I keep seeing tree trunk on here? What's that? Hmmm
Help please aqua man trouble!
Wow.
Your married! Man, it's one thing to cheat when you just dating someone but you are legally bound to this person! Shit! I'd be more worried about my husband finding out than how the guy I fucked feels!
Your married! Man, it's one thing to cheat when you just dating someone but you are legally bound to this person! Shit! I'd be more worried about my husband finding out than how the guy I fucked feels!
this is utterly ridiculous and i can't believe some of the advice you're being given.
you emotionally cheated on your husband for TWO years. you physically cheated on him "once" and you have the nerve to blame your husband because you "warned him." if you were a man you'd be getting your ass handed to you but because you're a woman who's in search of her personal "truth" you're being handled with kid gloves.
miss "pillar in the community," do you have children? did you think of them when you spread your legs for some child...a 20 year old child who most likely won't be thinking of you in 5 months let alone 5 years?
was it protected sex? if i were your husband and IF you have children, i would be livid that you would dare but my safety, my health and well-being, the security of our children in jeopardy because you have the emotional maturity of a gnat.
there were options that you could've taken prior to doing this to your husband, your family, your friends and yourself. some part of you wanted to punish your husband and you succeeded. you claim that it was a "fling," that you're an aries who has trouble with dishonesty and yet, had the aqua not gone cold, you admittedly would've had sex with him again.
people like you disgust me. if you want to leave. leave. you didn't have to leave bodies in your wake and you deserve whatever of misery that comes your way.
you emotionally cheated on your husband for TWO years. you physically cheated on him "once" and you have the nerve to blame your husband because you "warned him." if you were a man you'd be getting your ass handed to you but because you're a woman who's in search of her personal "truth" you're being handled with kid gloves.
miss "pillar in the community," do you have children? did you think of them when you spread your legs for some child...a 20 year old child who most likely won't be thinking of you in 5 months let alone 5 years?
was it protected sex? if i were your husband and IF you have children, i would be livid that you would dare but my safety, my health and well-being, the security of our children in jeopardy because you have the emotional maturity of a gnat.
there were options that you could've taken prior to doing this to your husband, your family, your friends and yourself. some part of you wanted to punish your husband and you succeeded. you claim that it was a "fling," that you're an aries who has trouble with dishonesty and yet, had the aqua not gone cold, you admittedly would've had sex with him again.
people like you disgust me. if you want to leave. leave. you didn't have to leave bodies in your wake and you deserve whatever of misery that comes your way.
Posted by scartooth
heh... i can't believe that because of a piece of paper, you all can justify cheating on a spouse over the more emotionally sensitive couple. So it's ok to you all if two stay together for 20 plus years to cheat isn't because they got married? I'd hardly call these sort of people disgusting! You may as well be joining an arranged marriage if you think that a couple always works 100% . And if one neglects something that the other should let it consume them, then break up over something like sex/attention/nurturing/whatever the spouse is being snobbish to and then leave the kids over something like "They never cared to make me smile"? It's judges on someone's life such as yourself who corrupt today's world. They posted for advice.. not for you-almighty to slander them. Who are you to judge someone's upbringing/situation/emotional outcomes? Guess it was someone like you to introduce Sharia Law too? You understand many people fling because their other half holds missing puzzle pieces and either don't know how or refuse to take the initiative to complete the puzzle. I know I sure wouldn't live life incomplete. Rambull, what drawn you to him?
oh shut up! it's called legal separation and if it comes to it, divorce.
if you don't want to be in a marriage, get out of it!
comparably, if i no longer want to have a business partnership with someone, rework the contract or dissolve the company. you don't embezzle from the company because you hate your business partner. the contract is sound even if the partnership is not.
people who cheat are just like embezzlers. they steal to enrich themselves. they may even argue that they deserve the stolen money for their years of dedicated service. they don't care that their theft means that the company could go under, that the business may not be able to make payroll, that other employees will not receive a paycheck and not be able to pay bills...
for the cheat, the ignore the consequences of their actions and instead respond to primal urges. it's about their needs, wants and desires so who cares if it hurts themselves and everyone around them?
the solution to a bad marriage isn't to step outside of it and if you want to liken that to arranged marriages...you're the caveman and i'm surprised that banging your head on a keyboard actually produces words.
Posted by scartooth
@tubby.... well, I'm just coming from 10 plus years traveling the world an experiencing things, and believe it or not, the world isn't divided into "puritans" and cheats. What works for your mind isn't the culture and compatibilities of the rest of the world. Surprised you think everyone just wants out of their marriage and some aren't obligated to the responsibilities of it. And of course cheating is about their own wants needs and desires. You telling me people fall in love because it benefits the other person? ok— Love is a selfish feeling, it happens because of how it makes you feel. Sure you do for others while in love... but you do it for your own needs. Sure, I'm sure you can still find those that say, Oh, I love them. I make them feel so wonderful. To each their own opinion, but I don't see how you get off insulting another for what works for them. I'm sure a list of your morals I can pick apart in disgust. And on your business analogy, you think each partner isn't in it for their own success? And do you really think that all business contracts in one area are set with the exact same rules? I'm sure there are millions of different types contracts out there, not all that conform to your personal likings. Just because your business doesn't work well with others, doesn't mean that business is evil and will come to a downfall. There are many out there looking or in need of that very same contract.
all business models have precepts that define the basic nature of the operation. a marriage is also a predetermined structure and unless she entered into an open one, she was expected to keep her legs shut.
instead she chose to be a filthy ho. she spread her legs for a kid. she's now on the net bragging about her "conquest" and new found "freedom."
if she were a man on the DL sucking dick in parks, getting fuq'd up the ass in bathroom stalls and then going home to snuggle with wifey, you wouldn't be romanticizing this BS.
this same woman could've had unprotected sex and brought home any number of diseases. fuq how he treated her. her actions don't stop and end with her. mothers and fathers dying from AIDS is a reality the world over. what about HER kids?
so she wants to be a dirty, nasty skank sans morals, great but unlike the two twits, i don't condone selfish behavior. she found an ally in you. look out for a PM. she'll do you next.
Posted by Rambull
Spot on w the crude use of business analogy. Every organization has it's areas of weakness and strength. You can't cover all the bases all the time. But, if a business becomes weak in one area, every aspect of it suffers. My marriage was toxic in some areas. I spent years trying to focus on the good areas. We were in counseling 2 years ago. Thought we had it under control. Basically I repressed my needs. He did too. No one seeks out a catastrophe, but tries to bind it up til it heals.
