Do Aqua men mind if a girl asks them out?

He's so aloof that I kind of feel like I'll be waiting forever otherwise. He ain't never gonna make the first move!

I'm not an aqua, but I think aqua men like a straight forward girl. They like directness.

Aquas, please correct me if I'm wrong.

Posted by london_libra
He's so aloof that I kind of feel like I'll be waiting forever otherwise. He ain't never gonna make the first move!

You're young I say go for it. But keep it light but honest that you want to go out sometime. See what he says.

Posted by truecap
I'm not an aqua, but I think aqua men like a straight forward girl. They like directness.

Aquas, please correct me if I'm wrong.

i agree

Posted by EvilTurtle

Posted by truecap
I'm not an aqua, but I think aqua men like a straight forward girl. They like directness.

Aquas, please correct me if I'm wrong.

i agree

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That's how I had to with mine. Nice to have some back up, ET.

Ok, I'll do it! Never asked a dude out before, let's see how this goes.

please make sure your hot otherwise it will be awkward..

LOL um, i do it! i dont see whats the big fuss about who ask who first. I see no direct correlation with being labeled as "desparate" "needy" "clingy" with asking someone out first. I a

I asked out a aqua guy and he declined my offer because he had plans already after work. I asked him out again a week later and he agreed. But you see, i didn't ask him out for a specific intention to make him my bf, it was simply because at the IMMEDIATE moment, i enjoy our conversations and he's cool company, why not go hang out? btw, any company would've been fine, i didn't ask him out specifically because i like him romantically, i only asked him out because he peeked my interest. That is the thing with men, they ask you out because you peeked their interest not because they are in love with you and want you to be their gf...that will only depend on how the dates go. If you want him to ask you on a first date, give him clues that you are interested, look at him more, give him signs that you really want him and let him snatch the bait!

wanna know the conclusion of the aqua guy?
Now, he initiates everything, calls, texts, afternoon emails, to taking me out. Aqua men can be very very romantic and sweet. (but then again the aqua guy has a water sign as his venus i forget which one)it only took 5 seconds of my time in the beginning to ask him out twice.

@the eleventh sign - i'm definitely hot, no worries there. (?!)

@candi3bb - that's great to know, thanks! i think i'm hung up on the idea that guys should do all the chasing because that's what we're all told. i actually like chasing but i always feel like there's something wrong with me if i'm the one chasing. i just like it tho! i wanna be friends with him too because we get on so well but i wouldn't mind if it blossomed into more, haha. thanks for your advice, i appreciate it. glad things are going well with your aqua!

They are aloof and aren't always intuitive so be direct simple and clear. He may say yes or no based in however hes feeling at that exact moment

Well hotness is debatable! I'd work more on the quirk factor! hotness is just a bonus!

I'll agree and disagree on being aloof. I'm certain most of the time what other people's intentions are, I'm just giving them chances to be more direct.

Well he has been caught "gazing" (not my word, the people who caught him!) at me several times, so I guess in his book that makes me hot? Unless he was gazing because he was shocked at how ugly I am. Also possible.

But aquasnoz, if a girl you liked got in touch with you would you just ask her out directly or would you "give her the chance" to be more direct? That's what I'm trying to figure out. I know he's not the most forthcoming person in the world but wouldn't he just ask me out if he wanted to date me? Gazing aside.

Posted by london_libra
Well he has been caught "gazing" (not my word, the people who caught him!) at me several times, so I guess in his book that makes me hot? Unless he was gazing because he was shocked at how ugly I am. Also possible.

But aquasnoz, if a girl you liked got in touch with you would you just ask her out directly or would you "give her the chance" to be more direct? That's what I'm trying to figure out. I know he's not the most forthcoming person in the world but wouldn't he just ask me out if he wanted to date me? Gazing aside.

I would probably be pretty happy if I actually did like you and ask you out for a coffee if I'm available. But then I'm pretty direct and go after what I like.

listen to candi, just ask him out he doesn't have to know your intentions. People make such a big fuss of asking other people out!

Yeah, it's tough for girls though. We're always told, repeatedly, that asking a guy out is not cool. Look at the whole 'He's Just Not That Into You' franchise. We're always told to back off if we don't get a bunch of green lights all over the place.

Posted by london_libra
Yeah, it's tough for girls though. We're always told, repeatedly, that asking a guy out is not cool. Look at the whole 'He's Just Not That Into You' franchise. We're always told to back off if we don't get a bunch of green lights all over the place.

I can see why it's viewed as a guy thing. It's whole part of social conditioning. But at the end of the day I disregard all that. Just think of all the quotes dealing with regret, the universal thing is never doing something and left to wonder the what ifs. I didn't go by that because of the sayings, I go by that because I HAVE let things just pass by.

This is overcoming the piscean and my direct libra influence. Life's too short, just ask him to hangout. it's not a leap of faith, it's just baby steps to see where this infatuation leads.

oh and trust me, I would never turn down a coffee date if I'm not doing anything at the time. Aquas appreciate a confident person too and you seem like an enthusiastic fun, bubbly and caring girl. Own it.

I have asked aquas for coffee before and they declined so that theory is out

Aww aquasnoz you're sweet! Thank you for the encouragement, I appreciate it. Social conditioning is hard to overcome. I too have had things slip by me in the past and I made a vow of never letting things go by again. 'No regrets' is my new motto. So I'm gonna ask him to hang out tomorrow.

Libras no worries. It's easy for me to ask men out but the closer I am to them. The harder it is for me. But like noz says

- you ask him out, 50% chance it goes in your favor
- you don't do anything, 100% chance it doesn't go in your favor

Yo what guy wouldn't like some hotness asking him out?? I know I wouldn't mind lol isn't that supposed to be like an ego boost haha! But yeah even if he says no it could be for a reason if he makes it clear there is one don't give in right away. Take it from a guy who is used to asking girls out although I don't do it that much anymore...not many impress me ^.^ you always run the risk of being rejected but at least you know how they feel and you need not waste anymore time thinking about them when they aren't thinking about you. Anyhow Im Aquarius and if a girl has the balls so to speak lol to ask me out that is definitely not a turn off ^.< (No matter what you look like)

Posted by ScorpioFemale79
I have asked aquas for coffee before and they declined so that theory is out

jeez i have never refused going out without reason.

Thank you for this, I am going to do it tomorrow! He may well say no as I know he's moving to another city soon (might be in the midst of moving right now actually) so it's not the best timing for him but it's now or never because once he's gone, he's gone!

Yikes, okay, I emailed him. Probably be a million years before I hear anything but at least I've done it now.
Just so you all know, I have venus in sagittarius - which should make me a lot more brave about this sort of thing. but nooooo. i'm a wuss.

Ask him!! After yall go out just don't keep "chasing". Give him a chance to take the lead after that.

*crosses fingers things go well*

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Posted by ScorpioFemale79
I have asked aquas for coffee before and they declined so that theory is out

jeez i have never refused going out without reason.

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If they had a reason they never told me

I did! I asked. It is done. Now just gotta wait for a response.
Thank you for your crossed fingers, haha, I appreciate it!