Aquarius man

Ok, I'm just looking for different points of view on this situation.

Background info: Been seeing an Aqua for the last 8 months or so, but we first met in 2008 briefly. We reconnected on a casual basis. Sex is great, theres great chemistry between us, we have loads in common. He's a homebody like me and we chill a lot with eachother, have laughs.

Recently, probably in the last month or so we've got really close. He's been having problems with work, more specifically his boss (he's a mechanic) and we've both been there for eachother, giving support, kind words and lots of 'like' to eachother. He says things to me which suggest he wants more than what we 'are' (one time he said when are we going to have kids and run away...which I called him up on a few weeks later...he said he meant everything). He holds my hand when we're out, open doors, he's a real genlteman. The problem is because we met on a casual basis (he had a link when we met) we didn't meet on level ground. I agreed to still see him casually because before I met him I finished a 8 year relationship with a Leo which ended badly and was a waste of my time and I was very cautious coming out of that one so I was happy to be casual.

I'm still kinda happy to keep it casual for the fear of gettiing hurt but the other side of me wants to have him. When I'm getting doubtful about things he'll find a way to bring me back close to him. It's like a pull, I can't explain it. Like recently, he's been making it really difficult to resist him lol. He hasn't asked me out directly, but indirectly he makes me know, with little gestures (stroking my face or holding my hand) words and looks. With him, everything is so easy. He lets me look at his phone, to find a friends number for instance, or he'll show me a msg from a mate so no trust problems, and he started doing this quite early on. |But I'm on a seasaw. I don't know if I should take the plunge and ask him out (he's quite shy) or just leave things to go as they are because.....things are going good! (yesterday he said if I lived near him he wouldn't leave me except to go to work!)

I don't know what I'm asking really, just thoughts on this one.

Now for the charts:
Moi
Rising: Virgo
Sun: Sagg
Moon: Aqua
Mercury: Capricorn
Venus: Capricorn
Mars: Aquarius
Jupiter: Scorpio
Saturn: Scorpio
Uranus: Sag
Neptune: Sag
Pluto: Libra
N Node: Cancer

Ma Baby
Rising: Leo
Sun: Aqua
Moon: Libra
Mercury: Aqua
Venus: Aries
Mars: Aries

Cont...

Saturn: Scorpio
Uranus: Sag
Neptune: Cap
Pluto: Scorp
N Node: Taurus

sagis + aquas r supposed to be naturally compatible n really a lot alike n compliment each other very well. our signs have a great connection b/c we both like space and freedom too. but relationship-wise, ive read that a lot of relationships between the 2 signs are hard to progress into something more b/c both signs won't put n e effort into it lol. im an aqua n im shy too. n even if i liked someone id b too shy to bring it up esp b/c i hate talking about emotions so i just don't bother lol. n i think sagis dont like getting mushy neither so that's y we're so the same on that level. n we can easily do our own thing & disappear w/ the other not minding which is another reason y a relationship would b hard to evolve.

from an aqua perspective (n mayb it's diff b/c im an aqua girl too), but id b more comfortable just resuming that casual affair w/o talking about feelings and not seeing each other a lot. but when we do c each other everythings cool & affectionate lol. if u want something more, i think it'd have to b u to say something. that, and if u do want more out of someone, mayb it'd be better if it was a sign that's more aggressive than an aqua. b/c although i do think our signs r ideal partners, i feel like we're more better off as best friends. b/c u guys r so cool, to me i think its better b/c that way ur in our lives 4ever as opposed to being in a relationship w/ one where it'll eventually expire n we won't b friends n/e more. aquas r the sign of friendship, n its true b/c to me, friends r more important than lovers n im much more better at being a friend than someone's partner.

so those r my thoughts on sagis + aquas. hope it helped! 🙂

@ Aquarius21: Thanks for your feedback, I agree with most of what you said. I need my freedom and he's been the only person so far who's able to understand that and gives me that time. He has said that he likes how things are and to a point, I do too. I like that we're committed to eachother as friends and will be there for eachother. Out of both of us, I've dissappeared the most (Aqua moon) and when I come back he'll say 'It feels like I haven't spoken to you for a year' when the most I've been away for is a week. He is incredibly shy and I am too with the whole asking out/lets-be-in-a-relationship thing, you're spot on when you say we don't like to get into the mushiness of things...I find when I do try to probe him he clams up but when I don't, he'll open up.


@ 1urbancblue: Thanks for responding. He has the Libra moon not me! And I can see that in our case he is sure of our friendship (saying we are close friends) but hasen't made any firm moves to be more. So maybe he's not ready to go there yet. But I dunno, sometimes when im asking him a direct question about our relationship he gets slightly cryptic, like he won't give a definate yes or no answer which I have to figure out lol but I think it's due to his shyness.

So true about the dissapearing act - people really have a problem with it with me! But thankfully, he gets it even tho the first time I pulled one (was really stressed out at the time and I didn't contact him for about a week) he thought I was mad with him! He told me if I don't get to speak to you one day, I will the next so it's cool. I'm naturally quiet and kinda interverted and he sits in silence with me sometimes, no problems. Bliss!

He is very shy which I feel makes him endearing - at least he's feeling something lol. But I feel it's also problematic as he'll say something really sweet and heartfelt, I'd accept it and then that's it lol. What I do know is he really likes when I take control of some things which shows his passivity but having been in a previous dominate relationship with a Leo, I find it really hard to take control.