Aquarius guy in my life

Back in Sept 2011, I was chatting to this guy (Aqua) on fb and we instantly clicked. We exchanged numbers chatted away and it was so comfortable and easy. I was really opening up and chatting to him like he was my best mate.After a few days we linked to watch a movie and we were just chatting away for ages.when we were at the cinema waiting for the movie to start we were messing about cussing each other and strangely it was fun and exciting. Then when the movie started I was watching the movie but I noticed he was looking at me at times.It felt nice in the moment that this guy is noticing me. Felt really special. We were whispering to each other then after he said he really wants to kiss me.i teased him a bit then we had this amazing kiss.. through out the movie we kept touching each other, holding hands and kissed at random times.. the movie ended and we went back to the car. We just couldn't take our eyes off each other.We messed around again and went a bit far and that's soo not like me.I??ve never been like that ever. He brought out this amazing wild side out of me. He said he likes me and he know I like him as well. He gave me that full on attention which I??ve always wanted from a guy. Well after that the following days he didn't message me much and I completely understood because he was packing to go to Uni. Even though I knew this I just wanted some re assurance that what's going on..where do I stand etc. He messaged me when he got to Uni that it would be best if we stayed as mates because it would be difficult for him to come and see me vice versa. I have given him his space. He has message me first sometimes.I have mentioned twice on occasions that I miss him.. miss chatting to him and he said he misses me too but cant do much.I just worry that will he lose interest in me?I??ve never felt this way about anyone before and since I found out he's an Aqua, I??ve been reading the characteristics and they make sense. I??ve had shitty experiences when it comes to finding the right guy that I'm comfortable with. I finally find him and the one thing that's ruined it is the long distance. I give him his space but I just hope he doesn't loose interest in me.. throughout the year we have been chatting on and off and when we are around eachother its soo much fun. Recently if I message him, its a few word answers or a late response. I'd really appreciate advice from an Aqua male plz, I really like this guy.

.... just in November, i found out his dad was really unwell and it was stressful for him and his family. I was there to to support and listen to him and i even got his mind off things. After seeing him hes hardly got bk to me.. all iv had is a happy xmas and a new years message from him. :s

I would say keep it as it was. Don't expect anything from him. You've admitted long distance is hard and we all know that never works out well anyway.

So, keep chatting as usual. He is probably unsure right now what you're expecting from him, plus he's probably really busy getting settled, so that's probably the reason for the short answers and delayed messages. Just keep things light and carefree and most likely things will get back to the way it was. Let him know you aren't looking for romance and roses (even if you hope for them) and that you're just wanting to be mates. He should relax and come back around to his usual self.

If he's not messaging you, give him space and don't send anything to him except maybe once a week send him something fluffy like humorous stuff, funny observations, intellectual topics. Don't ask him any questions yall or send anything serious or about you or him, just so he knows you're not expecting anything serious. If he doesn't come back around after about 3 weeks, I'd say stop and wait.

That's all I've got. Maybe some of the aqua men will pitch in.

Oh, yeah. And I think you should just try to keep it as mates. That's what he's wanting. Who knows, maybe in the future, you guys will be at a place where you can pick it back up and run with it. Right now, think about other people.

Sadly aqua's can bn burnt out by sorps intensity. The two i dated were both wonderful women and i was extremely attracted to both. Their fire and passion for life was some thing i had never experianced before. My logical side got in the way and i was forced to move on. Thats what seems to have happen to you. The distance logically makes a real relationship hard, but he has feelings for you so he keeps his distance. He will never forget you.

Sadly aqua's can bn burnt out by sorps intensity. The two i dated were both wonderful women and i was extremely attracted to both. Their fire and passion for life was some thing i had never experianced before. My logical side got in the way and i was forced to move on. Thats what seems to have happen to you. The distance logically makes a real relationship hard, but he has feelings for you so he keeps his distance. He will never forget you.

i hate double posts it wasnt that good of a post lol

Ahh those dirty aquamans! Toying with hearts again I see *shakes head* 😛

And now lies the fun part in dissecting your aqua male! Do you know his date and time of birth and where? Only if you're interested because I can make a lot of assumptions about him right now. I don't like to generalise, loath it infact so keep in mind my opinion is based off the aquas I've known in my life and fundamentally me.