I came to this sight for the honesty and a place to seek some understanding regarding my husbands, my aqua guy, and my own behavior. This whole experience is outside of my norm. I will say that I may have been a bit puritanical in the past. That is part of my quandry with falling for the aqua. He was very open minded and truly seemed to not judge himself or the human race as harshly as I did. His degree of self acceptance taught me so much... And on a deeper level than even he might have known. He's younger and his immaturity was part of our problem.
This sounds crazy, but I like the new me. Even though I hate the path that this has led us to We're all a work in progress. Gotta find the love for all.
you DARE call someone else immature?
you've spent far more time worrying about this immature boy than you have your husband and your children. i mean hell, given what recently happened i would be panicked about how my children are coping but you're worried about your next orgasm.
you're disgusting.
Ok. 1 more thing though. What is wrong with looking at the fling (not conquest) to try and gain what wisdom I can? If I don't question it, I won't learn. As far as husband, trying to negotiate a time for counseling.
you did something asinine and detrimental to the health and well-being of yourself and your family to gain knowledge? wow, can you smell that flaming pile?
why didn't you get a legal separation? you knew the aqua for TWO years and you had to have known that you were developing more intimate feelings toward this child before you whored yourself. you wanted your husband to suffer didn't you? subconsciously/consciously, you engaged in this destructive behavior because you're selfish, vindictive and spiteful.
look at the end result. you've been "forced" to leave your home. your husband is involving your children in YOUR drama. your friends and family are now privy to YOUR pitiful behavior. hell, you could've avoided the bullshit and just got separated. at least then you would've been able to screw who you wanted and gain as much "wisdom" as the universe allows.
the really insulting part in this crap you've spewed is that your ONLY real regret is getting caught. if aqua hadn't told, you'd be on bended knee worshiping his infant manhood.
so don't make this about some quest for self-discovery. it was sex and revenge plain and simple. your succumbed to primal urges like an animal. excellent example to set for your kids.
you had a way out. no matter how destructive your husband would've been, you don't sound like a victimized woman. he didn't beat you within an inch of your life...or your teenage lover after being told this. did he cheat? if not, you both were suffering but you're the one with the lack decency who strayed...like a feral cat in heat.
why didn't you get a legal separation? you knew the aqua for TWO years and you had to have known that you were developing more intimate feelings toward this child before you whored yourself. you wanted your husband to suffer didn't you? subconsciously/consciously, you engaged in this destructive behavior because you're selfish, vindictive and spiteful.
look at the end result. you've been "forced" to leave your home. your husband is involving your children in YOUR drama. your friends and family are now privy to YOUR pitiful behavior. hell, you could've avoided the bullshit and just got separated. at least then you would've been able to screw who you wanted and gain as much "wisdom" as the universe allows.
the really insulting part in this crap you've spewed is that your ONLY real regret is getting caught. if aqua hadn't told, you'd be on bended knee worshiping his infant manhood.
so don't make this about some quest for self-discovery. it was sex and revenge plain and simple. your succumbed to primal urges like an animal. excellent example to set for your kids.
you had a way out. no matter how destructive your husband would've been, you don't sound like a victimized woman. he didn't beat you within an inch of your life...or your teenage lover after being told this. did he cheat? if not, you both were suffering but you're the one with the lack decency who strayed...like a feral cat in heat.
dude shut up and save that airy BS for a love note.
she fuq'd! out of wedlock and you want to transform it into some Tibetan revelation. if she fuq'd in a car would it be all the more transformative because the car implies movement?
you're a joke. how about getting your head out your own ass?
she fuq'd! out of wedlock and you want to transform it into some Tibetan revelation. if she fuq'd in a car would it be all the more transformative because the car implies movement?
you're a joke. how about getting your head out your own ass?
and love the double standard.
a married man who leaves his wife and kids at home to chase after some 20-year old twat would be ripped apart but this chick does it and it's the circle of life?
bite me
a married man who leaves his wife and kids at home to chase after some 20-year old twat would be ripped apart but this chick does it and it's the circle of life?
bite me
"my children. They are forgiving, like I am. They have hated the tension in our home for several years. It was always happy mom trying to make excuses for gripy dad. I've covered for him and they both have grown to be angry at me for it. They even wanted me to get out but I was trying to show them that people don't give up on a marriage n walk away.... But I also am letting them know now that I was wrong and it was a cowardly way of managing my marriage n life."
My two cents...if there was enough tension in the marriage for the kids to notice, I'm guessing it's a relief for them to see this separation. As a person who grew up with parents who were at each other's throats, I know what it feels like to wish that your mother would just leave. I agree Rambull took the cowardly way out, but it may not be to the detriment of the kids.
Rambull, it sounds like there were problems way before the affair happened. Why did you decide to stay?
My two cents...if there was enough tension in the marriage for the kids to notice, I'm guessing it's a relief for them to see this separation. As a person who grew up with parents who were at each other's throats, I know what it feels like to wish that your mother would just leave. I agree Rambull took the cowardly way out, but it may not be to the detriment of the kids.
Rambull, it sounds like there were problems way before the affair happened. Why did you decide to stay?
Posted by scartooth
Hail to the almighty ball of boiling rage that infests this world. Keep to the topic tubby... stop making references to things only you mentioned when you typed it. You are not the ultimate judge that you pretend to be in all of your posts blaming each person for being evil, racist, wrong, the anti-christ, etc. You are a sick person and need someone to smack that boiling post of rage and dribble outta here and pay attention to a thread before taking numbers and throwing it into a conversation about the friggin alphabet.
you're a big ball of hypocrite. what is the above but judgment? you're laughable.
you don't know this women and yet you have judged correct? you have decided that her sleeping around is part of some spiritual journey. siding in the affirmative doesn't make you any less judgmental. idiot.
for someone who does not judge, you've judged her, her husband, the aqua, myself...
look at that moral high-road you're taking calling a stranger the anti-christ. that the best you can do? you chastise me for hurling insults by hurling insults. yeah, you're the epitome of a hypocritical, self-righteous prick and when you add your lack of morals to it, i'm the anti-christ? riiight.
everything i have said was direct to this thread. i have not made leaps in my judgment. i question how old this chick even is. she claims to have met this BOY at the age of 18. remember, he's an aqua, he's 20 now. she claims to have met him 2 years ago. he would've been 18 and probably in high school.
i read dude and like i said, if she were a man, you wouldn't be kissing her boo-boos. don't fault me for seeing this bullshit for what it is.
