@jayrose
16 Years
Bad first experience with Aquarian man-LIES
Do Aquarius Men Lie?
Yes, some Aquarius men do lie when they want space, avoid conflict, or keep control of the situation. In real situations, many people notice it shows up as half-truths, mixed messages, or saying what sounds easiest instead of what’s fully true. That doesn’t mean every Aquarius man is dishonest, but it does mean you should watch patterns, not promises.
😢 Thank you all so much for your replies and words. @flowingwater I actually once thought that his Pisces in Venus was great bc I love how emotional, raw, affectionate and open Pisces people can be. He was all of those things too! He told me about his dark past growing up, and has gotten emotional and he was so sooo affectionate when we were alone and while we were out. This is why I am so thrown and confused. @xoxoRain Thank you. You're right. He's just a liar and a cheater. He was just very excellent at hiding things. @ShadowAbsorber I know you feel me girl! We Taurus woman are so darn loyal even if I am just dating someone. They usually have my undivided attention but without being clingy at all and super independent which he loved. He's 27 and told me bc of his age he was looking to take his time (as was I!) to make sure that the next relationship he was in was meaningful and lasted. If it wasn't for his crazy ex I don't think I would have ever found out. I don't like situations like this to ruin me with future relationships bc I do believe that good men, that aren't liars, are out there. It's just that this aquarius man did everything I read that was a good sign and yet it still went to s***. Ugh! I am just still shocked.
@kalin I believe she is a Cancer. I don't know any Cancer women so I have no idea how they operate. I just know she's nuts and has slashed his car up and hit him.
Very sorry OP but luckily u see his colors now, not until later when things are more complicated. Get rid of him, sorry for your plight but really aquas generally are very loyal people, this is just one bad apple.
Oh boy....I refer you to the "Aquarius Men and Infidelity" thread for my an answer.
BTW., mine's an Aqua venus.
Posted by jayrose
I posted about my aquarian a while ago and everyones advice was helpful but now once again I am at a loss. After many months (almost a year) of being friends with him and dating him and seeing him once a week or so things started getting serious so I made the decision to sleep with him (we waited about 8 months from when I met him and he told me how it didn't feel like a "first time" with someone new, just very natural). I asked him straight if he was sleeping or talking to anyone else and he said no and vice versa, Great news right? He introduces me to his best friend, he leaves me the keys to his apartment when he leaves sometimes to the gym, and wanted me to meet his father. Fast forward to this past weekend where I get a message via Facebook and it's from his ex. They have been seeing each other this whole time! She knows about me because she went through his phone about a month ago and was keeping tabs on our relationship and was contacting me to let me know that they were together the night before and had a very bad fight. Messy. I'm 27 (and so is he, his ex is 20) and I am much to old for this so I text him and ask if he needs to tell me anything to which he immediately replied he would call me. He then tells me he's not ready to be with just one person and he is sorry that his ex did what she did. I kept calm but told him he's a liar bc he told me he wasn't talking to anyone and he finally admits to his f*** up. I am a textbook loyal Taurus woman and I am hurt. I handled the situation as best as I could but my sadness is palpable. I feel used and he said that was never his intention and that he sees me because he loves cooking for me, and lounging at home, and laughing together and he cares about me "as a person" and that it was never about sex ( we barely slept together anyway, some nights we would just cuddle).My question is what the F went wrong? I'm thinking he still loves his ex and I can't compete with that even though they have a tumultuous relationship and he says he's done with her. I now feel as if everything was a lie and that he doesn't even like me and that this whole year has been a waste. I told him my trust for him is broken.
Just for more clarification he is Aquarius sun, Libra Moon, Aquarius Mercury, Pisces Venus, Sagittarius Mars and I am Taurus Sun, Virgo Moon, Mercury Taurus, Venus Gemini, and Mars Aquarius.
I'm so sorry this happened. 😢
I don't think you did anything wrong, so please don't go thinking you did.
Posted by jayrose
I posted about my aquarian a while ago and everyones advice was helpful but now once again I am at a loss. After many months (almost a year) of being friends with him and dating him and seeing him once a week or so things started getting serious so I made the decision to sleep with him (we waited about 8 months from when I met him and he told me how it didn't feel like a "first time" with someone new, just very natural). I asked him straight if he was sleeping or talking to anyone else and he said no and vice versa, Great news right? He introduces me to his best friend, he leaves me the keys to his apartment when he leaves sometimes to the gym, and wanted me to meet his father. Fast forward to this past weekend where I get a message via Facebook and it's from his ex. They have been seeing each other this whole time! She knows about me because she went through his phone about a month ago and was keeping tabs on our relationship and was contacting me to let me know that they were together the night before and had a very bad fight. Messy. I'm 27 (and so is he, his ex is 20) and I am much to old for this so I text him and ask if he needs to tell me anything to which he immediately replied he would call me. He then tells me he's not ready to be with just one person and he is sorry that his ex did what she did. I kept calm but told him he's a liar bc he told me he wasn't talking to anyone and he finally admits to his f*** up. I am a textbook loyal Taurus woman and I am hurt. I handled the situation as best as I could but my sadness is palpable. I feel used and he said that was never his intention and that he sees me because he loves cooking for me, and lounging at home, and laughing together and he cares about me "as a person" and that it was never about sex ( we barely slept together anyway, some nights we would just cuddle).My question is what the F went wrong? I'm thinking he still loves his ex and I can't compete with that even though they have a tumultuous relationship and he says he's done with her. I now feel as if everything was a lie and that he doesn't even like me and that this whole year has been a waste. I told him my trust for him is broken.
