Does my Aqua bf want to break up with me?

Alright soooo we've been together for about 4 years. Anyways, the last few weeks we have kind of been fighting a lot about random things. Last night it got pretty heated and I said something mean to him and he said "OMG I dont want to be with you anymore!" I freaked out and said "Baby Im really sorry I didnt mean it, dont say that." And he said "wtvr u were being really mean and immature." So the next day we're talking on the phone normally but I CANT hold it in so I kind of start crying on the phone and Im like "u didnt mean what u said did u?" And he's like "yeah dont worry we're going to be fine." And Im like "Im really really sorry about fighting the past couple weeks, I just want to stop. I dont care about any of that. I love u." And he's like "yeah well u cant just say sorry and everything is fine." And Im like "I know I just want to say sorry and move on. Can u just tell me u love me?" And he's like "Ur making me feel weird. I'll talk to u later."

What do I do?? We've been together for so long so I hope he's not contemplating breaking up with me because of a rough patch. He tells me he loves me allll the time and he never says he doesnt want to be with me. So I take it very seriously when he acts like this. Can someone please tell me what to do and how to fix the situation?? I really just want things to go to how they were before we were fighting so much. I know that aquas dont like having really emotional talks so is that why he wants to avoid talking about it? Or does he want to break up with me but doesnt know how to do it cause I would be a total wreck? I mean it's been four years! And he always says he loves me and talks about future plans. What do I do?? 😢

Oh and he's also been really stressed with school...if that means anything.

If it were me in his situation I would need a little space from the events taking place. By this i mean not bringing it up constantly or becoming clingy for fear he's leaving. If you continue to bring up this topic and beat that horse dead he may view it as an insecurity of sorts. My best recommendation is to perhaps try doing something that shows detail to your caring for him. It's hard saying without knowing the individuals involved.. Doing something small and sweet or an evenings worth of things can have different effects for certain people.

With the time in your relationship you likely know the little nuances to reach your mans heart.

So you just freaked out when he told you he was done and tossed out whatever problems you have with him? Look, if you have issues with him, they need to be dealt with openly.
You both have to find a way to communicate and deal with problems or this will never work. Don't put your life in his hands by freaking out and apologizing just to appease him. He's no fool, he knows you're not happy with something and that won't go away. It sounds like you're very young and dependent on him. BAd move. Both for him and you.

If you're in college, try to work it out but don't be devastated if this relationship doesn't work out. It seems like you both are not treating one another with understanding and respect. If you're in high school, just forget it. You need to concentrate on your study and on your own personal development. Maybe when you both become more mature, you can make it happen.

We're both in college and started dating about 6 month to a year after high school. I've never had another bf but him so it's pretty hard learning all my mistakes from him rather than having already learned from someone else. He on the other hand already had three other relationships that each lasted about 6 or so months while in high school.

Last night we hung out for an hr at a bar and he was all smiles and massaging my leg and giving me random pecks on the lips. But when I said "tell me u love me" he was like "no! u have to earn it." So I didnt ask him again. And when he dropped me off at my house he said i love u but in a strained voice like he was forcing it out. And when I said "are u still mad at me?" he said no but I can tell he's still not over the fights we've had the past few weeks. So I guess I should just give him space and be all smiles and act like we haven't been fighting the past few weeks? I wish we could talk it out but I guess it would be like beating a dead horse. We've already said so much that it would just be repeating everything. And it's not like I can say "Im sorry, please dont break up with me." Im just so not good at letting things go unresolved but I guess its what I have to do to not stress him out more. Just wish he could act towards me like he did a month ago and I'd be over it.

And yeah it sucks, but I do feel dependent on him. I hate feeling like that but since I never had a bf before I jumped in to this relationship pretty fast and became serious fast. And now he's also like my best friends. Sure I have other friend's but he's the one I talk to for at least 1 to 2 hrs a day and he just feels like both a bf and best friend. It would just feel to weird and bad to break up and not hear from him anymore after having him in my life for so long and hearing from him ever day for so many hrs. Yeah prob really stupid on my part to have not seen how that would make me really dependent but now I would know better to not get so serious so fast with another guy if we broke up.