Confusing relationship w/ Aquarius Man. Will he ever speak to me again?

Just come right put and talk to him about this. Then LISTEN TO WHAT HE TELLS YOU.

If you're honest with him, he'll return the favor. But whatever his responses are, take them at face value and don't try to project what you want to hear onto what he says.

This has been going on long enough that he knows what he feels for you and it's time that you do too. At this point it's going to have to be all or nothing, IMO.

I have a very long history with an aqua man, and while it's not exactly the same as yours, I see some of me in your reactions.

Two airy people have a hard time communicating on a concrete even and you let things slide. That leads to assumptiinstall on both sides that might not square up with the other’s reality.

Unfortunately someone will have to put their foot down and decide what it's going to be. Sounds like it will have to be you if you gus do end up talking. I guarantee that he'll contact you again but the question is when and will you have let is this slide by the time he does. If so, then the pattern will repeat ad infinitum.

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I have a very long history with an aqua man, and while it's not exactly the same as yours, I see some of me in your reactions.

Two airy people have a hard time communicating on a concrete even and you let things slide. That leads to assumptiinstall on both sides that might not square up with the other’s reality.

Unfortunately someone will have to put their foot down and decide what it's going to be. Sounds like it will have to be you if you gus do end up talking. I guarantee that he'll contact you again but the question is when and will you have let is this slide by the time he does. If so, then the pattern will repeat ad infinitum.

Interesting. Where are you and the aqua guy now?

I'm not so sure he will contact me again... He never really goes this long without contacting me.. although he did before when he was traveling but he was out of the country for a whole month. I'm just nervous he's finally gotten fed up with me never initiating and figures if I wanted him in my life, I would speak to him. IF that's the case, I would contact him ASAP. But, this is where my insecurities about our relationship creeps in and I just think of all the scenarios as to why he hasn't contacted me.

Honestly I just hope he contacts me soon and then when we meet up I can explain why I am the way I am and he will know it's not because I don't care. I'm not even sure if he thinks I don't care, I'm just trying to put myself in his shoes.

Sorry for my rambling. Thanks for taking the time to listen to me and help me out! 🙂

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We've been together for over 20 years. The longest mine went without contacting me was 3 months, because I broke it off finally after 10 years of this kind of stuff. We were going to reconnect in a year to see if there was still something there after being apart for a long time but I guess he wanted to reach out sooner. I wasn't ready to get back into things but ironicall I was going through a family trauma when he called and I needed a friend. He was there for me.

Prior to that, I had been the one initiating most of the contact.

It probably wouldn't hurt to contact him, but I wouldn't talk about "stuff" until you can talk face to face.

Posted by libragirl004
Was he your boyfriend or was it one of the typical aquarius kind of relationships?

I thought he he was my bf, he thought we were more fwb, so it was one of those kinds of things.

Later he admitted that he knew I was the one very early on but he really wasn't ready for that and didn't know what to do about it.

Aquas generally won't chase. They'd rather let someone else make the moves because they are insecure. They figure if the other person doesn't want them then they are free to find someone who does.

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Posted by libragirl004
Was he your boyfriend or was it one of the typical aquarius kind of relationships?

I thought he he was my bf, he thought we were more fwb, so it was one of those kinds of things.

Later he admitted that he knew I was the one very early on but he really wasn't ready for that and didn't know what to do about it.

Aquas generally won't chase. They'd rather let someone else make the moves because they are insecure. They figure if the other person doesn't want them then they are free to find someone who does.

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Aw, that's sweet! Sometimes I feel like the aqua I'm talking about feels that way too and thinks we will have time later to figure this out and for right now we don't have to deal with it. I have nothing to back this up, that's just my feeling. I kind of feel the same way.

Yeah, the fact that aquas won't chase is what is worrying me because he has been the one "chasing" for the past few years now and I'm scared he's given up. A few years back, before he started dating the other girl, I was usually the one to initiate things. And now, ever since we've been "friends" again, I've asked him to hang out about 3 times.. in 3 years. I need to figure out how to let down some walls I suppose.

Well, maybe YOU have to decide what YOU want. If it's him, then take that step towards him in a concrete way. If he doesn't respond positively to that, try not to be hurt by it. You will have kept yourself from wasting time on him.

Sometimes you just have to jump without knowing of there's a net below. Trust that it will end up like it should.

I wish you luck with your aqua.

Posted by sultrykitty
Well, maybe YOU have to decide what YOU want. If it's him, then take that step towards him in a concrete way. If he doesn't respond positively to that, try not to be hurt by it. You will have kept yourself from wasting time on him.

Sometimes you just have to jump without knowing of there's a net below. Trust that it will end up like it should.

I wish you luck with your aqua.

Thanks. That makes sense. It's all just part of life. Better to go for it than to sit around wondering what happened and what could happen if I actually did something about it.

I definitely want to be with him. That's really all I want right now.

And if he doesn't want me, then it's better than I'll know now than to continue this weird thing we've had going on.

Thanks so much for listening to me and all of your advice, I really appreciate it!

ive never related so much in my life, sounds just like my switch, just trying to figure how the hell to read an aqua man and how to handle situations with them. this is helping.