Pretty sad

Have you been reading text messages on his phone? If so, did he volunteer this or did you do it secretly? The answer to this makes a difference. Voluntarily offering to show you means he doesn't have anything to hide. Accessing it secretly, it means you violated his privacy.

Personally, I don't think "likes" on Facebook and Instagram mean anything. I like people's stuff, but that doesn't mean I don't want to date them.

Then again, heck, she's moving to Thailand....what's the threat?

yes i did technically invade his privacy but I asked him about her a few occasions very casually and he said he doesnt talk to her so I just wanted to see if he did talk to her in texts and he talks to her almost everyday long messages. I confronted him as soon as I did it though and I know its not okay but I'd rather just know now and leave before I am to attached to him.

Posted by truecap
Have you been reading text messages on his phone? If so, did he volunteer this or did you do it secretly? The answer to this makes a difference. Voluntarily offering to show you means he doesn't have anything to hide. Accessing it secretly, it means you violated his privacy.

Personally, I don't think "likes" on Facebook and Instagram mean anything. I like people's stuff, but that doesn't mean I don't want to date them.

Then again, heck, she's moving to Thailand....what's the threat?

It does not matter the answers to those questions. It doesn't matter how you know the things you know now, what matters is you know enough to make personal progress

Posted by mg3k
yes i did technically invade his privacy but I asked him about her a few occasions very casually and he said he doesnt talk to her so I just wanted to see if he did talk to her in texts and he talks to her almost everyday long messages. I confronted him as soon as I did it though and I know its not okay but I'd rather just know now and leave before I am to attached to him.

I'm an Aquarius, leave him!

^^ Agreed DSMU

The bottom line you will always have that in the back of your mind. You don't trust him. Trust is foundation for any solid relations.

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Posted by truecap
Have you been reading text messages on his phone? If so, did he volunteer this or did you do it secretly? The answer to this makes a difference. Voluntarily offering to show you means he doesn't have anything to hide. Accessing it secretly, it means you violated his privacy.

Personally, I don't think "likes" on Facebook and Instagram mean anything. I like people's stuff, but that doesn't mean I don't want to date them.

Then again, heck, she's moving to Thailand....what's the threat?

Lol true, they just flirt so much and talk all the time and he lied when I asked if they spoke. He told me I could look at his phone whenever I wanted. I only looked at that particular girls messages. Hes mad I dont trust him but he was telling her he dreams about her and shes so small and skinny and he wants her to move in... Also messages her 100 times and she doesnt reply half the time and he keeps messaging her, even when hes drunk at 4am. I seriously am not jealous USUALLY lol I'm attractive and successful but these messages tripped me out. Im probably overthinking.

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i wouldn't like that either.

Posted by downstairsmixup

Posted by truecap
Have you been reading text messages on his phone? If so, did he volunteer this or did you do it secretly? The answer to this makes a difference. Voluntarily offering to show you means he doesn't have anything to hide. Accessing it secretly, it means you violated his privacy.

Personally, I don't think "likes" on Facebook and Instagram mean anything. I like people's stuff, but that doesn't mean I don't want to date them.

Then again, heck, she's moving to Thailand....what's the threat?

It does not matter the answers to those questions. It doesn't matter how you know the things you know now, what matters is you know enough to make personal progress

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True, but him offering it is usually a good sign. In this case, he did say she could look at it anytime and the texts speak for themselves.

I'm so sorry... I'll be sad to if my aqua did that to me.

เป็นผู้ชายคนไทยหรือเปล่าคะ?

Its okay, I just wanted an aquarius' opinion. Im a virgo with a scorpio moon so I need 100% or nothing at all.

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Posted by downstairsmixup

Posted by truecap
Have you been reading text messages on his phone? If so, did he volunteer this or did you do it secretly? The answer to this makes a difference. Voluntarily offering to show you means he doesn't have anything to hide. Accessing it secretly, it means you violated his privacy.

Personally, I don't think "likes" on Facebook and Instagram mean anything. I like people's stuff, but that doesn't mean I don't want to date them.

Then again, heck, she's moving to Thailand....what's the threat?

It does not matter the answers to those questions. It doesn't matter how you know the things you know now, what matters is you know enough to make personal progress

True, but him offering it is usually a good sign. In this case, he did say she could look at it anytime and the texts speak for themselves.

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he offered but is mad that I looked, he just expected me to trust him because in the beggining hed always offer to look at his phone or tell me when he had a convo with a girl that was weird and he felt bad, but I didnt care so I wouldnt look so he thought I'd never take up that offer. until the virgo and scorpio moon started to collect some clues and realized things werent adding up. but thanks everyone 🙂

I'm so sorry, I was trying to be positive and throw up some other angles, but I think you're right. You deserve a guy that's devoted to you and you only. Toss this one aside and go find the right one.

First... Facebook is the devil and digging through stuff firming ideas are no basis.
He has given his reasons and if it's valid, he now has to worry about any non-male person he encounters or is friends with.
If you look hard enough to find something... You will find it...regardless if it's really there or not. Why even ask if you won't listen to his reasonings? Will you keep persisting until you make it out to match whatever you have set in stone right from the start?
Do you always do this?
Just a thought... Some people will eventually think...well, If no matter what I'm always guilty... Might as well reap the benefits from it then.
I know one pet peeve of mine is unfairness. Esp. When no matter what, I'm going to be guilty and nothing else will overcome that.
You may push them out your life.

Posted by Scartooth11
First... Facebook is the devil and digging through stuff firming ideas are no basis.
He has given his reasons and if it's valid, he now has to worry about any non-male person he encounters or is friends with.
If you look hard enough to find something... You will find it...regardless if it's really there or not. Why even ask if you won't listen to his reasonings? Will you keep persisting until you make it out to match whatever you have set in stone right from the start?
Do you always do this?
Just a thought... Some people will eventually think...well, If no matter what I'm always guilty... Might as well reap the benefits from it then.
I know one pet peeve of mine is unfairness. Esp. When no matter what, I'm going to be guilty and nothing else will overcome that.
You may push them out your life.

Oh I agree 100% facebook is shiet. I waited awhile to even check his phone because yes the trust disappeared once I caught a couple lies when I asked about her. I had no reason not to trust him up until a couple days ago. He also accidentally showed me he liked her stuff too dont ask it was actually his fault by accident lol. BUT He talks to millions of girls and I dont care its just this one in particular he can talk to any of his other female friends lol continuing on. I am letting him know he can continue to talk to her which is fine but I wont be sticking around.

ALSO a huge thing for me, I understand it could be nothing and aquas have alot of friends but you guys know sometimes you feel nothing for someone for ages then one day you wake up and youre infatuated with them. My ex did it and although he was just friends with her he left me for her over time. So of course that past experience has ruined me for this one.