Posted by scartooth
Uh.. that's you calling others everything in the book. I could care less if it were a man/woman/dog/20 y.o. or old person.. there you go getting off topic. I have no problem helping you laugh neither cause you sure as hell need it. And yes... you are hypocritical when I read your posts to others supporting them to go out and get that random young stranger. You come to this thread telling airy people to shut up.. bash this person with insults, Im an idiot now ... get over yourself and your own scars. Probably how you ended up a single mommy and had 100% blame on the poor soul that hurt you. I haven't judged anyone but you.. and there's more than enough to back up your random flail for help. Never did I mention her kids. You are def. beyond judging and getting off topic and being a hypocrite when you enter a thread that clearly states.. Help Me... notice the other threads posted had people who didn't agree but didn't bash the poster for their own little misfortunes in life. Idiot I may be to you, but one thing I know... supporting or seeing someone's side of things is far from judgment. Do you really create these things in your head or where the hell you getting all your points? If i really cared (seems some people get stirred up off text on their PC screen) I could post your crap, but then again, it'd be way off the topic this was created. Oh, hey, I hate feminists.. but lemme click on this thread that states Men Suck!.... get a life.
i stopped reading there. first, i have NEVER encouraged married or involved women to cheat. so don't make a liar out of me. you clearly can't read.
and i don't have kids dipshit.
now i know you want to make this about me but if you're going to do so, rewrite that bullshit above and i'll consider reading it in it's entirety.
oh and NICE! completely ignore his age without knowing hers.
if i read a story about some older man "befriending" an 18 year old girl for 2 years, then sleeping with this child, there's only one word that comes to mind..."PREDATOR!" it's called grooming and it's gross.
sure, she may be 25. hell, she might be 55 and the older she gets, the less this becomes about some sick path towards self-actualization as you would like others to believe.
i also find it laughable that people judged this CHILD on his reaction to being seduced and used by an older woman for sex. i wonder how difficult it was for him to develop feelings for someone only to realize that she just wanted to fuq? a married person who is a "pillar in the community" befriending an 18 year old boy for two years and having sex with the child when he's more seasonally ripe...
disgusting.
if i read a story about some older man "befriending" an 18 year old girl for 2 years, then sleeping with this child, there's only one word that comes to mind..."PREDATOR!" it's called grooming and it's gross.
sure, she may be 25. hell, she might be 55 and the older she gets, the less this becomes about some sick path towards self-actualization as you would like others to believe.
i also find it laughable that people judged this CHILD on his reaction to being seduced and used by an older woman for sex. i wonder how difficult it was for him to develop feelings for someone only to realize that she just wanted to fuq? a married person who is a "pillar in the community" befriending an 18 year old boy for two years and having sex with the child when he's more seasonally ripe...
disgusting.
yay!!! more stupidity 😄
Posted by scartooth
That guy was a jerk and weird at the same time...
a 20 year old is a jerk because he has difficulty processing the emotions of being groomed for 2 years by a married woman? gotcha!
however, that fling seemed well-needed.
yeah, cheating on your spouse is like spring break. spouses everywhere, fuq a stranger when it suits ya!
You husband has a right to be angry, but he should be angry maybe even more at himself for not seek-and-destroying those things that you needed and was ripping you apart or away.
wow, you went straight for hubby's jugular. i guess it's ok to judge him since this isn't his post? maybe he was trying to better the relationship but that's pretty hard to do when your wife is chasing after an 18 year old for 2 years and ends up screwing him?
I've seen (don't flame me.. *yikes*) many strong relationships last from the use of the side fling. Seems like it's time for the phrase U do U and I will do ME. Times like this you need to stick your nose up and strut past all the sneers... take the time to enjoy you and let the stress and drama dissolve.
be a selfish, self-righteous bitch. let someone else clean up your mess.
Most don't like living lies... you may have more to drudge though yet to come. Not all flings work out this way (Long live the Flings!)
translation: i'm a cheating bastard so i totally get you. PM me!
Posted by scartooth
Never did I say she was right nor wrong... how am I supposed to know all the ins and outs.. but I sure won;t slap the branded sticker of being ___(insert your insult here)___ from the mere post.
HA! when you see your words quoted back to you do ya feel icky? lie to yourself but don't patronize me.
you can also repeat this travel the world garble but you have NO idea where i've been or what i've seen. so proceed with your assumptions...like my having kids and being bitter from a similar experience 😛
where have i assumed anything about her that she hasn't already stated? you've done nothing but make ASSumptions that's why you so easily shat on hubby and aqua.
in the end, i shared my opinion just as you except i'm consistent. you twist and lie when suits you. no wonder you empathize with a cheater.
Posted by scartooth
That guy was a jerk and weird at the same time...
a 20 year old is a jerk because he has difficulty processing the emotions of being groomed for 2 years by a married woman? gotcha!
however, that fling seemed well-needed.
yeah, cheating on your spouse is like spring break. spouses everywhere, fuq a stranger when it suits ya!
You husband has a right to be angry, but he should be angry maybe even more at himself for not seek-and-destroying those things that you needed and was ripping you apart or away.
wow, you went straight for hubby's jugular. i guess it's ok to judge him since this isn't his post? maybe he was trying to better the relationship but that's pretty hard to do when your wife is chasing after an 18 year old for 2 years and ends up screwing him?
I've seen (don't flame me.. *yikes*) many strong relationships last from the use of the side fling. Seems like it's time for the phrase U do U and I will do ME. Times like this you need to stick your nose up and strut past all the sneers... take the time to enjoy you and let the stress and drama dissolve.
be a selfish, self-righteous bitch. let someone else clean up your mess.
Most don't like living lies... you may have more to drudge though yet to come. Not all flings work out this way (Long live the Flings!)
translation: i'm a cheating bastard so i totally get you. PM me!
Posted by scartooth
Never did I say she was right nor wrong... how am I supposed to know all the ins and outs.. but I sure won;t slap the branded sticker of being ___(insert your insult here)___ from the mere post.