Just for more clarification he is Aquarius sun, Libra Moon, Aquarius Mercury, Pisces Venus, Sagittarius Mars and I am Taurus Sun, Virgo Moon, Mercury Taurus, Venus Gemini, and Mars Aquarius.
oohhhh if i were in your place i'd be pissed too. you were looking for long term and he was just looking to have a companion with no strong commitment. And he allows his ex to stalk you? it's good you are out of his life, until he gets himself straightened. Maybe for another woman who doesn't mind hanging out and dont want commitment,.
cares about you as a person? what kind of....soooo romantic! That's the knd of line my ex husband would feed women that he cheated on me with alot. He'd tell them that he cares about them alot.
cares about them PFfffttt. yeah yeah to get into their pants. the memories can be harsh. He's a PLAYBOY!
good riddance!!
well it's good that youve seen this, and you can move on. You both weren't into the relationship too far. it sucks but a lesson learned.
Posted by jayrose
@kalin I believe she is a Cancer. I don't know any Cancer women so I have no idea how they operate. I just know she's nuts and has slashed his car up and hit him.That sounds about right. My mom is a Cancer and she's nuts.
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my ex with the pluto in 4th did this to me.
hmm.
@Kalin Thank you so much. I usually tend to have trust in others and just give them the benefit of the doubt and even after this experience I intend to keep doing that. I'll be damned If I let him ruin that pshhhh.
@ShadowAbsorber I am truly sorry you’ve been through all that. I’ve been through similar things with an ex. That quote is really beautiful and does help put things into perspective. You totally get me! I did put so much emotional investment into this and it’s going to be hard for me to just get over that you know? I hate giving up but more so I hate when people make me feel like I have no other choice but to give up.
@Angmodurian My best friend of 11 years is an Aquarius and she is my most loyal true friend. I love her to pieces so I def agree.
@sultrykitty I love your thread. I do of course agree with posts that any sign is capable of infidelity; I think the main problem with my situation is that I was dealing with someone who was very veryyyy good at hiding his ulterior motives.
@truecap I have read so many of your posts and I found so many similarities as to what you went through in the earlier stages with your Aquarian. It really helped reading all the responses people gave you so thank you for that. The truly sad thing though is that I still care! Like what’s wrong with me!? I should strongly dislike him right now (I don’t like to use the word ‘hate’). Despite that, my pride will never allow me to reach out or try to make more sense of the situation. I am actually done but that doesn’t stop me from thinking the what if’s.
@feby His ex gf is a Cancer.
@lisabethur8 We had spoken about long term too! Not even me, he would always mention it first. He even joked around one time about how he was not a player. -_- I look back on things and now it just all makes sense. It was like he was trying to use reverse psychology on me. I am glad I got out before it got super intense.
@flowingwater I’ve now noticed how strong that placement can really be. I think with the right man a Pisces in Venus is a wonderful thing.
Thank you for your responses and input. I really needed to vent and just hear anything to make sense of all of this. You all are great. 🙂
@jayrose, i'm glad it is good to get out of your chest/vent.
that venusian air (libra) and Pisces (dreamer and master of illusions/making your dreams come true) is most likely very irresistible.
what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger!
@Jay rose
The situation with my Aqua was exactly like yours. Except I was the "crazy ex" (at least in his mind) who he was still sleeping with on the regular. I knew he was messing around but not because he ever told me. The other girls didn't know about me though. He still won't admit that he was cheating, because in his mind he wasn't in a committed relationship.
I won't get into the tawdry details, but as a result of that, he now has a 22 year old daughter from one of the girls.
His behavior was like this for the first 5 years of our "relationship".
We've gotten past all that (it's ancient history), but I contend that most aqua guys really don't settle down until they hit their thirties.
BTW, my Aqua is 49% air dominant.
Posted by sultrykitty
@Jay roseThe situation with my Aqua was exactly like yours. Except I was the "crazy ex" (at least in his mind) who he was still sleeping with on the regular. I knew he was messing around but not because he ever told me. The other girls didn't know about me though. He still won't admit that he was cheating, because in his mind he wasn't in a committed relationship.
