Confused with and Aqua man

Hello,

I am a Leo female, I have been seeing this Aqua guy for about 7 month now. He is amazing, loving, respectful, always there when I need him. I understand his emotional distancing. He was very clear with me from the very beginning that he doesn't promise anything to this relationship, we will just give it a go and see where it ends. I am fine with that as people don't know what will happen in the future and what your destiny is like.
He likes to spend time around me (when he comes to my place he never wants to leave) but at the same time he talks to tons of other girls, nothing where he is cheating on me; more of talking and he always comes back and tells me about the other girls that he talks to. We are more like best friends. The whole relationship is weird for me because sometimes we are lovers but some other times we are friends and I don't know what to call this relationship! I can't really read his mind on this one. This really confuses me!

Another thing that confuses me about him is that, he tells me his secrets and he opened up to me about deep stories that happened in his life. He shared with me some thoughts of his friends and family and his future dreams, what bothers him and the deep cut in his heart from a previous relationship. But then, he goes and he hides things. for example, He wants me to meet his mom and she lives in a different country. His mom was coming to visit him and he told me she will arrive on a Monday but she changed her flight and he didn't want to share with me when she was coming!! I feel like he enjoys doing mind tricks like this (or even mixing names when he talks about events and people). I am not sure if they are mind tricks, but when I asked him about when she is arriving (the new date) he told me next Monday when she actually arrived on friday. He only told me that she was there when she arrived and he was like, I am with my mom now and she arrived at this time. Is he not trusting me? or is that common for Aqua men? I am not sure how to deal or think about this!!

Lol, you on a good start. Aquarius men value friendship over love! Simply because love runs the risk of falling out but friendships are forever. So be his friend first. If he shares most things with you, that's good! Men aren't going to tell us everything. Jus be calm. Act like it nothing say something friendly.
He does trust you. He probably jus need some qt with his mama. He's probably talking to her about yooou.
No biggie.

Posted by cherishedlibra
Lol, you on a good start. Aquarius men value friendship over love! Simply because love runs the risk of falling out but friendships are forever. So be his friend first. If he shares most things with you, that's good! Men aren't going to tell us everything. Jus be calm. Act like it nothing say something friendly.
He does trust you. He probably jus need some qt with his mama. He's probably talking to her about yooou.
No biggie.

Agreed

Posted by heybitchez

Posted by cherishedlibra
Lol, you on a good start. Aquarius men value friendship over love! Simply because love runs the risk of falling out but friendships are forever. So be his friend first. If he shares most things with you, that's good! Men aren't going to tell us everything. Jus be calm. Act like it nothing say something friendly.
He does trust you. He probably jus need some qt with his mama. He's probably talking to her about yooou.
No biggie.

Agreed

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It is just so weird when he does that. Does he do it on purpose or is that how Aqua men roll? Not sure what goes in his head when he switches dates and names and details. I find that odd. He knows very well I won't be bothering him or annoying him about meeting his mom. I never tried to tie his freedom ever and he knows that very well.

Posted by leo91111

Posted by heybitchez

Posted by cherishedlibra
Lol, you on a good start. Aquarius men value friendship over love! Simply because love runs the risk of falling out but friendships are forever. So be his friend first. If he shares most things with you, that's good! Men aren't going to tell us everything. Jus be calm. Act like it nothing say something friendly.
He does trust you. He probably jus need some qt with his mama. He's probably talking to her about yooou.
No biggie.

Agreed

It is just so weird when he does that. Does he do it on purpose or is that how Aqua men roll? Not sure what goes in his head when he switches dates and names and details. I find that odd. He knows very well I won't be bothering him or annoying him about meeting his mom. I never tried to tie his freedom ever and he knows that very well.

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Perhaps it was his mom who was switching dates and details - just to give the benefit of the doubt.

It looks like you are looking for drama when is none of it.

Posted by leo91111
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He was very clear with me from the very beginning that he doesn't promise anything to this relationship, we will just give it a go and see where it ends!

From my personal experience (I'm not an aqua):

Usually when a guy says this, it means they're not taking things seriously. Take note. But that's usually when the guy volunteers it from the beginning without being asked or any future mentioned. However, with an aqua guy iIf you mention the future of the relationship and they say this, I think they're being truthful in the fact that they don't know where the relationship is going to lead to and and aqua guy isn't going to promise anything they can't deliver.

When we were together at about six months to a year, I would say something like "I'm glad I found you, we're going to have a great future". My guy would say stuff like "we just gotta see what shakes out". So I let it go and went with the flow. Fast forward four years and we're talking about possibly getting married.

The friendship side is a good indicator. Aquas can't be with someone they don't want to be friends with. Aquas seem to want their lovers to be their best friends.
I saw a on line quiz one time called "How well do you know your man" so I'd read the questions to him and asked him to tell me if I was right. One question was 'who is his best friend?" I said his brother (they're really close). He acted offended and said "no, you're my best friend". I was like "Awwwww.....I was just thinking someone besides me" and he was fine with it then.

Basically, you're on a good roll. Don't mess it up with insecurity and by reading too much into stuff. You have to be patient with aqua men. It takes them a long time to commit, but when they do, it's oh so sweet. Be patient, secure and confident. Sounds like you've got a good thing going.

WT happened at the end ?