HA! when you see your words quoted back to you do ya feel icky? lie to yourself but don't patronize me.
you can also repeat this travel the world garble but you have NO idea where i've been or what i've seen. so proceed with your assumptions...like my having kids and being bitter from a similar experience 😛
where have i assumed anything about her that she hasn't already stated? you've done nothing but make ASSumptions that's why you so easily shat on hubby and aqua.
in the end, i shared my opinion just as you except i'm consistent. you twist and lie when suits you. no wonder you empathize with a cheater.
no dippy. don't break anymore as you've already been thoroughly broken.
you do realize repeating a lie doesn't make it truth? i defy you to find a post where i encouraged a married woman to have a fling. you can't because it doesn't exist. if you had any integrity you would own up to your lack of knowledge but hey, continually espouse bullshit. you're good at it.
the above post was frenzied. clearly you're mid-cyclone and you're having difficulty staying remotely on topic. i've raised several points that you care to ignore and since that be the case, i will not condescend any further until you elevate a bit.
one point...you judged his "negligence?" the negligence you presumed from the original OP?
what we do know...
1. she has never said hubby cheated
2. for TWO years she emotionally cheating on her husband
3. her husband "tried different stuff" but "he saw it coming."
if i sense someone is cheating on me for TWO years, that would make me...anyone self-conscious. hubby was trying, according to her, and yet this emotional fling continued. she contributed to the instability in the marriage as much as, if not more, than hubby did.
did you even read her initial posts? she went into this situation with the aqua with the INTENTION of lying to her husband.,,now add that with the fact that hubby was trying different stuff?
so do you not get that it doesn't matter what hubby did? it's hard to give 100% when you know someone is stabbing you in the back. can you blame him for his anger and resentment given what you know? i'm making leaps. i'm reading what the cheater said.
you do realize repeating a lie doesn't make it truth? i defy you to find a post where i encouraged a married woman to have a fling. you can't because it doesn't exist. if you had any integrity you would own up to your lack of knowledge but hey, continually espouse bullshit. you're good at it.
the above post was frenzied. clearly you're mid-cyclone and you're having difficulty staying remotely on topic. i've raised several points that you care to ignore and since that be the case, i will not condescend any further until you elevate a bit.
one point...you judged his "negligence?" the negligence you presumed from the original OP?
Posted by Rambull
I don't need a lecture. I know I blew it big time when I cheated on my Leo husband. Marriage was in trouble. His pride. My anger. Lots of factors. But I had a fling. He saw it coming n was mad at me. He knew he was driving me away. He tried different stuff but he still stayed angry. We've worked through a lot of problems. I worshipped him and took good care of him for years. Passionate marriage. Bottom line - I messed up bad n want him back. He's cried to our daughter, but won't even answer my text. I want a second chance. Any good encouraging advice? He's my match. I thre it away... So sad.
what we do know...
1. she has never said hubby cheated
2. for TWO years she emotionally cheating on her husband
3. her husband "tried different stuff" but "he saw it coming."
if i sense someone is cheating on me for TWO years, that would make me...anyone self-conscious. hubby was trying, according to her, and yet this emotional fling continued. she contributed to the instability in the marriage as much as, if not more, than hubby did.
did you even read her initial posts? she went into this situation with the aqua with the INTENTION of lying to her husband.,,now add that with the fact that hubby was trying different stuff?
so do you not get that it doesn't matter what hubby did? it's hard to give 100% when you know someone is stabbing you in the back. can you blame him for his anger and resentment given what you know? i'm making leaps. i'm reading what the cheater said.
Posted by scartooth
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/lately-1934996/?p=3#1936160<BR> Proof of your scars?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/my-virgo-is-acting-weird-1932142/?p=5#1932785<BR> awww.. were you too much of an ass for him?
And looks like you played around with what you are bashing another for.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/politics/to-the-stupid-criminal-ignorant-americans-1927364/?p=14#1929143<BR> Oh, now you are worldly here?
Abuse victim?
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/I% 27ve-Cheated-1924792.asp?p=3#1926455
So don't pretend to be innocent and my slanders back at ya have no basis.
Point is.. you read.. were nosey, put your own emotional scars at this person and bashed em down... now you are helplessly flailing your arms about in a hissy fit of rage. You say they are disgusting.. fair enough.. I'll make it the same useless point to let you know you disgust me.
awwh, you've been stalking me! too cute.
ok first off, those posts prove what? maybe i'm missing the point?
are you saying you want me to be warm and fluffy? HA! hell no bitch!
are you saying i lack integrity? oh please 😛
i responded to this post after reading the BS conjectured and offered up by you and others. it's one thing to be in denial. it's another to have a bunch of e-cheerleaders encouraging you to make mistakes and go further down the wrong path.
you see a man a fire and you douse him with gasoline. me on the other hand, sure, water would be nice but when it's not handy, piss'll do ya.
pp\pft! i'm NOT making leaps.
LMAO! you think you're bringing the heat...the THUNDA!? HA! what is this WWF? nah, you're more like a poof from my bottom. you are an air sign after all.
check out the bold. the issue isn't about the possibilities. it's about YOU ignoring the reality and that's why you're getting the quotes dippy. you clearly missed it all the first time.
YOU have condoned cheating.
YOU have encouraged her to continue on a destructive path.
YOU have justified deception and lies under the guise of personal truth.
as i said, you doused her with gasoline. look at her posts to you. she's elated that someone is agreeing with her sick behavior and yet, in other posts she speaks of preserving her marriage, her love for her husband and her desire to repair what she's broken.
you didn't care about ANY of this because you didn't bother to read. i did and trust me, my response would've been hella different if she were remorseful and repentant but she's not. she thrilled at the destruction she's caused and she's blaming hubby for her weaknesses.
so for me, you responded to a serious matter with foolishness and you're surprised that i regard you as a fool? silly boy.
Posted by scartooth
Do I really need to come up with 20 or so possibilities on their situation or you know 100% that she is just some cheating whore out to ruin her kids lives and humiliate her husband from aimless revenge?...
check out the bold. the issue isn't about the possibilities. it's about YOU ignoring the reality and that's why you're getting the quotes dippy. you clearly missed it all the first time.
YOU have condoned cheating.
YOU have encouraged her to continue on a destructive path.
