Aquarius man bizarre behavior?

I saw this guy on Facebook through suggested friends and on impluse I added him. I knew that we knew each other from somewhere but didn't remember where - plus he was so handsome to me. An hour after that he accepted my request and another hour after that he messages me asking "don't we know each other from somewhere?" 'Til this day we still haven't figured it out but anywho it's been a month of talking through Facebook messenger. A week into it he asked my for my number and we texted each other's phone briefly. I made a comment in jest about it "being weird to text" but he agreed and said he prefers Facebook messenger. So all we do is communicate through Facebook now.

I know everyone's first conclusion is that he probably has a girlfriend around checking his phone BUT he doesn't know that I found his Twitter and check it from time to time. He actually posted about not having a girlfriend and wanting someone to make him a priority so I know there isn't someone significant in his life yet.

He said he wanted to hear my voice over the phone the other day but never called. He makes plans to meet up but forgets or just doesn't mention it when the day comes. I never bring it up to him because I've been busy myself. However the other day he said that I don't make time for him. Wth?! Sometimes he's snappy and I snap back at him but I feel like he's testing me. Idk. AND I'm starting to wonder why he only wants to talk on Facebook. He literally just messaged me while writing this. Lol.

Can someone explain this behavior? They say Aquarius men are "different" but is this normal? Does he even like me?

Him:
Aquarius sun
Sagittarius moon
Capricorn Venus
Taurus Mars
Capricorn Mercury

Me:
Pisces sun
Aries moon
Capricorn Venus
Capricorn Mars
Aquarius Mercury

Anyone?

When he makes plans to meet up but doesn't mention it, why don't you mention it? Like "hey just double checking the time we are meeting at such and such". He might be wondering why you don't mention it as well.

as an Aqua, I prefer communication in person or via email or facebook massaging. I don´t like phone conversations or text messaging, for me its only for emergencies...... very often I don´t pick up the phone if its ringing and leave text messages without answer or I reply back late..... (if its not emergency, just chit-chat) phone calls are too intrusive, texting is too intimate (at the beginning anyway)


If I would suggest to meet up, and the other person would not react or ask me, if the meeting is still on, I would not mention it again, bc it would seem like I am pressuring the other person.......

Posted by truecap
When he makes plans to meet up but doesn't mention it, why don't you mention it? Like "hey just double checking the time we are meeting at such and such". He might be wondering why you don't mention it as well.

I never thought to bring it up after the fact because I've been reading other articles that mention Aqua mention don't like being pressured. I'm not exactly sure what would be pressuring to him yet and I don't want to give him the wrong impression that I'm trying to lock him down lock and key. Lol. I think next time I'm going to just bring it up playfully the day of and see what he says.

Posted by MrMiyagi
it may be normal but tell him to keep his words ; If he makes a plan he shouldnt get away with that. Your charts look good. But be careful , if you initiate repeatedly he might think in terms of physical love only ?

That's exactly what I'm scared of. I don't want him to think I'm uninterested by not initiating but then again I don't want him to think I'm that type of female. I want him to chase me first.

Posted by Pandora101
as an Aqua, I prefer communication in person or via email or facebook massaging. I don´t like phone conversations or text messaging, for me its only for emergencies...... very often I don´t pick up the phone if its ringing and leave text messages without answer or I reply back late..... (if its not emergency, just chit-chat) phone calls are too intrusive, texting is too intimate (at the beginning anyway)


If I would suggest to meet up, and the other person would not react or ask me, if the meeting is still on, I would not mention it again, bc it would seem like I am pressuring the other person.......

That's very interesting. I think it might be the same with this aqua guy. How can I tell if he really likes me so far or not? He gets a little snappy with me sometimes.

Also, is it ok to initiate a convo with him from time to time or will he think it's "too much"? Sometimes I have a really funny joke or a cool riddle I want to share with him but I sense he's being distant.

AND..

He mentioned to me a while back that he hates seeing other couples having PDA but that he could deal with affection behind closed doors. Notice that he said "deal". What's up with that? What kind of affection do Aqua guys like in public and in private?

Dapadon, this communication thing may be just my thing, but I know, that even if I am in love like crazy (I have cancer and pisces in my chart, after all🙂, I am not confortable with calling and texting..... altough texting is ok, if rare, and I reply later or even not reply, because it takes a long time to even read the text message, because I read it late, and just "pampering" it, if you know what I mean.... I never read a text from a person I am intersted in at once, I allow myself to be happy, that the person wrote and I wallow in happyness, just to know, they wrote....... that is why I prefer facebook communication, there is no pressure to write back immediately, you have the sweet moments before you reply and you reply when you are ready

But, I had a 5 year long affair with an Aqua boy (25 till 30) and it was really painful, because the communication was butter. Non-existent, to be exact. One of the persons have to be active...... there was if I remember correctly a gemini girl, who was exactly what he needed, because she was communicative, not too strict and quick.... their "friendship" caused me so much grief, but he didn´t know it......

so maybe the right thing with the Aqua boy is show him emotions and a bit of " I dont really care" attitude...... but first, communication..... if you are not content with chit-chat and "pressuring him" without real interest, if you can not play it easy and playful, then you are up for a painful (but interesting and very sexful) ride🙂....... you will not regret it, but you will be always thinking about how nice it would be to be able to be distant yourself at heart...... (because showing distant is different from feeling distant)

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Posted by truecap
When he makes plans to meet up but doesn't mention it, why don't you mention it? Like "hey just double checking the time we are meeting at such and such". He might be wondering why you don't mention it as well.