Tell you what now from what you've written can I just say you are the sweetest thing?

*shrugs* I really want to give you an honest opinion because I don't want you to feel hurt so I need all the necessary information and forever send you down this path of hating aqua man HAHA.

So apart from DOB, can you describe more of him? What's he like? any exes? Past problems? Cultural background? Oh geez I'm pulling out everything here because at a glance and let me stress that... AT A GLANCE he seems like one of those manipulative abusing aquas. What's the big red flag here for me? He cut contact to a minimal after that night. You started the thread with chatting on facebook and I just don't see why he can't still do that.

Posted by aquasnoz
Ahh those dirty aquamans! Toying with hearts again I see *shakes head* 😛

And now lies the fun part in dissecting your aqua male! Do you know his date and time of birth and where? Only if you're interested because I can make a lot of assumptions about him right now. I don't like to generalise, loath it infact so keep in mind my opinion is based off the aquas I've known in my life and fundamentally me.

Tell you what now from what you've written can I just say you are the sweetest thing?

*shrugs* I really want to give you an honest opinion because I don't want you to feel hurt so I need all the necessary information and forever send you down this path of hating aqua man HAHA.

So apart from DOB, can you describe more of him? What's he like? any exes? Past problems? Cultural background? Oh geez I'm pulling out everything here because at a glance and let me stress that... AT A GLANCE he seems like one of those manipulative abusing aquas. What's the big red flag here for me? He cut contact to a minimal after that night. You started the thread with chatting on facebook and I just don't see why he can't still do that.

i was hopeing that wasnt the case. Abusive aqua that is. They are out there in the world. I didnt get that impression but as clearly laid need more info.

(layed out) maybe i should read mystuff before i post grrrr!

Posted by EvilTurtle
(layed out) maybe i should read mystuff before i post grrrr!

haha something on the mind? 😉

It's not solid and it's more reflective of me as an aqua. If I truly found someone with that great connection she would be my everything. But then again I'm a slow mover and I need to be sure of what I feel. Thus I feel her immense feelings might not be mutual.

Call me a hopeless romantic but I almost want to say that he's definitely made up his mind about you, logic tells him to have minimal contact so that you live your life happy while he sorts his own problems out, get that education so he can better take care of you when he comes back.

But that's just it, need more info. I don't want to be negative but at the same time I don't want you place blind faith. There are many possibilities right now.

Posted by truecap
I would say keep it as it was. Don't expect anything from him. You've admitted long distance is hard and we all know that never works out well anyway.

So, keep chatting as usual. He is probably unsure right now what you're expecting from him, plus he's probably really busy getting settled, so that's probably the reason for the short answers and delayed messages. Just keep things light and carefree and most likely things will get back to the way it was. Let him know you aren't looking for romance and roses (even if you hope for them) and that you're just wanting to be mates. He should relax and come back around to his usual self.

If he's not messaging you, give him space and don't send anything to him except maybe once a week send him something fluffy like humorous stuff, funny observations, intellectual topics. Don't ask him any questions yall or send anything serious or about you or him, just so he knows you're not expecting anything serious. If he doesn't come back around after about 3 weeks, I'd say stop and wait.

That's all I've got. Maybe some of the aqua men will pitch in.

actually I have noticed that when i randomly send a funny message or image he responds to that and the conversation turns fun and light, even flirty. I completely understand that he has his own friends his studies etc.. and I give that space, I don't want to come across like this clingy needy woman. I??ll let him respond to me first. Thanks for your advice. Really helps x

Posted by EvilTurtle
Sadly aqua's can bn burnt out by sorps intensity. The two i dated were both wonderful women and i was extremely attracted to both. Their fire and passion for life was some thing i had never experianced before. My logical side got in the way and i was forced to move on. Thats what seems to have happen to you. The distance logically makes a real relationship hard, but he has feelings for you so he keeps his distance. He will never forget you.