YOU have justified deception and lies under the guise of personal truth.
as i said, you doused her with gasoline. look at her posts to you. she's elated that someone is agreeing with her sick behavior and yet, in other posts she speaks of preserving her marriage, her love for her husband and her desire to repair what she's broken.
you didn't care about ANY of this because you didn't bother to read. i did and trust me, my response would've been hella different if she were remorseful and repentant but she's not. she thrilled at the destruction she's caused and she's blaming hubby for her weaknesses.
so for me, you responded to a serious matter with foolishness and you're surprised that i regard you as a fool? silly boy.
oh, and your attitude to this post, to this broken family can be summed up in four words...
Posted by scartooth
"Long live the Flings!"
Posted by scartooth
"Long live the Flings!"
awwh, there you go being a hypocrite again. you want to restrict my freedom of movement and dare call me the Po-lice? the more you speak, the more it's clear how astonishingly two-faced you are.
this cinderalla has never stated that she was beaten by her prince. this cinderella could've climbed in her pumpkin, headed down to the clerks office, signe a piece of paper and she'd be able to get busy with the infant from now until... instead of lamenting the loss of the child's friendship and her husband's scorn.
i'm also going to need you to be a bit swifter. is this conversation about her? i've tried to stay on topic but you're hell bent on making it about me. i like being the center of attention but gosh.
in the end, thanks for admitting that you're a cheater. you're the type of person who would deceive your partner into believing your union was monogamous only to have a "fling" when it suited you. for you, you don't regard this as a violation of trust, immoral, hurtful or immature. for you, your proverbial pixie stick got a rise and that's all that matters right?
yeah see, people like you regard people like me as puritanical because we're not deceitful primates who don't have to stoop to sneaking around like lil real "devils" just so we can have cheapened thrills in the back of cars and motel rooms.
no doubts, you're the type of jackass that would screw a whore on your girlfriend's bed...in your girlfriend's home wouldn't you? sick bastard. i say me and the rest of my puritan sistren bring back the stocks for cheaters. now for heretics such as yourself a good flogging is in order.
this cinderalla has never stated that she was beaten by her prince. this cinderella could've climbed in her pumpkin, headed down to the clerks office, signe a piece of paper and she'd be able to get busy with the infant from now until... instead of lamenting the loss of the child's friendship and her husband's scorn.
i'm also going to need you to be a bit swifter. is this conversation about her? i've tried to stay on topic but you're hell bent on making it about me. i like being the center of attention but gosh.
in the end, thanks for admitting that you're a cheater. you're the type of person who would deceive your partner into believing your union was monogamous only to have a "fling" when it suited you. for you, you don't regard this as a violation of trust, immoral, hurtful or immature. for you, your proverbial pixie stick got a rise and that's all that matters right?
yeah see, people like you regard people like me as puritanical because we're not deceitful primates who don't have to stoop to sneaking around like lil real "devils" just so we can have cheapened thrills in the back of cars and motel rooms.
no doubts, you're the type of jackass that would screw a whore on your girlfriend's bed...in your girlfriend's home wouldn't you? sick bastard. i say me and the rest of my puritan sistren bring back the stocks for cheaters. now for heretics such as yourself a good flogging is in order.
damnit! did i accidentally hand him back both balls or did you ladies scare him off?
eh 😛 i guess i should nap before work anyway.
eh 😛 i guess i should nap before work anyway.
pfft 😛
"Help please aqua man trouble" -- what is this thread about? when you strip everything away, what "trouble" are you seeking help with?
the "trouble" is that the aqua ratted you out. you were unsure as to what extent he'd go to in ruining your life right? you were afraid of the consequences. you came here to learn about aquas to minimize the damage and get back on speaking terms with him. after all, you told him from the very beginning that it was a fling right?
for all of your, i understands, i know where i was wrong, i take the blame...
the reality, you're still trying to skirt the truth. as you have admitted, if the aqua would've stuck to your agreement, this would've just been an exciting fling. you're in a "low-sex marriage," you had no intention of leaving your husband...you wrote it, i read it.
now you're a smart woman so if you're seeking help, be honest for a change. are you sorry...or are you sorry you got caught?
the former woman deserves our empathy, the latter...you're right, take your password and don't come back because you're not ready for genuine help.
i would be glad to listen and understand the emotional turmoil that your marriage has undergone...that would cause you to seek comfort in another man's arms, but it's really difficult to do that when i KNOW you wouldn't be here if the aqua was ok with being a liar. is that true? if so, be honest. if not, explain because it's not adding up to anything but the obvious.
"Help please aqua man trouble" -- what is this thread about? when you strip everything away, what "trouble" are you seeking help with?
the "trouble" is that the aqua ratted you out. you were unsure as to what extent he'd go to in ruining your life right? you were afraid of the consequences. you came here to learn about aquas to minimize the damage and get back on speaking terms with him. after all, you told him from the very beginning that it was a fling right?
for all of your, i understands, i know where i was wrong, i take the blame...
the reality, you're still trying to skirt the truth. as you have admitted, if the aqua would've stuck to your agreement, this would've just been an exciting fling. you're in a "low-sex marriage," you had no intention of leaving your husband...you wrote it, i read it.
now you're a smart woman so if you're seeking help, be honest for a change. are you sorry...or are you sorry you got caught?
the former woman deserves our empathy, the latter...you're right, take your password and don't come back because you're not ready for genuine help.
i would be glad to listen and understand the emotional turmoil that your marriage has undergone...that would cause you to seek comfort in another man's arms, but it's really difficult to do that when i KNOW you wouldn't be here if the aqua was ok with being a liar. is that true? if so, be honest. if not, explain because it's not adding up to anything but the obvious.
