Cancer and Aquarius explain please?

Hi all. Ran across this board and could use a bit of insight. I am a Cancer dating an Aquarius. For a while it was great. However I wonder if my boyfriend is a true example of an Aquarius. We moved quick into our relationship.
He is pushy. (I am one of the Cancer's who are pretty open with my feelings). When he asks me a question I tell him how I am feeling and he proceeds to tell me I am not feeling that way. I share a bit of information with him, he then proceeds to make up my whole existence from those bits and pieces. He does not give me space at times....like always wanting to touch, kiss, etc. I will explain I am just "grumpy" and not upset with anything and he chatters away about how I am so sweet and not grumpy etc. (What is with this...is this Aquarius?)

Tell me about Aquarius and money.........when dating. One minute this guy is flat broke, the next he is looking at expensive places to live. One minute to broke to bring over dinner (that I will cook, and like to), the next thing he is wanting to take me out to breakfast and such. He hates to spend money even if it is needed to be spent. Example....his computer breaks and he won't fix it due to money. I want to see Elton John, finally he says he can't afford it (thank you!), then he is buying the tickets. Is he just wierd?

Our relationship is not that old so I am willing to see how it goes a bit longer. I am not looking to marry the dude, just to enjoy a peaceful relationship. Are Aquarians clingy? I love to hold hands......adore it, but I also like to sit and relax when driving and do not need to touch every second. I thought Aquarians were not the warmest people.


This guy is nice but I can't get rid of him at times. He also drives an issue into the ground. I have found that I have to put my foot down and tell him I am finished with the subject. He seems more like the "crab" in not wanting to let it go.

Arrrgh. Can you all explain what the heck is up here? I do not want to hurt his feelings and really am interested in exploring the aqua person.

🙂

Ah is that aqua-cancer mania ever going to stop ? Hope not 🙂

1st paragraph I'd say he seems to like you and try to show some emotions with all this weird nature of his plus he likes to make generalizations (yes typical aqua) plus the moodiness of a cancer may seem like grumpyness but not to all aqua.

About the money sounds to me his income is low or not stable, by nature I'm not materialistic but I do see money as a medium to enjoy things, done this non-spending thing to my cancer when was seeking job but didn't tell her the reason, driving her crazy.

About clingyness I dunno, I think it depends on the person other than zodiac, I was and still am very clingy for an aqua according to astrology so had no problem on that, I was actually too much to a point I could realize when she was not in the mood and then I just left it till she was coming back, it was very balanced give and take.

PS Most important don't overanalyze, I do that now after having broken up, back then everything was great and I was much more immature than I am now. You two have a mutual interest to explore each other so enjoy it.

Tas, how kind of you to respond.

Are you saying........that this is normal wierd nature for Aqua's?

He is not taking my word that I am grumpy/tired, that I am something else.......(like being coy?) is that what you mean? Does Aqua just not listen? (meant in a nice way)

Sometimes as much as Cancer hates being alone, we also want to experience alone-ness. Things have moved way to fast.

So Aqua can cling then........can be good and bad then ") Guess it is just a shock. (I was thinking this was safe due to Aqua distance at this time in my life).

Yes, if he can learn I am not into games but just wanting to be moody and let me chase him a bit that would be grand. Does Aqua have that ability without being mean? My gosh the man plays more games with trying to make me jealous than I could ever think of........heaven help us if Cancer nature hits and decides to play back.

So how does one tell an Aqua guy that we need him to bring on the romance, yet not hurt him when we enjoy the in-direct approach, and also enjoy the direct approach..........to much to ask? Sigh, how does an Aqua get the hint (or the bat in the head to be romantic). Don't tell me, he is being romantic. He is so darn oppositional. Was your Cancer stubborn when backed into a corner? Did you back down and not mind? My Aqua does, but I wonder if he will learn I just plain hate to argue once a topic has been exhausted.

Hope this helps some others who want to understand Cancer. We can be smothered, but for heavens sake tempt us to smother you! Lol.

