Help me understand?

I am going through a failed marriage in which has caused me so much pain and misery and when I decided to move on and square my shoulders for the task ahead. I met this aquarius girl online and we kinda met up a few times.

During the meet up we talked about alot of stuffs and coincidentally we were able to click very well. As I was not really ready for a new relationship yet and I realized some of her actions like touching my arm, sharing drinks with me throw a coke straw and she even fed me food through her fork. She would giggle like a little girl when I try to make her laugh and stuffs. We did groceries shopping and she would share with me her preferred diet and passer bys will mistake is as a couple.

She understands where I'm coming from and the problems I am facing now and just one day I decided to tell her that I think I'm beginning to like her.

Now she replies all of my text but I don't feel it to be as enthusiastic as before. Furthermore she now gives reasons for us to cancel our planned meet ups.

I would appreciate if my fellows Aquarians be able to provide a 3rd party view on this. Oh I am Aries by the way.

in my opinion id say that she likes the idea of you two as a couple bt she might have a feeling that you havent completely gotten over your failed marriage just yet. so shes putting up a little wall until she knows for sure you can handle a new relationship...

Agreed with LoveeStoned. I just wish to define the "wall" a little. It serves two purposes, one it protects you, she likes you but she doesn't want push you into something you're not ready for. It protects her, as she doesn't want to fall for you and then you back out coz ur not ready.

Basically telling you, you can set the pace. If you know your own mind, then a little chat about where you are in your head wouldn't hurt.

Hmmm... Well she did mention too that she isn't sure about us because of reasons like I'm still in the midst of settlement and she isn't really looking for relationship. Well I kinda replied her "sure I totally understand it won't be fair for you. Not trying to rush you or what so don't worry"

That is where the hot and cold treatment began and until date she is still replying my messages.

So my question is, do you think she still likes me?

you should just talk to her & ask her. everything we said before still applies & its a good sign she's still replying to your messages & stuff. but you wont know anything for sure until you communicate your thoughts & feelings ; think positive thoughts ! use the law of attraction , it works every time 😄

Well I'm not really sure how I am to talk to her about this yet. Perhaps I will just continue to be positive and not let her go and stick around.

She's like getting back to her jovial self and she's beginning to be more chatty with me now and even asked me out for dinner. Should I? For this on/off and close/aloof thing, is it a normal thing for aqua?

Posted by TasteOfChaoss
yes, the on/off aloof shit is normal for an aqua.

it takes a very special person to date one 😛

And lot of patience!!!!

And confidence. And independence.

I was drunk last night and kinda told her how much she meant to me. She showed concern about me being drunk and was worried I be driving.

She also mentioned that she is glad that my world became more colorful when I got to know her even though she claims she hasn't done anything yet.

We are still contacting via messages and texts and her replies are prompt. How's this for progress?

Posted by feby16aqua

Posted by Boristheblade
Well I'm not really sure how I am to talk to her about this yet. Perhaps I will just continue to be positive and not let her go and stick around.

She's like getting back to her jovial self and she's beginning to be more chatty with me now and even asked me out for dinner. Should I? For this on/off and close/aloof thing, is it a normal thing for aqua?

Well yes. It's more of going with your flow though. When you're too intense, we back off a bit. When you back off we come back and touch base. The aqua-aries dynamic is interesting, I've been there a few times and it was the same way with both.

Just be yourself, everything else will sort itself out.

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Depends on the Aries. My Aries sister is dominant water but with a singularity Taurus moon. but since Aries men are different than Aries women, I'd say that it really depends on the placements. The aloof/on and off is GOOD when you're dating or have dated an Aries man with Loads of Virgo and/or Aquarius in him. The cerebreal thing is very common in these placements. So it works and hasn't had any problems short or long term. The only problem with aloof placements on these two, is that they'll forget eachother in the long run because they're too busy with projects and their work. They need one or the other to be attentive and get them back on track. It's hard work but hey, who said relationships are easy? If it's that easy there wouldn't be any need for relationship counseling or marriage help or these hundreds of articles on how to help your relationships or even books published on them.