First Time With Aquarius Male - Lack Of Interest?

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Posted by sultrykitty
Yes.

Yes, typical behavior or yes, lack of interest, or overreacting lol?

Yes, to both. 🙂

This is totally Aqua. Especially if they work a lot. I live with mine, and if he's busy working (his business is at home, mind you), I don't see him more than a couple hours a day.

I woulndt say is lack of interest, he seems super interested. More like a busy person from any sign not just aqua. I woulnt worry about it.

I've been dating an aqua for the past 4 months. I've found this to be typical aqua behavior. Mine is a Dr so can work 15+ hour workdays and when he's bus,y it's been normal to go a day or two without hearing from him or getting a text response. But he eventually will follow up. I've found that not making a big deal about it has been the best route. He likes that I'mm busy and have things happening in my life and that we always manage to catch back up with each other.

I've learned that this will not be the type of relationship where I'll be texting/calling each other all day long like it was with my ex-cancer bf. Instead, I've got my girlfriends for that--If you're the type who needs constant communication with him or will act really cold or upset if he doesn't respond right away it probably won't last long.

Just remember that you shouldn't be offended if it takes a while for him to get back to you. From what I hear, what is a day or two to everyone else seems like a couple of hours to an aqua--especially if he's one who works crazy hours. So when he does get back in touch with you and you act weird, upset, or cold about him "ignoring you" he's going to be totally confused and turned off.

Yea I went thru that as well...keyword "thru"

Posted by FilletoFish
I woulndt say is lack of interest, he seems super interested. More like a busy person from any sign not just aqua. I woulnt worry about it.

Thanks. I just can't help but feel that he's a player or is seeing someone else, which he is allowed to because we're not exclusive. To go from pretty with good communicating to this just isn't settling well with me.

You have to be independent and be living your own life to be with an aqua. People who are busy and have their own things going on wouldn't even notice how long it takes for them to respond and wouldn't even realize they've posted on social media.

My advice is do your own thing and don't make a big deal out of it. Aquas know how they are, they're not going to change and they need to be with secure people who can roll with the flow.

Posted by lagyaal

Posted by FilletoFish
I woulndt say is lack of interest, he seems super interested. More like a busy person from any sign not just aqua. I woulnt worry about it.

Thanks. I just can't help but feel that he's a player or is seeing someone else, which he is allowed to because we're not exclusive. To go from pretty with good communicating to this just isn't settling well with me.

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You should be at least talking to other guys until he decides to be exclusive. Don't put all your eggs in one basket too early. He doesn't, neither should you.

It's only been a month and you're all worked up over nothing.

Yes typical of us to behave that way and I admit it .. we get so caught up in what we are doing... work or projects or problems and we focus on that for awhile.. but when we are done we go "home" so to speak .. where our hearts and our comforts are. You need to be ready for that kind of relationship where we disappear and reappear.

Posted by lagyaal

Posted by FilletoFish
I woulndt say is lack of interest, he seems super interested. More like a busy person from any sign not just aqua. I woulnt worry about it.

Thanks. I just can't help but feel that he's a player or is seeing someone else, which he is allowed to because we're not exclusive. To go from pretty with good communicating to this just isn't settling well with me.

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JFC. We're not water signs. We're not Fire Signs. We simply do not have the energy to attend to your every living text/call/whatsapps/snapchat or whatever the fuck. You want someone who will jump at the little ring on their phone from you? Literally keeps their phone like an umbilical cord? ok try, Cancer, Libra, Virgo, Aries etc....they all have cling compatibility.

Have you bothered to read some of the other threads? Other Aquas will tell you that SPACE is critical in the start of any relationship. That pretty much 90% of Aqua relationships start out as close friendships, or what we call the "click connection" where it just feels right and makes sense and we go from there.

You know what ruins it? Your expectations that an Aqua act like everyone else. An Aqua isn't going to do that...the Aqua is an absent-minded but memory like an elephant person with many interests.

And we don't lose our shit when someone else takes a bit to answer us back, unless its about time sensitive plans that we are attempting to be fashionably late to.