Thanks for the help on the money issue. He has changed jobs and constantly told me how grand things will be for us. All I want is to enjoy the day today and not focus on the future of the grand dollar. Meaning I do not want to put life on hold till he is happy with the number in his bank account. I do know he is holding off taking a job further away from me for the time being. I have tried to encourage him we might handle weekends.......sigh again, am I a Cancer lol?

I think what you have may be a 'know-it-all' 🙂 joking!

When he asks me a question I tell him how I am feeling and he proceeds to tell me I am not feeling that way. I share a bit of information with him, he then proceeds to make up my whole existence from those bits and pieces.

Lol yea! I have come across this but it still has some typical aqua tendencies which is the emotional disappearance.
Your aqua might not be the physically disappearing type so he ensures he is still detaching himself from your feelings and controlling things.

It's quite different from my cancer experience as cancers help you validate your feelings while crabbing around their main point 😉 😛

So Aqua can cling then........can be good and bad then ") Guess it is just a shock. (I was thinking this was safe due to Aqua distance at this time in my life).

EVERYONE can be clingly or smothering - insecurity has a lot to do with it not sun sign.

Anyway, it sounds like this dude may not be your cup of tea but you're hanging one because... sorry I'm lost? are you looking for a relationship or a fling 🙂

Dating is really just to find out who meshes with us and who doesn't, right? The more time invested, the harder to get out, I think, no?
And you sounds nice *sighs* too nice

Tut tut I've told you don't overanalyze, I'm only telling you from my experience with cancers 🙂 I've posted a helpful link in another thread http://healuniv.blogspot.com/2008/12/aquarius-male.html very precise about aquas and with many contradictions from tradisional astrology.

Aqua being weird and expressing emotions have we said enough already ?

I personally liked her moodiness (80% of the time) and was trying to reverse it to positiveness but not always successful, she did want the alone-ness some times.

Games-jealous-clingy yes an aqua can be, as zenalchemy said insecurity and look at the article says ego and stubborness. Dunno about zodiac but her nurturing nature was what I was seeking.

Bring on the romance: although never a problem there it may help you to say that my cancer did not hesitate to show a little initiative 😎

Backed into a corner? Man she was mad, she explained why it shouldn't be done and what to be done instead (and almost always she was right) then once topic was exhausted she left to be with her friends and avoid seeing me. I dunno if she intended to stay away from me for long (we were kinda living together) or breakup or sthg because I was always going back to her with a million sorry and case was closed. However now I know that a cancer was keeping it in mind to sum up all bad moments to see when to step out of a relationship.

LOL. Appreciating the help. He pulled his first disappear act on me. Thanks to this I was able to handle it. (I wanted a night alone, his payback was a game). Don't think it will happen again, but who knows.

Understand what you are expressing. He can be insecure like anyone, not a "sign" thing.
I am enjoying being able to be my quirky self which he says he likes.......watch out what one asks for.

Not sure what I want out of this relationship right now in answer to Zenalchemy. To soon to know but I am becoming more at ease with his pushy nature. He may actually learn to back off at times............whew. I doubt it. That gotta know it all now thing is a major pain to deal with.

Tas, sorry that you two did not make it. I am going to check your link. I think about the advice here and it has helped. Yup Cancer comes out snapping hard from that corner. I to have provided ways to approach me and hope it helps my Aqua. "Don't tell me how I am, suggest what you would like me to work on". Arrrghhhh. Aqua has this direct in your face approach huh?

Anyway I put on the games this weekend after Aqua pulled the disappear act on me. He adored it. Go figure. Guess he took it as me being interested (grin). Am also finding that Aqua's will say one thing (I won't change who I am), and then Cancer agrees, nods, and expects Aqua (will) change LOL. Use the word "compromise"! Give an Aqua a big word and they are all happy bending it around in their minds. Think I am getting it.

