We met almost a year ago and he came on strong at first then of course backed off so i thought he wasn't' interested. Then one of his friends told a friend of mine that "he was trying to get at me". I guess the friend thought I was hot but said that's his girl. Idk.
Anyways we started really talking in Feb and haven't gone longer then a week with out speaking to each other. We did hook up a while back around first meeting and I was a little disappointed in myself but it is what it is and I have told him I am not an easy girl..you got lucky.
Heres where it gets confusing for me. I really like this guy and maybe my intense infatuation for him is blinding me to the truth so I need some advice.
He will always hit me up, very rarely do I. We do have our own way of communicating and its on a very sexual level jokes and all. I personally don't mind it and like it because I have a dirty mind as well. We both pretty much think the same.
We both have discussed that we don't want a relationship so we hang out hook up laugh have a good time together but that is it. He never tells me anything about himself, I have to like pry it out of him I feel. I want to genuinely be friends with him but at times I feel maybe its to late for that being the type of relationship we have. I do get confused sometimes. I can't tell if he likes me or is using me. The last time we hooked up he came over late, I asked him to, we had planned to hang out the next day at an earlier time but I was missing him. Anyway, he came over we hooked up and then what do you know he started to get ready to leave and I flipped. I said wow that is a really douche move. He said I told you I had work. Okay he never told me, he told me right after we finished and I asked if he wanted water. I was so hurt. I text him the next day saying that was extremely disrespectful and to not hit me up anymore but a week later I ended up texting him (ugh I know i know) and he responded the next day and now we are talking againg.
He is always around, never disappears and always returns my messages if I ever contact him first.
He also takes adderall alot so I don't know if that messes with his thinking system and being an Aqua I don't know if that would make him worse.
He has opened up to me once maybe, and even invited me to come down and hang with him and his friends in San Diego, but that was after he chased me for five months and then we finally had sex.
He doesn't want a relationship with you. You are on the backburner and he keeps coming around so he can have sex with you, without any commitment, because that is what you said yes to. Doesn't matter what you say, "I'm not easy." You are acting easy by sleeping with him without any sort of commitment.
I actually have no problem with this in principle but it doesn't work for you. You want more from him. This situation doesn't work for you. Be honest with yourself about it and let this guy go. You can find someone who will give you what you want. The longer you hold onto this guy, the longer you put off finding someone else and the more hurt you will get.
Thank you for all the comments and the brutally honesty Sparrow. You are probably right, and I should just cut off contact.
The wierd part is I told him a week ago before he did that douche move on me that I only wanted to be hooking up with him..no one else..but still not technically be in a relationship and he was very happy about that and seemed down for it..then he went and started acting wierd.
Maybe I should just ignore him and see where things go. He has never been my only option, but he is the only I really want to have around. I do have another guy who is the exact opposite of him and who is a commitment freak..and loves being in a relationship..which freaks me out..ugh so i can't seem to find any middle ground.