He just needs a friend but he asked about my ring size....

I am a Cap late 30s and I have been in love with an aquarius for 4 years now. When we met I wasn't looking to fall for him but I did want a relationship. He didn't want to rush to call me his girl but he was down for the sex. ... He took me around family and friends and we got along so good. Some not so good things happened and I felt unappreciated and unwanted. I left and didn't talk to him for a month. I saw him again and let him know I was done and we had words. He then let me know that he loved me wanted to marry me and I said fuck off. He has reached out like 4 or 5 times over the past 4 years and I decided that I wanted to talk to him. I was told how he kept asking about me from a friend and I have thought about him a lot o er the years. When I saw him I realized I never got over him and I still love him. He said he knows we loved eachother and he missed me and had to delete all my picture to move on. I didnt realize we both were so hurt. We started seeing eachother again and I must say I love who he is more daily because I understand him better now. We were physical and he said he just really needs a friend and is working on himself. He is not seeing anyone else and it is so hard for this cap to be patient. I am so turned on because I am considered strange by most and I am spiritual and love intellectual convo. He makes love to my mind. I was told that he wanted to know my ring size. I remember him holding my hand recently and playing with my ring finger saying how small my fingers were. We were waching tv and I said he was goin to marry a white woman because of a comment he made and he said Persians were white and smiled at me. He has had some tragedies in life and is now in a tough spot and is getting his shit together. I have met his mother and she has mentioned more than once that she is so glad I am back in his life again. Does it seem he just wants to get right before wanting a girlfriend relationship with me? What are your thoughts? Oh yes, forgot to say that he has not had a relationship since he was with me yeara ago. Has had sex but does not allow feelings.

Posted by GiveMeAqua
Stop overanalyzing darlin. From what I can tell this man has deep feelings for you. Just enjoy the time the two of you are sharing together and things will unfold just as they are meant to. I know how maddening it can be, but he would not be putting in time with you If you were not worth it to him.

Thank you!!!! Yes, I over analyze a lot. It is hard for me because I feel I have to keep things bottled up. Don't want to be too mushy with him for fear it may scare him. He said he was scared before when we were seeing each other.

Posted by brandyp
You two sound like star crossed lovers lol. I agree with above user, don't over analyze. He is into you!!

Can you explain please?

Yeah, pretty sure he's not asking you your ring size for nothing

Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Yeah, pretty sure he's not asking you your ring size for nothing

Lol I understand and dont know if he was so sober when he asked that.... He was not when he said the Persian thing. Maybe the truth slips when he is drinking. I just need to breathe and be patient. It is hard not having a label for me. He hates labels...go figure.

Posted by ILuvhim75

Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Yeah, pretty sure he's not asking you your ring size for nothing

Lol I understand and dont know if he was so sober when he asked that.... He was not when he said the Persian thing. Maybe the truth slips when he is drinking. I just need to breathe and be patient. It is hard not having a label for me. He hates labels...go figure.

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Oh and he didn't ask me my ring size. He wanted someone to find out.

Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Yeah, pretty sure he's not asking you your ring size for nothing

Agree. An aqua usually avoids those type of subjects.

I'm a cap and I was patient with my aqua. Well worth it! We're getting married in 2 1/2 months.

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Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Yeah, pretty sure he's not asking you your ring size for nothing

Lol I understand and dont know if he was so sober when he asked that.... He was not when he said the Persian thing. Maybe the truth slips when he is drinking. I just need to breathe and be patient. It is hard not having a label for me. He hates labels...go figure.

Oh and he didn't ask me my ring size. He wanted someone to find out.

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Same thing. Lol!

Posted by truecap
I'm a cap and I was patient with my aqua. Well worth it! We're getting married in 2 1/2 months.

Omg that is wonderful!!!! Congrats!!!! I have read that Aquarius and Capricorn are unlikely pairs but if they do unite with patience on Cap's part of course that it is a bond that no other sign can compare to with Aquarius.

Ok so now we have talked and he still loves me and says that he thinks it takes a good 2 years to get to know a person before entering a relationship. I guess I understand because nothing has worked out for him because people don't stick around. They run out of patience. This is so confusing for me but I love this man. Ugh....fml

Babygirl, I don't know about this one. LOL

I live with my Aquarius after 8 months of dating. ( He gets on my everlasting nerves!) Within the 3rd date he told me I was going to be his wife. He then began to pursue with his actions very aggressively.

In other words men speak with their behavior not their words. Until he is aggressively calling you, texting, taking you out, and showing with his behavior that he wants you, I wouldn't take his fleeting words to heart.

When a man loves you, his behavior shows you. Not with words, but with dates, (if he's broke) then he will come over sit with you, sit in the yard. He will call daily or very regularly, he texts, bust his ass to make you happy. and try and be as close to you as often as possible. He will overturn worlds to be with you.

Your man's behavior doesn't demonstrate a man who is serious about you. He says kinds words, introduces you to a few people but do you two have plans this weekend? I think he is all talk, he is a charmer, but all air.

Posted by ILuvhim75
Ok so now we have talked and he still loves me and says that he thinks it takes a good 2 years to get to know a person before entering a relationship. I guess I understand because nothing has worked out for him because people don't stick around. They run out of patience. This is so confusing for me but I love this man. Ugh....fml

Basically you two are FWB period! He talks a good game so you will tolerate the arrangements, but at the end of the day he sleeps with you without a commitment and gets away with it, because he touches your ring finger. (WTF) After all the pretty words, and bullshit, at the end of the day you are a friend he sleeps with. (FWB)

Never ever ever assume a man is only seeing you unless you are wearing a ring, and he comes home every night promptly after work, and you two are spending the entire weekends together. (Especially the notorious Aquarius) When a man wants to get married his behavior begins to act like a married man. When a Aquarius really likes you, he has no problem what-so-ever with committing.

In addition; Persians are not white, they are by far too mixed with Arab and East Indians, to be considered white in the United States. Europeans are: French, German, English Irish, Russian, Scottish, Northern Italian, and Scandinavian.

He wants a pure white girl! Now we know why he isn't fully coming forward. Just because he is not claiming a relationship doesn't mean he is not SEEING other women. Most men will never ever ever admit that they are seeing other women for fear it will a) hurt your feelings b) interfere with his free access to sex without commitment.

Thanks ladies. I did have to put him in his place and I am seeing a change but this is still fresh. Time will tell....lol.