Yeh I??ve read up on how scops and Aquas are the worse compatible match but at the same time iv also read they are the best too. Guess it depends really. I do know that I'm a passionate and emotional woman but to an extent, but that's what makes me a caring person also. I guess its because I get along with him so well and we have similar interests and his nature really appeals to me. I do know he has girls that are chasing him and he has told me about this one girl who came across very strong towards him. For a moment I was a lil jealous but I actually laughed it off with him strangely he's very easy to trust. I??ll just have to move on I guess..see where life takes me. Lol thanks x

Posted by aquasnoz
Ahh those dirty aquamans! Toying with hearts again I see *shakes head* 😛

And now lies the fun part in dissecting your aqua male! Do you know his date and time of birth and where? Only if you're interested because I can make a lot of assumptions about him right now. I don't like to generalise, loath it infact so keep in mind my opinion is based off the aquas I've known in my life and fundamentally me.

Tell you what now from what you've written can I just say you are the sweetest thing?

*shrugs* I really want to give you an honest opinion because I don't want you to feel hurt so I need all the necessary information and forever send you down this path of hating aqua man HAHA.

So apart from DOB, can you describe more of him? What's he like? any exes? Past problems? Cultural background? Oh geez I'm pulling out everything here because at a glance and let me stress that... AT A GLANCE he seems like one of those manipulative abusing aquas. What's the big red flag here for me? He cut contact to a minimal after that night. You started the thread with chatting on facebook and I just don't see why he can't still do that.

He's born 28 Jan 1987 don't know the time lol and he was born in the UK, London Well I can say I'm a kind sweet caring woman but I do have a wild side (but I keep that private) lol

Sometimes his behaviour can be frustrating for me but I wouldn't hate him. He's not a bad guy at all. But I can agree that he is very manipulating. Few month back he was back in town and wanted to see me. It was very late and the journey to get to him would make it late. I was being a little realistic at first saying that its late and we wouldn't have much time to spend together. He messaged me saying —if you had any feelings for me you would come?? — I guess you don't?? that really got to me and I questioned him that do you? I think he already knows that when he challenges me I would do it. When I saw him I questioned what he messaged me, his answer was that it was drink talk and got a bit shy about it..i laughed it off too thinking sure sure..

....cont
He's a DJ part time. loves his music.. He's very creative which I really like. He's very close to his family. Very passionate about his studies and future. He's very social and I can tell that he's loves to go out and make new friends. He's very truthful and honest. He can be very chatty one moment and the next he will be on shut down mode. He hasn't really focused on relationships that much. When we were first talking he mentioned that his previous relationship ended on bad terms. He wasn't giving her attention that she wanted and that ticked her off. It all started off so quick when we first got in contact. He poked me first on facebook, I messaged him with a —hi how are you— and it went from there.. we were constantly messaging each other for days. it was always him wanting to chat to me which felt really nice. We met, had a great time.. after that he hardly got back to me. It wasn't the same. Its just been on and off really communication wise and since then when he's been back in town iv met up with him 5 times. Also I feel that another thing is pulling him back from me is because of our age. I'm older than him. Back then he gave me that speech that age is just a number, you look younger etc which is true I do lol.. but after we linked he mentioned that my parents might have a problem with me being older.

Okay from that I can probably give you more insight, no specifics though but assuming he is a capricorn moon then somewhat like me with my cap in mercury it might be our belief to set some things straight in life. I don't think it has to do with you but more himself.

You mentioned he's had problems in the past with relationships, not showing enough affection. I can relate to that for sure not in a way that I agree with it but more so how people perceive 'affection'. I think even without the time of birth it's safe to assume his venus/mars combo is sag/aries this is where you might find the connection being a scorpio *shrugs* from the way you described it it seems to be pretty accurate, this intense passion. His Mars in Aries might be a bit selfish in what he wants to fight for and I can only relate this back to being Aqua is that when we're in a train of thought no matter what it is we really don't like to be disturbed until we can work it out. When we do work it out it' already resolved so we don't feel like we should voice it. It's tough to deal with but it's just how we go about things.