I never thought to bring it up after the fact because I've been reading other articles that mention Aqua mention don't like being pressured. I'm not exactly sure what would be pressuring to him yet and I don't want to give him the wrong impression that I'm trying to lock him down lock and key. Lol. I think next time I'm going to just bring it up playfully the day of and see what he says.

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Confirming plans is not pressure. You'd do that with a gal pal wouldn't you?
Pushing him to tell you how he feels about you, or pushing for a label or commitment. ..that's pressuring.
Rule of thumb - if you'd do it with your friends, then it's okay.

Posted by truecap

Posted by Dapadon

Posted by truecap
When he makes plans to meet up but doesn't mention it, why don't you mention it? Like "hey just double checking the time we are meeting at such and such". He might be wondering why you don't mention it as well.

I never thought to bring it up after the fact because I've been reading other articles that mention Aqua mention don't like being pressured. I'm not exactly sure what would be pressuring to him yet and I don't want to give him the wrong impression that I'm trying to lock him down lock and key. Lol. I think next time I'm going to just bring it up playfully the day of and see what he says.

Confirming plans is not pressure. You'd do that with a gal pal wouldn't you?
Pushing him to tell you how he feels about you, or pushing for a label or commitment. ..that's pressuring.
Rule of thumb - if you'd do it with your friends, then it's okay.

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Hmm.. That actually makes sense, especially based on the research I've done on Aqua men. Wasn't sure on how to approach it before but this adds on more to the solution. As long as he knows he's not a prisoner of love I'm fine with it. Lol

Posted by Pandora101
Dapadon, this communication thing may be just my thing, but I know, that even if I am in love like crazy (I have cancer and pisces in my chart, after all🙂, I am not confortable with calling and texting..... altough texting is ok, if rare, and I reply later or even not reply, because it takes a long time to even read the text message, because I read it late, and just "pampering" it, if you know what I mean.... I never read a text from a person I am intersted in at once, I allow myself to be happy, that the person wrote and I wallow in happyness, just to know, they wrote....... that is why I prefer facebook communication, there is no pressure to write back immediately, you have the sweet moments before you reply and you reply when you are ready

But, I had a 5 year long affair with an Aqua boy (25 till 30) and it was really painful, because the communication was butter. Non-existent, to be exact. One of the persons have to be active...... there was if I remember correctly a gemini girl, who was exactly what he needed, because she was communicative, not too strict and quick.... their "friendship" caused me so much grief, but he didn´t know it......

so maybe the right thing with the Aqua boy is show him emotions and a bit of " I dont really care" attitude...... but first, communication..... if you are not content with chit-chat and "pressuring him" without real interest, if you can not play it easy and playful, then you are up for a painful (but interesting and very sexful) ride🙂....... you will not regret it, but you will be always thinking about how nice it would be to be able to be distant yourself at heart...... (because showing distant is different from feeling distant)

I try my best to be communicative but I just feel that I know as a Pisces I just naturally come from an emotional place first. When I stop and think before I speak I can communicate from a logical place. It's something I've been working on not just in relationships but in my life in general. I get the whole 'not having to respond back immediately' thing as I don't like to feel pressured to respond right away either. I notice that he'll "read" some of my messages and not respond right away but will eventually respond. At first I assumed he was ignoring me but then I stopped taking offense to it because I do that to some people myself without even realizing it...so I understand that about him.


As far as you and your Aqua ex, do you think that if communication was better you'd still be together? I ask because it seemed like a very important aspect of your relationship at the time.

he is just being timid
dominate him ASAP

Dapadon: "As far as you and your Aqua ex, do you think that if communication was better you'd still be together? I ask because it seemed like a very important aspect of your relationship at the time."

No, I don´t think we wold stay together, if the communication was better. If it was better, I would get out from my "obsession" far earlier, because I would get, that he is not who I thought he was. I thought he is extremely introverted and very intelligent and I admired all his "qualities" what my imagination attached to him.

Now I know, he is not, what I imagined, he is just grumpy🙂 He is married now to a Gemini girl (different one) and even thou she is not an "analyzing" person like I was, she is not really happy with him (I know her), but she doesn´t really care....... He is still grumpy, not helping with children at all, detached and morous. Not what I would want in my life.

What ended my 5 year pain was when finally we started to live together, after 2 weeks I came from my work late,tired, just lyed down and took a book and he started to criticising me, that I am lazy, that he is lazy, but I am more and I should do something, etc etc..... I was watching him, like I see him for the first time really, I didn´t even answear, just thought: wth? he went for a beer, I packed his things and put them next to the door, he came from the pub, asked what does it mean? I said: hm........ he kicked the door and left... that was the most "dramatic" event in our 5 years🙂 I never regretted it🙂

But the non-communication made him something unreal in my imagination, some tortured soul, who needs to be understood, etc etc....

so please, communicate from the beginning and not see him throu your imagination, that he is perfect, because no one is perfect🙂 Communicate and make plans, he will like it..... it was my fault to not make plans and not be playful enough.... I was scared to be embarassing and pressuring..... here you go🙂