Aquarius Sun, Scorpio Moon Man

Hello all,

I've been with this man for awhile.. and we pretty much know we're each others ones. He says it time and time again and i know I'm his too.
However, when he gets emotional, it gets really tough. And i don't know what to do. I try so hard to be supportive and loving but it spirals to bouts of negativity
When i try my best to get him out of it (i'm really laid back and positive .. no matter how crappy things are - cap sun, pisces moon), he just lashes out with more negativity and it just spirals.
usually after a day when hes settled, its like it never happened. (well, he gets back to normal).
Then if the bad mood hits again, it spirals.

When hes in a good mood with me, its really good.. but otherwise, it can sometimes feel like i'm walking on eggshells. the things i do being scrutinized. and i know he loves me immensely and I feel like hes either projecting the fear of losing me, or pushing me away to just protect himself.

I have tried mentioning it but its hopeless. he gets sensitive about that saying its because he loves me so much.

Not too sure how to handle these emotional moments. if i leave him alone, i feel bad.. and feel like i shouldn't... but i don't leave him alone, we get into fights because he can say pretty hurtful things that i know he doesn't mean.

GAH!

help 😢

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Every Aqua sun Scorp moon I know has been moody. The rest of their chart dictated how much so and how they channeled it. No real advice except to let them be and do your own thing until they compartmentalize their stuff.

anything personal planets SQUARE i read is very very hard on them.

So let them be and leave them alone... I feel like that's such a no win situation because when i do that, he sometimes says i'm heartless! and really.. i'm not. I'm just trying to give space. lol

Having a pisces moon, i thought I'd understand emo... but this is a little too emo sometimes.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Every Aqua sun Scorp moon I know has been moody. The rest of their chart dictated how much so and how they channeled it. No real advice except to let them be and do your own thing until they compartmentalize their stuff.

This. VERY MOODY

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by savagetai
So let them be and leave them alone... I feel like that's such a no win situation because when i do that, he sometimes says i'm heartless! and really.. i'm not. I'm just trying to give space. lol

Having a pisces moon, i thought I'd understand emo... but this is a little too emo sometimes.

Depends on if he's allowing your efforts to be comforting or if he wants you there as a verbal, sparring partner. I don't know your situation, but it sounds like he gets combative (they're very confrontational from my experience) and no good can be gained from engaging him in that.

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Both... depends on what's being said. he thinks waaayyyy too much and looks into things so deeply, its nuts sometimes. he sees trust issues in areas i don't even see as an issue. If I mention some guy who's a friend from out of town, he questions who this person is and thinks there's more to it than meets the eye. I can sit there and tell him till i'm blue in the face that there's nothing going on, but he chooses to feel like i might be betraying him or something. So at times like these, i usually get mad and say "my conscience is clean, i have nothing to hide and nothing to explain, think whatever you want". and then mr moody, spirals into thoughts that are ridiculous.

Sigh.... i want to talk to him about it.. but i don't think there's a way of being able to explain how ridiculous he is, without him thinking i'm trying to be harsh on him

Posted by savagetai
So let them be and leave them alone... I feel like that's such a no win situation because when i do that, he sometimes says i'm heartless! and really.. i'm not. I'm just trying to give space. lol

Having a pisces moon, i thought I'd understand emo... but this is a little too emo sometimes.

It's because we don't know what we want. When you comfort us, we get annoyed/irritable. But when you don't then it's a problem again. Do you live together? I suggest that you go away when he gets like that because there's no right way of doing anything. Aqua/scorp is a very tough combination. We always get a need to start a conflict out of the blue because we get so irritated & in our minds it's like the person around us at the time is the cause of the irritation or that they are adding to it. When we're having a moody day it's better to just disappear because even the most insignificant thing could cause rage & annoyance within us. IDK if your man is like that, but I'm like that & I'm a aqua sun with scorp moon as well. I have days where everybody irritates the living crap out of me just for being there & not even saying anything.

One time at work this guy came in with glasses on his head & that irritated me like nothing else. I wanted to snatch them off the top of his head because it looked stupid to me on that day. No real reason other than me having a moody day. It gets so bad that sometimes I can't even watch tv without something annoying me. It could be anything, the hair style or voice of someone ON TV & I'll feel like exploding lol. Bipolar I tell you.

Depending on what he says to you and how often this happens, you need to decide if its worth it to be with him.

My ex-Gem would say some pretty hurtful things when he was in one of those moods. Like, for example, one day it was MY fault the coffee machine wasn't working right....excuse me, how is it my fault? I had to walk on eggshells and I tell you what, I won't ever feel like I have to walk on eggshells again. It damaged my self esteem and I didn't even realize it until we had been split up for a couple of weeks.

I'm dating a time bomb— lol.

No, we don't live together which sometimes i don't know... whether is a good thing or bad thing. When i'm around, hes less moody. when i'm not around and on the phone or text, things get misinterpreted instantaneously when hes in those moods. its like a catch 22.

truecap.. i do wanna be with him. because when its good, its really good.. it's when hes moody.. its stressful. doesn't help that mercury is retrograding..
do aquas feel retrograde more than most signs—?

I'm an aqua / scorpio moon??_..I'm not sure about mercury in retrograde I get pms at the most random times and your right we do think wayyyyy to much about something??_. this is gonna sound silly but if you want a quick fix to get his mind out out of the dumps buy him an affirmation book and get him to read some affirmations then and there in front of you. But only use it on times that you really need it or else he will get the feeling your trying to control him lol??_..I can be depressed but if I read quotes or get a new idea in my head it can make me do a 180.

another thing to do when he gets depressed is ask him what he wants for breakfast lunch or dinner because I'm always happier when I've eaten and It changes my thinking when I ponder what to eat lol??_.

I used to hate my placements because I always think I'm going to be alone and I'm never going to have a harmonious relationship thats just easy and stress free??_.but I do love my placements because even though I have times when I hate myself I love the moments when I think to myself "wow I love you so much"??_.and every time in-between when I'm just normal is a blessing in itself because everyday is like walking on eggshells for us hahah

Oh and another thing reassure, reassure, reassure!!! hahaha??_but no seriously reassure??_..but instead of explaining verbally write him a letter, definitely not a text or an email??_but write a letter for him to keep and he will be utterly blown away.