Aquas and insecurities?!!!

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and he's scoping you out to make sure you're "worthy"

Well I'm not even sure this is an "Aquarian issue." It sounds more like this guy is confused, doesn't know what he wants & isn't really playing fair. I know that your emotions are involved so this may not make sense, but honey he's playing the "have his cake & eat it too" game. One minute, he does just enough to pull you in, just so he can show you the door on your way out 5 minutes later. Any man on the planet won't let a good thing walk right on by or slip through his fingers IF he REALLY/TRULY believes it's a good thing. If he really thought that you were a good catch, he would've been UNselfish enough to let you go UNTIL (and not a second before) he could finally give you the commitment you deserve.

And on an Aquarian tip...It's true that once they are an ex, that's the place they should stay. And this is especially true when dealing with Aquarians. Aquarians do not take separation well & this is the part in our lives where we can sometimes no longer be the logical & non-emotional beings we're used to being. Alot of people have this problem with Aquarians b/c it seems as if literally, the Aquarian can't make up their minds. Understand that this is a battle between him AND him. This really has nothing to do with you. He doesn't want to be with you b/c he has emotionally detached from you. BUT, cognitively, you were a part of his daily routine for so long & when a part of our routine has been changed or separated, we literally can have issues within ourselves. If I were you, I'd move on. Life is too short. If he loves you & truly has his mind set on you, he wouldn't mind you stepping out & away from all this confusion to go out & do YOU, with the possibility of you finding & linking up with someone who DOES know who they want (and hopefully that person is you).

This guy might truly love you, BUT does he love you ENOUGH to give you what you deserve? That's the true question. Sure, he might like you & love your company BUT if you want love & commitment (2 different things) then you need to make that clear, demand those things from him & wait for the answer. It seems as if he's more content with being confused than he is being emotionally stable.

One thing you NEVER want to do is pay for the mistakes other women made. That's an unfair & impossible load to put on someone. At this point, you know the truth, you know there is instability, so this is up to you. The saying goes: Once you KNOW, it is no longer excusable or justifiable. So, now that you know, it's time to act. Leave this guy alone. I'm an Aqua so I know all about the whole "trying to figure someone out" trick, but honestly, half of that is just a mind game that we play because we're avoiding dealing with the real issue of separation. You already know up front that this guy cannot offer you what you want right NOW. Sure he might've been a great guy THEN, but what about the now? It's first come, first serve in this world & if he cannot offer you the commitment or atleast the security you are looking for, then you'll only be enabling him & yourself to more of these emotional rollercoasters by sticking around. No, you don't have to stomp away, hating him, but at least stop entertaining this man, for your own good AND his. You'll feel alot better. Sure, you'll cry, you'll miss him & it will drive you crazy. It's supposed to. That's what truly caring means. But it seems that might be stuck b/w emotion & logic. It's YOUR choice as to which is going to lead & guide you from here on out

I think that IS an "Aqua-issue", cause the story from above happened to me too with my ex Aqua, as well as to my colleagues which dealing with aquas...

Oakley01, how did u deal with it? I have not contacted him and will not but i'm afraid if he calls me again or emails i'll get all weak again and respond which will start the whole chain of madness again.

3 years is way too long. Give him an ultimatum. That way if he still can't commit you can move on and forward. However I kinda understand the behavior. Sensitive aquas that haven't learned to get over their sensitivity can act like that. With Aquas like those they'll be aloof and standoffish not 'cause they heartless, but because they're really really sensitive. But the aquarian's problem is that they have really hard time hiding when they're hurt (being honest and all) and showing this vulnerability makes us wanna vomit our lungs. HIm being 30, he should've learn to have gotten over it by now, maybe he was emotional traumatized at a young age so he's emotionally stuck at 14.