Another Aqua approached me so maybe it is the planets, One is enough 🙂

Hello,

I have already posted something in another thread about Aqua-Cancer. I am well qualified to talk about Cancer-Aqua attraction, because I am Cancer that has been mostly in relationships with Aquarius (usually love at first sight from both sides). I was also married to one, we are now divorced, but I adored him and still think of him fondly.
I won't repeat myself, but there is, IMO, huge magnetism and fascination between these two signs. I find Aquarians irresistible, and can recognize them instantly. Not by physical looks, but by the vibe that I feel from them, that mixture of friendly interest and cool detachment, like they are here and they are not at the same time. All things being equal, I find them hugely attractive, but we also seem to have a very beautiful emotional connection. Physically, we were great, one of my best connections. Where we didn't work was communication (that air/water thing) and he could not understand my moodiness, although he tolerated it. I think that he found it interesting, since he was not moodey at all. We were way too young when we married, I know that had we met now (more mature), we would have been together forever. Ah, my Aquarius...I really, really like them, my fatal attractions.

So tell me then lubenica.........can I trust an Aqua? The vibe thing does kick in. The looks........well.....the vibe thing can make it easier. Communication? What is that LOL? Yes, Aqua does find Cancer interesting..but do the quirks they love in us fade away? Was your Aqua quick to anger? Mine seems to be, bowls me over, but then poof, after he feels he is right and wants this fair, fair thing is ready to bop off to party town with me. My gosh the man likes to hear himself talk.

My last relationship was with a Gemini, he ate me alive and spit me out. Bit shy with this Aqua way of going. At least this Aqua seems to have a point and I do really, really like how he tells me he is willing to work on things.
He gets my attention big time when he says that. Problem is, he repeats over and over what he is saying so much I start to zone, then lose my temper, He does not seem to understand when I say "sweetie.........I get it".

Oh, maybe its just the whole man woman thing.

Here is a funny one though........go figure for an Aqua to do this.........nosey creatures. My Aqua just helped my ex (who is a Virgo and whom I am very good friends with), move my things from the guy I broke up with who was a Gemini...heaven help me I am alive. Don't get me wrong.........I have only lived/dated 4 guys in 26 years. I just decided to give the wild side a chance and it ain't no mountain to climb again.

Sooooooooo....Aqua gets a big chance. He wanted quirky!

Hi,

It is really hard to answer whether you can trust Aqua. I wish I knew, as this is not as much a matter of astrology as of the individual character.
One thing that I found among the Aquas that I dated is that they were very loyal once they decided to commit to the relationship. They never gave me a reason to be suspicious, but make I was just lucky, especially my first husband was like that.
As to whether the quirs fade away after a while? I think they do IF we overdo them. Too much of everything is not a good thing and they might get tired of it. But if we are aware of our bad traits (moodiness, emotionality, sulkiness) and try to control it a bit, then the attraction can last a long, long time. I actually think that our inate Cancerian nature wakes up something in Aquarius, perhaps puts them in touch with their own deeper emotions.
Overall, I think that this can be a wonderful relationship where both people can learn soooo much from one another, but still keep their individual natures and appreciate it. My aunt (Aqua) and uncle (Cancer) have been married for 50 years now and still adore one another. They have their own interests and groups of friends, so they can be separate as well as together, I think this is important. I think the best thing is to take it one step at the time and see how you go. Difficult advice from my side, as most of my Aqua relationships just happened almost instantly, but it is better to take it easy and see what happens.

p.s.
As for Aqua pushiness...I had completely different experiences with Aqua. My first husband was the best Aqua example. He was not clingy, moody, pushy, but was very caring and kind men without the excessive emotionality (that was my terrain, lol). But another Aqua I dated for a year was, probably, a pathological case. He was jealous, obsessive, possessive, controlling...

I believe that true-to-type Aquas are more like my ex husband, and that is what I like about them, I don't like controlling, possesive characters as I do need some time alone sometimes (when the Moon is waning, lol).
IMO, Linda Goodman in her Love Signs describes this relationship the best. I can identify with almost every sentence she wrote in Aqua/Cancer chapter, that is how well she described it.