
If I know that he has these connections frequently it makes it easier for me to not get so wrapped up in him and not take it so serious.
I completely understand the example about the weight of a date, my Aqua likes girls of a certain type and all of us seem to look a little alike which is kind of funny to me.
I am the only one that never asked about being his girlfriend (even though back then I secretly wanted to) now with the help of this board and being able to understand him better I know that being in the friend zone is better.
I just recently asked him how good of a friend I am to him and he said a close friend. I asked how many other females are in that category and he said just me and his family members. Thats enough for me and I'm hoping we keep getting closer.
He is one of the macho Aquas and everything always needs to be his choice, I've had to learn in certain situations I need to word things in question formats so he can have a choice of what he wants to do otherwise he will just say no.
I've never had to use my brain so much in a relationship.(sounds kind of weird but I don't know the right words for what I mean) I'm constantly thinking when I have talks with him. I even have to think about the stuff I can say to him because he is so literal and takes things at face value.
If I know that he has these connections frequently it makes it easier for me to not get so wrapped up in him and not take it so serious.
I completely understand the example about the weight of a date, my Aqua likes girls of a certain type and all of us seem to look a little alike which is kind of funny to me.
I am the only one that never asked about being his girlfriend (even though back then I secretly wanted to) now with the help of this board and being able to understand him better I know that being in the friend zone is better.
I just recently asked him how good of a friend I am to him and he said a close friend. I asked how many other females are in that category and he said just me and his family members. Thats enough for me and I'm hoping we keep getting closer.
He is one of the macho Aquas and everything always needs to be his choice, I've had to learn in certain situations I need to word things in question formats so he can have a choice of what he wants to do otherwise he will just say no.
I've never had to use my brain so much in a relationship.(sounds kind of weird but I don't know the right words for what I mean) I'm constantly thinking when I have talks with him. I even have to think about the stuff I can say to him because he is so literal and takes things at face value.
If I know that he has these connections frequently it makes it easier for me to not get so wrapped up in him and not take it so serious."
I understand. Understand though that while yes, it's true that Aquas have deep connections in MOST (if not every) relationship they have, there's also a difference in each connection/relationship. Each connection with each different person is different. Sometimes their connection with 1 person might be extremely deep. And then when that relationship doesn't work out, the connection with the next person might be there, but only be medium or slight. They personally get themselves involved in each connection & start all over each time a different connection is established with a different person. Aquas are always changing (change brought on by THEMSELVES, not others) & b/c of this, no connection is ever the same. Alot of people will agree that that same Aqua had a connection in all of their relationships but at the same time, each person has a different version of that same Aqua. Aquas aren't scripted & quite honestly, don't even want the same connection with a new person like they had with the old person.
It's no different than the weight example. You know that every girl the guy dates will be no more than 150 pounds, BUT that doesn't mean that all the women will look, weigh & be the same. The weight is just the forefront, the outer boundary & the primary expectation. But once that expectation is met, there are no limits/boundaries for how far the connection will go after that.
I understand. Understand though that while yes, it's true that Aquas have deep connections in MOST (if not every) relationship they have, there's also a difference in each connection/relationship. Each connection with each different person is different. Sometimes their connection with 1 person might be extremely deep. And then when that relationship doesn't work out, the connection with the next person might be there, but only be medium or slight. They personally get themselves involved in each connection & start all over each time a different connection is established with a different person. Aquas are always changing (change brought on by THEMSELVES, not others) & b/c of this, no connection is ever the same. Alot of people will agree that that same Aqua had a connection in all of their relationships but at the same time, each person has a different version of that same Aqua. Aquas aren't scripted & quite honestly, don't even want the same connection with a new person like they had with the old person.
It's no different than the weight example. You know that every girl the guy dates will be no more than 150 pounds, BUT that doesn't mean that all the women will look, weigh & be the same. The weight is just the forefront, the outer boundary & the primary expectation. But once that expectation is met, there are no limits/boundaries for how far the connection will go after that.
I've never had to use my brain so much in a relationship.(sounds kind of weird but I don't know the right words for what I mean) I'm constantly thinking when I have talks with him. I even have to think about the stuff I can say to him because he is so literal and takes things at face value."
I understand exactly what you're saying. Sometimes Aquas find themselves involved in a DEEP connection with someone & feel themselves saying the exact same thing. And it's even more promising for the other person if the Aqua finds themselves in just as much "awe" like their partners do. Alot of times Aquas are used to being the one in the relationship that "awes" people; we're used to being the unique, & odd ball one & the ones who make people expand their imaginations beyond belief. And when we meet someone who has that same effect on us, it's only natural that the connection gets even deeper.
And when he told you that you were close like his family, you should take that very seriously! Aquas take friendships & relationships very seriously & aren't the ones to trust everybody they call "Friends." So when an Aqua actually considers you a close friend, don't take that for granted b/c they are serious & take it more seriously than you'll ever know.
I understand exactly what you're saying. Sometimes Aquas find themselves involved in a DEEP connection with someone & feel themselves saying the exact same thing. And it's even more promising for the other person if the Aqua finds themselves in just as much "awe" like their partners do. Alot of times Aquas are used to being the one in the relationship that "awes" people; we're used to being the unique, & odd ball one & the ones who make people expand their imaginations beyond belief. And when we meet someone who has that same effect on us, it's only natural that the connection gets even deeper.
And when he told you that you were close like his family, you should take that very seriously! Aquas take friendships & relationships very seriously & aren't the ones to trust everybody they call "Friends." So when an Aqua actually considers you a close friend, don't take that for granted b/c they are serious & take it more seriously than you'll ever know.
Aquas take friendships & relationships very seriously & aren't the ones to trust everybody they call "Friends." So when an Aqua actually considers you a close friend, don't take that for granted b/c they are serious & take it more seriously than you'll ever know.
Kyr...this statement is very true. In my family there are 7 girls and 2 boys, a mixture of signs but the two sisters that i get along the best with are my 2 aquas sisters, they are the only ones that i trust and we can talk about any and everything. And they will always call me first if they have something important to discuss or need my opinion. Their views are very worldly and i like that.
And this aqua guy that i have been riding with on his motorcycle, its like he is taking this *friendship* to the max...it seems that i have become his best friend and its not sexual at all..just purely friends hanging out and conversating. Aquas are very intelligent people!! Maybe because my asc is in aqua that makes a difference as well..
Kyr...this statement is very true. In my family there are 7 girls and 2 boys, a mixture of signs but the two sisters that i get along the best with are my 2 aquas sisters, they are the only ones that i trust and we can talk about any and everything. And they will always call me first if they have something important to discuss or need my opinion. Their views are very worldly and i like that.
And this aqua guy that i have been riding with on his motorcycle, its like he is taking this *friendship* to the max...it seems that i have become his best friend and its not sexual at all..just purely friends hanging out and conversating. Aquas are very intelligent people!! Maybe because my asc is in aqua that makes a difference as well..
Waterbaby,
Hmmmm.............. Not too sure what you were trying to say but thanks anyways. lol
Thanks again Krys for your opinion, I value it a lot because it's always spot on.
Bella, That's not TMI, thanks for sharing you experience with me.
Hmmmm.............. Not too sure what you were trying to say but thanks anyways. lol
Thanks again Krys for your opinion, I value it a lot because it's always spot on.
Bella, That's not TMI, thanks for sharing you experience with me.
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