I won't get into the tawdry details, but as a result of that, he now has a 22 year old daughter from one of the girls.
His behavior was like this for the first 5 years of our "relationship".
We've gotten past all that (it's ancient history), but I contend that most aqua guys really don't settle down until they hit their thirties.
BTW, my Aqua is 49% air dominant.
You're aloof enough for an aqua haha, you can date yours while your husband dated his haha you are awesome lol. Yes it takes a confident woman to lock down an aqua, we cant resist the charm of confident independent woman. Its a good way not for us to pour "water" on you but love 😄
Posted by sultrykitty
@Jay roseThe situation with my Aqua was exactly like yours. Except I was the "crazy ex" (at least in his mind) who he was still sleeping with on the regular. I knew he was messing around but not because he ever told me. The other girls didn't know about me though. He still won't admit that he was cheating, because in his mind he wasn't in a committed relationship.
I won't get into the tawdry details, but as a result of that, he now has a 22 year old daughter from one of the girls.
His behavior was like this for the first 5 years of our "relationship".
We've gotten past all that (it's ancient history), but I contend that most aqua guys really don't settle down until they hit their thirties.
BTW, my Aqua is 49% air dominant.
You're aloof enough for an aqua haha, you can date yours while your husband dated his haha you are awesome lol. Yes it takes a confident woman to lock down an aqua, we cant resist the charm of confident independent woman. Its a good way not for us to pour "water" on you but love 😄
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LOL, I sure wasn't when it was happening! I had to learn the art of detachment. 😉
OP, you can forgive him after the shock wears out
maybe he really loves you but sleeps with the ex because just to "shut her up"
also, you waited 8 months to sleep with him? no wonder he slept with his ex.....
sorry
I feel so sad fr this. This guy owes u a huge apology. But apologies dnt help, he is nt sure right nw, and you deserve better then someone who is nt sure. No matter what zodiac he is from if you are with someone. You should b treated with all respect and honesty, especially if you were loyal to him. Divert your mind. There are so mny ppl out der. So mny who think thatu are amazing, trust me wen u meet dt guy, all this pain will vanish. You need to move on nd B out der. We have one short life to live. And cannot keep thinking about unworthy ppl like this. I understand your pain BT let it go. I Ws cheated too, broke my trust over almost evryone, BT m happy today, nd he's nothing BT jst a bad experience. Not a regret, BT a lesson. ‰you ll b fine love. You happy ending is put der
I'm Taurus too like you
We are loyal and give 100% to the person we love
it hurts to be committed to a liar
I understand how you feel because I wasted my 9yrs with a Capricorn who is a user and a liar
You deserve a man who will treat you right
Once you find that guy your wound will heal and forget those painful days with your ex
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I posted about my aquarian a while ago and everyones advice was helpful but now once again I am at a loss. After many months (almost a year) of being friends with him and dating him and seeing him once a week or so things started getting serious so I made the decision to sleep with him (we waited about 8 months from when I met him and he told me how it didn't feel like a "first time" with someone new, just very natural). I asked him straight if he was sleeping or talking to anyone else and he said no and vice versa, Great news right? He introduces me to his best friend, he leaves me the keys to his apartment when he leaves sometimes to the gym, and wanted me to meet his father. Fast forward to this past weekend where I get a message via Facebook and it's from his ex. They have been seeing each other this whole time! She knows about me because she went through his phone about a month ago and was keeping tabs on our relationship and was contacting me to let me know that they were together the night before and had a very bad fight. Messy. I'm 27 (and so is he, his ex is 20) and I am much to old for this so I text him and ask if he needs to tell me anything to which he immediately replied he would call me. He then tells me he's not ready to be with just one person and he is sorry that his ex did what she did. I kept calm but told him he's a liar bc he told me he wasn't talking to anyone and he finally admits to his f*** up. I am a textbook loyal Taurus woman and I am hurt. I handled the situation as best as I could but my sadness is palpable. I feel used and he said that was never his intention and that he sees me because he loves cooking for me, and lounging at home, and laughing together and he cares about me "as a person" and that it was never about sex ( we barely slept together anyway, some nights we would just cuddle).
My question is what the F went wrong? I'm thinking he still loves his ex and I can't compete with that even though they have a tumultuous relationship and he says he's done with her. I now feel as if everything was a lie and that he doesn't even like me and that this whole year has been a waste. I told him my trust for him is broken.
Just for more clarification he is Aquarius sun, Libra Moon, Aquarius Mercury, Pisces Venus, Sagittarius Mars and I am Taurus Sun, Virgo Moon, Mercury Taurus, Venus Gemini, and Mars Aquarius.