So it might be a combination of it all. His Father is unwell, he's in Uni and then on the other hand there's you as well. Everything's a chaotic mess to say the best. Maybe he's pulling himself back now to see the bigger picture. Even I'm somewhat irresponsible because I like to 'live' in the moment and worry later. What makes it worse is I think aqua has a way of burying feelings and thoughts and I think he's doing just that. Sorry to say but nothing right now screams out he thinks you're the one but know you must be in his heart if he even stopped to make a connection with you.

I'm indifferent on giving advice to please us Aquas. So I'll ask you one last question: is there anything you can do about the distance between you two? Like moving closer perhaps? If not then take it from an Aqua perspective, now is not the time to worry about anything.

I can relate to what you have mentioned because of certain situations that iv come across with him. He doesn't like to reveal his feelings too much. But we would have moments where we are continuously chatting and its soo much fun then the next he does his disappearing act on me. That's what questions me that have I done something wrong. Does he even care about me. He is flirty with other girls, and iv noticed that.. (of course it bugs me ) but I just let it be. Its like he's doing his standard uni stuff study, go out clubbing, going out with his mates.. sometimes I just wished that I had that time with him too.. oh well..

Because I have my own commitments here, I cant make that step of moving closer. I would make the effort and drive down to see him but it all depends on his —schedule?? lol
I didn't realise I was doing this but few times randomly I messaged him saying — was thinking of you and thought id see how u are— he responded with — are you in love with me?? ? at that point I didn't expect that. I replied back saying —no I care about you and wish the best for you?? love is a strong word and iv never used it. Where he replied with a —ok?? Just sometimes wish I got that guy back, the one who I first met. I??ve never really had a serious relationship. All the guys who have come in my life have been a disappoint. I guess I just hoped he wouldn't be another one. I mean I have even tired moving on from him and dated but it just didn't work.

aquasnoz, thank you for your advice x.. Its something that I do need to hear regardless if its good or bad. I just dont know who to talk to about this.

It's what we're here for bub *hug*

Keep in mind the whole going cold and detaching thing can't be helped in this case purely due to the distance and the only time I've ever done this is to not lead people on. I can only try to assure you that friendliness is our nature and that can rub off as being flirty in the eyes of other people.

I think you should've been more honest with your answer. Aquas are rather receptive and able to dissect behaviour. perhaps your in consistency threw him off? I agree love isn't a word to be thrown around but I just feel as if he's asking you to reaffirm it all. Me personally I do this too but if I don't feel the same I will actually just ignore or dance around the topic.

It really sucks I've had a similar experience before and I thought the best solution was to cut all contact but keep in mind at the time it was purely up to me to move to where she went and I just wasn't ready to do that. Unless you assure him you guys will see each other again chances are he'll probably feel like it's a lost cause regardless of the passion.

A personal piece of advice, I've let things go in my life before for better or worse but I've learnt to always say what I really feel. Not having something my way is much easier to deal with then regretting never voicing it. Just food for thought.

aquasnoz, well i didnt really want to freak him out if i did mention the 'L' word but to be honest I dont even know if it is love. I've never been in love and even if it is, i guess if im confident enough to tell him, I'm afraid of the rejection or to scare him off.
(please dont judge) but sometimes i feel that he wants to see me for sex. For him its that but for me its that and its an opportunity to spend time with him.. He has mentioned that we can only be mates etc and this has turned into a friends with benifits but at a long distance pace lol.. but at the same time we chat like mates, he opens up about whats going on with his family and personal life.. so its confusing.. I am always a mate to him above all and he knows that.. He knows I'll be there for him eg once he was very ill and I found out few of his mates couldnt take care of him so I offered to come over, stay over and take care of him.. he said I didnt have to because it would be a misson to travel. But with all this, can Aquas change there feelings towards someone or a situation?