GAH! I'm being driven mad!

I dont understand?? Whats so hard to understand in this paragraph?


Didnt he tell you he's been having personal issues, hence shit has been really weird for him lately.

You should appreciate the explanation and the well wishes and move on (you clearly are one of the lucky ones who actually get explanations from guys). Its not you, its him.

One thing to learn about Aquas is that when they tell you something in practical terms, they are expecting for you to fully comprehend what they are saying (especially since they normally put alot of thought into things FIRST before they speak). He's CLEARLY telling you that things just didn't work out & to an extent, you shouldn't have expected much more. Aquas SAY WHAT THEY MEAN & MEAN WHAT THEY SAY. There is no point in pondering on what his statements mean because if you truly look at the big picture inside that small paragraph, he is telling you that yes, things were fun BUT that things going on in his life are not compatible with making any new moves with you or anyone else. Sure, he might have someone on the side that he's starting to get serious with, thus this is his way of letting you down in the best manner he can. Or it could be that he's already tested you, saw what you were about & what you had to offer & decided that it just didn't tickle his fancy like he thought he would. We all watch the shows on Tv. "Baby, I love you BUT....(then the hearbreaking statement comes) OR "I really like you BUT..." This situation is no different. Sweety, he's letting you down slowly & trying to be mature & keep it as peaceful as possible. I think he could have re-worded his statements a little bit (because we forget that what makes sense to us in OUR minds may not make sense to someone else in their own minds)

Girl your already confused by him and your not even his woman...RUN

He specifically made it clear he's not interested by not following through with the call or second date, when a man says he's going to call and he doesn't call thats a huge RED flag, although it was nice that he came back with an explanation I would have IGNORED it especially after 6 months of no contact, he wouldn't have gotten a conversation out of me, you falling back into routine as if he never left didn't fair well and honestly made you look a bit desperate which men can sniff out and most run, some men consider a woman desperate when a woman likes him more than he likes her, they flake and disappear.

He senses how much you like him but if he doesn't feel the same way about you then you have nothing, he may be dealing with some self esteem issues and relationship issues and doesn't have room for you in his life, you clearly have a bit of a mental connect but it must not be strong enough for him to stick around.

"And now I'm wondering all over again. I understand that he's having personal issues...but when I think about that it just makes me realize I'd like to be friends with him and be there for him, I really think highly of him even after all this. I mean, hethinks I'm a good person, well... I think he's great. Besides I don't even know how he knows I'm a good person. I wasn't acting like it when I met him. I still would have wanted an explanation back when I really needed one, and was totally upset for a while. Now this makes me think of him all over again. SHIIIIIT."

You think highly of him? Why? He's done NOTHING for you to do this, your giving him way more credit than he deserves, here you are thinking he's great when he only thinks your good, you like him way too much and you putting him on this pedestal probably rattled his self esteem, he's not worth thinking about, he's being a jerk and your like a jerk magnet...if you really sit back and look at his behavior towards you, I mean really see him, you would not even waste your time thinking about this guy, you should be preoccupied with men that wanna be around you, not waste time thinking about some flake that takes 6 months to say oops i'm sorry for ditching you and ignoring you and lying to you and let me tell you how great you are and I don't even really know you but I gotta say something really corny and nice for being an asshole towards you. You pick up the conversation as if you have no life and your a doormat, thats the message your sending...block his number, block him period, if he truly wants to be your friend make him work to be in your life, stop being emotionally easy.

"Aquas SAY WHAT THEY MEAN & MEAN WHAT THEY SAY"

Uh I don't believe that at all, kings of mixed messages and they tend to be very,very flighty..However in this case I do not think that it takes a rocket scientist to figure out that this guy is pulling out of this..Don't be sad or hurt just move on always better when one door closes no matter what astrological sign your dealing with.."

...Well all Aquas are different & from MY personal experience AS ONE & from having many Aqua friends, this is how I know & see Aquas when it comes to making a BIG decision about relationships. Sure, EVERYONE at some point gets confused or can send mixed signals (especially in the beginning when things are more go-with-the-flow) but once an Aqua has already tested someone out, already saw what they were about & what they had to offer we make the decision to either pursue that person or completely walk away & normally THAT decision is the one that we stick with. And in this situation, this guy never really showed complete interest in her from the get-go so him telling her how great she was is not an indication of mixed messages, because it's clear that he's letting her down slowly & has worded his words in a way that someone who's read them would interpret them as a peaceful let down

Jeez, yeah I know, you are all right.
I should know this effing shit by now but I always forget the past and that's what really leads to my undoing. Several times before I've actually pursued(not actively, in my own wierd aries way haha) people who confused me and therefor intrigued me. or ignored me/seemed like they weren't into getting to know me. I know, it's terrible but I guess it's my nature to want what i can't have? it sucks, really. i definetly should just totally forget about him and i mostly have but for some reason whenever he talks to me i somehow end up crazily thinking up stuff that really doesn't even makes sense. hahahh
well thanks for all of the advice, definetly no more talking to him at all. 🙂

has anyone else had this wierd problem? hahah i think i've heard of it before, in an article, and it was a self esteem issue I think. Daaang...well, i did used to have self esteem problems. but I don't anymore, i'm still a little wierd though. My first instinct has been seriously to ignore him but then my crazy-brain goes " but...but...what if he does like you or something and he was just upset because you blahblah" and then i remember how he said he wanted to be my boyfriend and i just laughed. so that's why this is an especially wierd case of limerance. Limerence limerence limerence! I'm a strong girl, I can ignore him! 😄 hahah

Hahaha mmm cake I want some right now. A big fatty slice of triple chocolate... mmmm *homer simpson gurgle* HAHA 😛 Aww thanks bijou! that really makes me feel a lot better...I forget these things sometimes. I am going to follow your advice thoroughly. Now to go about meeting these good people?I really do long for true friendships in my life but unfortunately for quite some time now I had been hanging out with all the wrong people, and just meeting more wrong people. I am a good person, and even if I didn't act like it for a while, I have every intention of never wavering from my true and strong, moral and right beliefs ever again. It really is a sad thing when some people would rather just call me ?weird? when I begin to talk about how any and all animal byproducts aren't necessary and in fact are harmful, instead of listening to and giving a chance my scientifically based arguments. Well, not my arguments per say, but beliefs I stand behind! In turn I'm going to do anything and everything I can to be true to myself and true to what is right. Hurray for individuality! 😄