Posted by scartooth
You must have missed the part where I said that you have a right to your opinion.. but you went on with bashing. People should feel free to post whatever they want for their reasons here.. not to what sticks to your guidelines. And wow.. there you go grabbing shit from left field... once again I said I am true to mine. If I wanted something open I would make sure that is clear. But you obviously haven't calmed down enough to stop typing outta rage. If someone had cheated and wishes advice.. then they should feel free to post it here. Notice.. they didn't post.. I cheated.. please insult me... If they post I did this.. they already know.. you just float around hoping to bash outta pure hatred to those unlike you. Yeah.. we are ff topic.. but finger pointing or not.. that was your nose that got cut off and caused the train wreck that engulfs you. And unfortunately Rambull there are many who lurk the boards hoping to vent their own short comings off on other's issues. There will always be those that finds the new kid in class and gets off insulting and bashing them for the respect of others. Quick to lash out at anyone else when eating their own spoonfuls.
nah, i saw that part and then i saw the part after it where you told me i couldn't play on the aqua forum anymore. see, more dual facades.
and i don't attack new kids silly. i'm a new kid myself. i'm an equal opportunity realist. what offends me is stupidity and delusion.
now what thread was that that i *spit* on? i meant to check back to see if there was more ignorance on that one too.
scar, are you stupid?
she will get genuine help from me when she asks for it. if she wants to be coddled and wrapped in bullshit, she can listen to you.
when she gets real, i'll be real. she acts or behaves foolishly, i can play the clown too. my clown is more like killer klowns from outer space though (love that movie)
now the moment she slips back into justifying this BS, she will get what you have receive throughout the day. i'm serious when i need to be.
she will get genuine help from me when she asks for it. if she wants to be coddled and wrapped in bullshit, she can listen to you.
when she gets real, i'll be real. she acts or behaves foolishly, i can play the clown too. my clown is more like killer klowns from outer space though (love that movie)
now the moment she slips back into justifying this BS, she will get what you have receive throughout the day. i'm serious when i need to be.
Posted by scartooth
Oh, but before I off this thread... there's only one whore I'd screw here.. that's you 😉 *finger up*
wait...what?
😛
india times?
you are really arguing that if a marriage is in trouble, one or both parties should cheat?
foolishness! i'm well aware that some marriages are stronger after infidelity. i watch dr. phil...that's so like 2 seasons ago. the fling doesn't strengthen the marriage. the growth that it took to understand and forgive one another afterward did. so if it's not the fling, that same growth can be achieve in healthier, less destructive ways.
and you're quoting matthew. i guess when you called me a whore you meant like the catholicized mary magdelene? yeah, i can see that. from time to time i do feel like i'm on the right side of jesus.
anyhoo, you know what makes you HILARIOUS? i know EXACTLY what i'm doing. you don't.
you're not even wise enough to recognize when you're mirroring someone else's behavior. at the least the OP got it. she's a smart cookie and in terms of growth, my bet is on her as she could've responded in turn, she could take her password and walk away but whether she chooses to acknowledge it or not, she'll eventually come to realize the truth in this post and fallacy of her position. and if it took being rude for her to stop patting herself on the back long enough to pay attention, so be it.
this thread is a joke. it's not a cry for help. it's an attempt to find parties to aid and abet. part of her getting her life back is owning it all. clearly, she and hubby have had trouble being real. why should anyone indulge the same behavior here?
now mr. "this-is-how-you-talk-on-the-aqua-forum," what were you saying about your finger? 😛
ok, off to wal-marrS!
you are really arguing that if a marriage is in trouble, one or both parties should cheat?
foolishness! i'm well aware that some marriages are stronger after infidelity. i watch dr. phil...that's so like 2 seasons ago. the fling doesn't strengthen the marriage. the growth that it took to understand and forgive one another afterward did. so if it's not the fling, that same growth can be achieve in healthier, less destructive ways.
and you're quoting matthew. i guess when you called me a whore you meant like the catholicized mary magdelene? yeah, i can see that. from time to time i do feel like i'm on the right side of jesus.
anyhoo, you know what makes you HILARIOUS? i know EXACTLY what i'm doing. you don't.
you're not even wise enough to recognize when you're mirroring someone else's behavior. at the least the OP got it. she's a smart cookie and in terms of growth, my bet is on her as she could've responded in turn, she could take her password and walk away but whether she chooses to acknowledge it or not, she'll eventually come to realize the truth in this post and fallacy of her position. and if it took being rude for her to stop patting herself on the back long enough to pay attention, so be it.
this thread is a joke. it's not a cry for help. it's an attempt to find parties to aid and abet. part of her getting her life back is owning it all. clearly, she and hubby have had trouble being real. why should anyone indulge the same behavior here?
now mr. "this-is-how-you-talk-on-the-aqua-forum," what were you saying about your finger? 😛
ok, off to wal-marrS!
ahh, my work here is done. Tough love is a bitch and so am I...until i don't have to be and now that i've got your attention...
at the end of the day, no one here knows enough about your situation to tell you how to proceed but you have to be able to hold yourself accountable and call yourself on your own bullshit without prompting.
avoid those who...
minimize your behavior
justify your behavior
enable your behavior
participate in your behavior
i know that life with leo isn't a bed of roses but the answer isn't in the aqua. hell, research their sign. i get your attraction to him. in a lot of ways there's no better friend than an aqua male. but you mistook that friendship for something more and that was wrong as you're a married woman.
you said that you want to repair your marriage and that you're working on things with leo. you also said that you were in counseling prior to this but it obviously didn't work. if you have committed yourself to repairing your marriage, spend more time in the leo forum. i don't think you belong here (aqua forum).
i get that you're worried about what the aqua will do but you know what? f what he does. fixed signs appreciate honesty. we appreciate being real and raw...we just have issues with delivery and expression.
you need to find a way to communicate with your lion in a manner in which he listens, in which he's compelled to change and frankly, as an aries you're emotarded too.
go back and read your posts about your leo. you said the issue was he wouldn't change. a fixed sign that wouldn't change with an impulsive aries...uhm, DUH!
i'm not saying the solution is simple but if you're looking to astrology, maybe that's what you should be aiming to understand. not with aqua, with his opposite, leo. aqua is everything that leo is not. you sorta fell in love with your husband's alter-ego. you fell in love with what he's missing. and if you were with the aqua, you'd miss your husband as he has what the aqua lacks. don't you see it?
