Dumped by Aqua guy!!

I'll try and keep this brief! I've met an Aqua guy and he is brilliant! We get on really well but there is a little distance between us so between dates we text and email a lot. Today I stupidly let my horoscope dictate what was happening between us and it was turning into a bit of argument so he said he'd catch me later. Well, I hate not following things through so I texted him...nothing. Rang him...nothing! Had to go out and when I came in found an email from him saying the astro stuff was getting to him and maybe we weren't as well suited as he thought we were and he was going to call it a day, and he was sure I would understand!!! Well-I don't understand! It's mad! We were both really into each other and I can't understand why he would just make a stupid snap decision like that. He ended by saying "don't try and change my mind because it's made up".
So Aqua boys and girls-have I any chance at all of getting round him?

No. Aquarius are very dilligent in our dumping habits. When it's over, it's over. And rarely do we go back. But to agree with the previous poster, I also don't see why he deserves your attention anymore. He's one fish in a sea of millions. It does hurt, I know to have things happen so abruptly like that but....cut bait and move on! Noone's worth the sacrafice to your self-esteem. You can do better. Good Luck.

bluff ! he's prob wanting a reaction or testing you - I would move on from such games unless you like playing 🙂

but that's a good one ! thought I had heard it all !

Join the club lol! That's all I can say!

thank you cappywench, that's what I was thinking !but quite curious about lk's question... how much did you let astro dictate ? I've seen folks use astro as bible 😕

lets see.. well since ive dated 3 different aquas.. well two and i have my eyes on one now.. uuhhgg..

id say, leave it alone.
the more you pester him, (which is kinda what im thinking he wants) he'll see what kind of person you are when the tables have turned and then in that moment is really when he'll make up his minda bout you.
and i know some say i probablly have no say in any of this since i seem to over analize everything (secretly) that my aqua does or doesnt do..

but if ive learned anything from the previous relationships.
let him be.
he doesnt know exactly what he wants and maybe this gave him an excuse to experiment.
and if he really does care for you, then you will know.
no contact and the poor guy will eventually come around.

i know i know... i have no place, but really... i do understand a little bit about them.

OK...a bit more info! I met him on a dating website and after our first meeting he said he was going to hide his profile, so I did too. Today, I read both of our horoscopes (I read a couple of favourite ones most days) and his said something was going to end in an argument. Then for some weird reason I decided to log into the dating website (hadn't done since hiding my profile) and found he'd been on line! His decision to hide his profile...so why?? I logged out straight away and seconds later he got me on MSN Messenger. Now being Sagittarius I couldn't hide my feelings too well but I did try, and told him I didn't want to argue, and I think he knew straight away that I had rumbled him. So he said he'd catch me later and then later I got the email. I have drafted a reply (but haven't sent it yet) and told him I don't beg and don't push but he needs to hear what I have to say. He is making a big mistake and I'm sure he knows that and it's food for thought what a few of you have said - why does he say don't contact me unless he really wants me to? I am getting madder and madder because it's all such a waste! I need to get through to him and will try, but if I'm wasting my time I won't keep trying. Help guys please—

Sealovers...why do you say you have no place? If you know about Aquarians that's fine by me. It's killing me not contacting him today and I know I should leave it a couple of days-but it's hard!!!

I'll never know why he was on it! There could be legitimate reasons but he wasn't about to discuss them!

I didn't actually get that far-I knew there was an argument brewing and told him so (stupid I know!!). He obviously was aware that I knew what he'd been up to and he didn't hang around long enough to explain. I am really puzzled though because I have been really cautious thinking he didn't want anything heavy but it was his decision to hide his profile, his decision to buy gifts for Christmas etc etc, I've just been going with the flow. Maybe he was just checking out the competition before he decided to commit...or am I kidding myself?!

haha well sag16, as a saggy myself.. i know all too well everything that is running through your noggin. haha
i cant express how many times these aquas drive me insane with their weird emotional/ non emotional spurts.

i say i have no room cause i have issues myself when it comes to aquas haha. im (hopefully) going on the third one haha third ones a charm right?

sooo anyways.. lol
the only thing i can say is that find something that keeps you buisy for a while. and in all honesty, ive known aquas to be quite stubborn in their ways.



onebadaqua said "Aquarius are very dilligent in our dumping habits. When it's over, it's over"
uhhh.... this is kinda right.. but not.
i find that all the aquas ive ever met have always had this lingering effect to them. like they always have someone on their mind, whether its an old love, or or just an old friend.
the last aqua i dated actually was incredibly persistent with trying to contact me and hang out after we broke up. of course none of this contact was soon. it took a good.. uuuhhh.. 6-7 months for him to out of the blue call me everyday. but he was very persistent in that i would always ignore his phone calls.
thats what drove him nuts. i had to wait till it was convienient for him and when i was the one who crossed his mind and , because aquas liek to dwell on their thoughts, came aroudn to realizing he missed me..

and then when we got back together, the only thing he wanted was what he had before when we were younger. a carefree love with no responisibities, and when i was more serious the 2nd go around, he bolted.
of course he still would try an contact me, but i eventually said ef*it.
i dont like wishywashy..

and my newest aqua boy pulled some mean tricks on me right from the get go to see what kind of person i am, and if i was dateable. (he had his friend text me seeing if i wanted or was interested in cheating with him on his wife.) yeah... kinda pissed me off.. but in the end it was a test...
so i dunno..
they sure are weird.
ive just come to the comclusion that they dont know what they want, and its best to go with the flow. it is hard, but trust me, if there is real feelings involved, he'll come around.

sag, I don't understand - did you tell him that your horoscope said there will be an argument ? were you pushing for an argument because your horoscope said so ? if you got on so well, why did you pay attention to the horoscope ?
why did you log on to the site ? sounds like he's gone on the defense but did you actually mention to him that you knew he logged on ?

if you're serious or philosophical about astro, might as well find someone who will appreciate you plus that

exactly how much astro stuff are we talking here? i mean seriously...are you callignhim up and causing fights over your newspaper horoscope. i am sorry, if you are that astro happy you deserve the dumping. at this point, you are probably a story for him to tell "once i dated this girl who was WAY too into astrology..."

seriously. get a grip.

Funny I was thinking the same thing and then I read LK's post.........
I'm Leo too by the way...🙂 Great minds

To be perfectly honestly if I was dating someone who was using Astrology for a basis in everything we do in our relationship I'd run a mile and my Aqua boyfriend, he'd immigrate.
Jeez girl, cool it. If it was that bad that he left you a note saying cherio perhaps you should look at what you did and not at what a jerk he possibly is.

May I ask why YOU logged onto the dating website— Possibly the same reason he did—? Curiosity killed the cat— Also, were you not overly defensive in your conversation on MSN with him because you were preempting what you'd read on the astrology thingie...and you must've mentioned it to him otherwise like LK said why would he have mentioned it. I think it would get on my nerves too and kinda spells psycho even though you're more than likely perfectly normal. I think, and sorry to play devils advocate here, that perhaps you were a little impulsive and reacted badly to seeing him online.
Basically you may have screwed up and chased him away....my advise is leave it. You cannot FORCE him to change his mind and insisting on GETTING THROUGH TO HIM is just going to make you look even more emotional, impulsive and controlling. Let it go....if and when he does contact you just admit that you got a little freaked out when you saw him online (even though you were too), and make some committment to stop bringing all that astrology into your relationship...it would seriously get on 99.9% of guys tits. What were you thinking??

Good luck but really now let it go....you're making the situation worse.