are aquarius afraid of confrontation

Me and my aqua been dating for a couple months and then got in a relationship he is older than me...everything was great..we had chemistry ...one time he stood me up on plans and I got upset and told him..then he disappears for a month and half then return. Saying how much he missed me and was not at a good place in life...we got passed that. He has his ways but I don't stress it..I give him enough space. There are times I do try to communicate things so it Wont be Misunderstandings ..I hate to argue but he's still soo closed off..there were times I told him I want to end it and he would stop me...but as time went by he grew distant idk why..I've done nothing wrong but try to be there without being overbearing. One day I txtedhim saying can we talk he said sure and I told him I was upset and I wanted to know what has changed and he could be totally honest..he never replied back and it's been almost two months...I don't get it....I have yet to call or txt..normally I'm the one reaching out.

Me and my aqua been dating for a couple months and then got in a relationship he is older than me...everything was great..we had chemistry ...one time he stood me up on plans and I got upset and told him..then he disappears for a month and half then return. Saying how much he missed me and was not at a good place in life...we got passed that. He has his ways but I don't stress it..I give him enough space. There are times I do try to communicate things so it Wont be Misunderstandings ..I hate to argue but he's still soo closed off..there were times I told him I want to end it and he would stop me...but as time went by he grew distant idk why..I've done nothing wrong but try to be there without being overbearing. One day I txtedhim saying can we talk he said sure and I told him I was upset and I wanted to know what has changed and he could be totally honest..he never replied back and it's been almost two months...I don't get it....I have yet to call or txt..normally I'm the one reaching out.

More like he doesn't give a shit.

Life's too short. Move on.

I think it's avoidance of confrontation. My experience with my aqua friends is they will just disappear until you are over it because they don't want to deal with it or they don't want to deal with your emotional side of it. If you present issues in a logical, nonconfrontational, nonemotional way, that seems to work much better than "you did this" or "you don't do this" or "I need this"...

I'm not an Aqua, this is just my observation. Their input would be more clear.

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Posted by BlueSandCacoon
More like he doesn't give a shit.

Life's too short. Move on.

Pretty simple.

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I have learned that, unless they have heavy fire in their chart, from exp, they're usually very dismissive.
Strong Fire really gets them to be very confrontational, and not afraid(or be foolish - the other side of the coin)
dis??mis??sive (ds-msv)
adj.
1. Serving to dismiss.
2. Showing indifference or disregard: a dismissive shrug.


it's not a wonder many try to get them to show "emotion" LOL

astrologically, the three air signs show a significant 'avoidance"
the venus energy - peace and harmony, doesn't like conflict.
mercury energy - distraction, loads of distraction, because life is really too short.
saturn/uranus - same as above, but more practical pov due to saturn's influence.
stronger uranus influence - so out there, in outer space, it's almost scary.

He prob is avoiding confortation because he doesnt want to get serious at this time. Aquarians make great friends and we love our friends. He might be wanting you to just be that for him ....a friend. He sounds like a Sag friend I have that exhibited the same behavior. He pulled away when ever I wanted to talk about things. He didnt know how to tell me he wasnt after the same things I wanted. When he finally told me, I was like...I already knew that. I know you love your career. I asked him why he never said anything, why pull away. He said..I dont wanna hurt you.

Am I the only aqua guy here that doesn't avoid conflict? lol But of course I only make sure all conflicts are resolved if I really really really like you. But yes I avoid all conflicts with family lol.

He was probably telling you the truth about rough times and this is where I'll admit that we can become selfish and fixate on someone who can temporary 'fix' these problems. Once the problems fixed, guess what? You become expendable and we move on since you've served your purpose. Rather than hurting your feelings directly he just slowly faded away.

Emotional baggages are never a good turnout regardless of the sign. Aquas are no exception.

Sorry to be so blunt but I like giving it straight when we can see a future with someone we will resolve conflicts, if we see you can't keep up we will just move on ahead and give no good explanation because we think you either won't understand or that we didn't want to hurt you.

I guess all in all don't ever mistake aqua's initial interest as anything more than that. Stay clear of volatile aquas, I know I'm like that when I'm going through some emotional turmoil so I never lead anyone one to try and fix me. A part of him maybe feeling sorry for himself for not being more direct with you and makes him think he's not worthy of you but you have to agree he still used you as comfort. Don't feel sorry for him darl he does plenty of that for himself and he probably doesn't even understand why he feels that way.

If you really want to reach out one last time, issue an ultimatum if he's still wishy washy just cut him off for good. If he wants to remain friends say "hell no!" show him how sexy you are and walk off. Aquas can be manipulative in that way, remaining friend only works on your terms and not his.

Hope you find your answer soon, I wish you all the best.