PS Stoning is appropriate given the topic matter dontcha think?
at the end of the day, no one here knows enough about your situation to tell you how to proceed but you have to be able to hold yourself accountable and call yourself on your own bullshit without prompting.
avoid those who...
minimize your behavior
justify your behavior
enable your behavior
participate in your behavior
i know that life with leo isn't a bed of roses but the answer isn't in the aqua. hell, research their sign. i get your attraction to him. in a lot of ways there's no better friend than an aqua male. but you mistook that friendship for something more and that was wrong as you're a married woman.
you said that you want to repair your marriage and that you're working on things with leo. you also said that you were in counseling prior to this but it obviously didn't work. if you have committed yourself to repairing your marriage, spend more time in the leo forum. i don't think you belong here (aqua forum).
i get that you're worried about what the aqua will do but you know what? f what he does. fixed signs appreciate honesty. we appreciate being real and raw...we just have issues with delivery and expression.
you need to find a way to communicate with your lion in a manner in which he listens, in which he's compelled to change and frankly, as an aries you're emotarded too.
go back and read your posts about your leo. you said the issue was he wouldn't change. a fixed sign that wouldn't change with an impulsive aries...uhm, DUH!
i'm not saying the solution is simple but if you're looking to astrology, maybe that's what you should be aiming to understand. not with aqua, with his opposite, leo. aqua is everything that leo is not. you sorta fell in love with your husband's alter-ego. you fell in love with what he's missing. and if you were with the aqua, you'd miss your husband as he has what the aqua lacks. don't you see it?
PS Stoning is appropriate given the topic matter dontcha think?
eewwwh jinx!
oh and one more thing...
as a taurus with 3 major planets in aries...
as a woman who has loved both a leo and an aqua, i get you situation more than you realize. i have said repeatedly on this site that these two signs have represented the greatest love of my life. and if i could mesh these two together, i would have the i deal man...passion and friendship.
you've made far more posts about the aqua than you have about your husband. if you've given up, give up. life IS too short to live a lie. but if you haven't, you have work to do. you have a lion's ego to repair and sweety, i don't envy you cause that's gonna take a helluva lot of work.
ask any fixed sign what happens when we're betrayed beyond belief?
time to grow up, get real and do the hard work to repair what has been long broken. either that, or move on. get divorce and stop putting your kids, yourself and your husband through this turmoil.
as a taurus with 3 major planets in aries...
as a woman who has loved both a leo and an aqua, i get you situation more than you realize. i have said repeatedly on this site that these two signs have represented the greatest love of my life. and if i could mesh these two together, i would have the i deal man...passion and friendship.
you've made far more posts about the aqua than you have about your husband. if you've given up, give up. life IS too short to live a lie. but if you haven't, you have work to do. you have a lion's ego to repair and sweety, i don't envy you cause that's gonna take a helluva lot of work.
ask any fixed sign what happens when we're betrayed beyond belief?
time to grow up, get real and do the hard work to repair what has been long broken. either that, or move on. get divorce and stop putting your kids, yourself and your husband through this turmoil.
Posted by scartooth
lol... anyways... I retire tubby.. just please try to post like you have towards the end. Points and opinions are fine.. flaming, deserved, but bashing never helped anyone but feel good.
bitch please!
ask TOC. this isn't for you. i'm not being brand new. when she real, she gets a kid glove. when she listens to, seeks and speaks foolishness, she get a nice hard e-slap.
hmm...i'm having trouble with my "s" key...you get the point.
lata
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i can't play today but i like how you conveniently ignore arguments when it suits you. you have reduced what we've said to divorce or counseling where i clearly stated she had the option of legal separation.
in your next dissertation, explain why she couldn't have moved out, dated AND sought counseling with her husband.
she didn't HAVE TO sneak around. she had options and she chose not to exercise them and look at the result...
she's "forced" out of her home
she's going to counseling anyway
her fling is no more
had she gotten legally separated she would've been able minimize the turmoil. that's not to say hubby would be keen on wifey dating other men but again, pay attention. they were the "stable" couple. she did this undercover to keep pretenses. she came here to learn about aquas to keep up pretenses. she might be saving this marriage to keep up pretenses. all i know is, i'm not going to encourage this woman to continue to live a lie and destroy herself in the process.
you are under the deluded impression that i desire people to be infallible. she didn't get the reaction she got because of her error. she got it because she came here initially to perpetuate a lie...and you encouraged her. shame on you! in the future, take the time to read and process instead of rubber stamping shit to suit your twisted agenda. i mean hell genius, she had a fling. does she seem happy to you?
in your next dissertation, explain why she couldn't have moved out, dated AND sought counseling with her husband.
she didn't HAVE TO sneak around. she had options and she chose not to exercise them and look at the result...
she's "forced" out of her home
she's going to counseling anyway
her fling is no more
had she gotten legally separated she would've been able minimize the turmoil. that's not to say hubby would be keen on wifey dating other men but again, pay attention. they were the "stable" couple. she did this undercover to keep pretenses. she came here to learn about aquas to keep up pretenses. she might be saving this marriage to keep up pretenses. all i know is, i'm not going to encourage this woman to continue to live a lie and destroy herself in the process.
you are under the deluded impression that i desire people to be infallible. she didn't get the reaction she got because of her error. she got it because she came here initially to perpetuate a lie...and you encouraged her. shame on you! in the future, take the time to read and process instead of rubber stamping shit to suit your twisted agenda. i mean hell genius, she had a fling. does she seem happy to you?
http://www.divorcemag.com/articles/Infidelity/infidelityfaqs.html
http://infidelity.lifetips.com/cat/64455/relationships-and-marriage/index.html
http://www.holysmoke.org/<strong>cretins</strong>/love01.htm<BR> http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070811151631AAJTUDG
you are a complete loon! these constant streams of laughter are hurting my tummy
dude, you're one note. i get it. you advocate cheating. you think that the best thing for a failing marriage is to have sex outside of it.
you also don't read too good.
she and her husband went to counseling over two years ago i believe? the fling didn't prompt the counseling twit. the fling made a bad situation worse.
now will you stop playing stupid? or are you playing?
http://infidelity.lifetips.com/cat/64455/relationships-and-marriage/index.html
http://www.holysmoke.org/<strong>cretins</strong>/love01.htm<BR> http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070811151631AAJTUDG
you are a complete loon! these constant streams of laughter are hurting my tummy
dude, you're one note. i get it. you advocate cheating. you think that the best thing for a failing marriage is to have sex outside of it.
you also don't read too good.
she and her husband went to counseling over two years ago i believe? the fling didn't prompt the counseling twit. the fling made a bad situation worse.
now will you stop playing stupid? or are you playing?
Hi , may I "insert" my opinions and personal experience in the mist of this "battle" ?
I guess astrology can be accurate as I can see fixed signs do get along fabulously but when they don't , it can be just terrible. Taurus and Aqua would be a lovely couple ,yet I've seen many got into horrible arguments too and broke up for good ...sigh....
@scartooth: I think you've a point about divorce can hurt the children because I came from a divorced family. I was hurt to witness the whole thing . I was torn between what was right and the need to see them together.In the end, I chose what "right" for all of us and told the court that I wanted to see a divorce between them. I was sad for a few years about my decision but luckily, I was little so I've time to heal.Moreover, I could see how happy it made my mum. She was so good and I'd not let my dad or any man treat her badly anymore. She deserves the best. Soon, we both built a happy family again with just me and mum. I also felt so much released and happy from the "hell house". .. My dad got married again after many unsuccessful attempts to get back to my mum a few years later. I must say that I don't regret that decision at all now because the truth set me and my parents free.They aren't happy together so it's best for them to let go of each other...Therefore, in my own view, if two people aren't happy with each other, just be honest and free themselves from the situation. Yes, the children will be sad in the beginning but they will understand and admire the honesty and integrity from their parents, and thankful for releasing them from the distressing and "fake" home.....
I like that you don't judge people but try to protect and help them as much as possible. Yes, it's easy to pass judgements about what others have done wrong ( I've tried to stay away from this passing judgement habit but it can be hard sometimes!) , but to accept flaws in human isn't easy at all.I guess trying to change people is impossible any way but to live your life by example would be a better way to influence them.
I also don't think tubbyscubby meant any insults towards the lady, but I think it was a natural reaction, or more the fidelity that most of us hold close , so it was a shock to her to see someone cheated and then only worried about her lover's indiscreet than the husband's emotional wellbeing. I understand that the poster also felt sorry about what she has done because she went counselling and all, but her "very first" po
I guess astrology can be accurate as I can see fixed signs do get along fabulously but when they don't , it can be just terrible. Taurus and Aqua would be a lovely couple ,yet I've seen many got into horrible arguments too and broke up for good ...sigh....
@scartooth: I think you've a point about divorce can hurt the children because I came from a divorced family. I was hurt to witness the whole thing . I was torn between what was right and the need to see them together.In the end, I chose what "right" for all of us and told the court that I wanted to see a divorce between them. I was sad for a few years about my decision but luckily, I was little so I've time to heal.Moreover, I could see how happy it made my mum. She was so good and I'd not let my dad or any man treat her badly anymore. She deserves the best. Soon, we both built a happy family again with just me and mum. I also felt so much released and happy from the "hell house". .. My dad got married again after many unsuccessful attempts to get back to my mum a few years later. I must say that I don't regret that decision at all now because the truth set me and my parents free.They aren't happy together so it's best for them to let go of each other...Therefore, in my own view, if two people aren't happy with each other, just be honest and free themselves from the situation. Yes, the children will be sad in the beginning but they will understand and admire the honesty and integrity from their parents, and thankful for releasing them from the distressing and "fake" home.....
I like that you don't judge people but try to protect and help them as much as possible. Yes, it's easy to pass judgements about what others have done wrong ( I've tried to stay away from this passing judgement habit but it can be hard sometimes!) , but to accept flaws in human isn't easy at all.I guess trying to change people is impossible any way but to live your life by example would be a better way to influence them.
I also don't think tubbyscubby meant any insults towards the lady, but I think it was a natural reaction, or more the fidelity that most of us hold close , so it was a shock to her to see someone cheated and then only worried about her lover's indiscreet than the husband's emotional wellbeing. I understand that the poster also felt sorry about what she has done because she went counselling and all, but her "very first" po
post easily "shocked" people for she was more concerned about her own reputation than the emotional well being of the people surround her.
@tubbyscubby: Perhaps, reputation is one of the factors to contribute to her family's emotional well being, but still she cared so much more for the lover than the husband. It made people wonder how could she do this, but how do we know if it was more of her fault? I don't think it's easy because what if she was a housewife and was dependent on her husband's income, so he might not respect her so much? What if she lived for the children's sake because they need money from the husband? , etc .I'm sorry to go off the topic here but I really just want to give out all the possiblities in my head to see both sides (so please bear with my as well, tubbyscubby?)... Well, tubbyscubby, I think that you can feel better now since she already admitted that she was wrong about things? You helped her or woke her up from the sea of confusion, and now she tried to err her wrongdoings (which were stated in the title and the first few posts?). I also don't think scartooth tried to teach the woman how to cheat and run away with mistakes, he just thought that she learnt the lesson and it was time to tone down the "tough love" approach? Perhaps, this is where you and him "crossed the wire"?
Yes, I think you both tried to help the woman but each used different method to achieve and so you ticked off each other during the way. However, I can see that you both care for this lady.Otherwise, you wouldn't bother to post so many analysis and solutions for her situation?
Just please don't get too emotional and forget your original purpose. Apologies for "bugging in" and now I'm off before you think I'm such a "big mouth" 🙂
@tubbyscubby: Perhaps, reputation is one of the factors to contribute to her family's emotional well being, but still she cared so much more for the lover than the husband. It made people wonder how could she do this, but how do we know if it was more of her fault? I don't think it's easy because what if she was a housewife and was dependent on her husband's income, so he might not respect her so much? What if she lived for the children's sake because they need money from the husband? , etc .I'm sorry to go off the topic here but I really just want to give out all the possiblities in my head to see both sides (so please bear with my as well, tubbyscubby?)... Well, tubbyscubby, I think that you can feel better now since she already admitted that she was wrong about things? You helped her or woke her up from the sea of confusion, and now she tried to err her wrongdoings (which were stated in the title and the first few posts?). I also don't think scartooth tried to teach the woman how to cheat and run away with mistakes, he just thought that she learnt the lesson and it was time to tone down the "tough love" approach? Perhaps, this is where you and him "crossed the wire"?
Yes, I think you both tried to help the woman but each used different method to achieve and so you ticked off each other during the way. However, I can see that you both care for this lady.Otherwise, you wouldn't bother to post so many analysis and solutions for her situation?
Just please don't get too emotional and forget your original purpose. Apologies for "bugging in" and now I'm off before you think I'm such a "big mouth" 🙂
a scorpio just less crazy. fyi - i'm skimming your posts now.
Posted by Rambull
Aries girl can go logical when she has a problem. I'm zeroing in on a solution here so I cut the fiery emo for now. And your right bout husband. But I want plenty of information when we do talk. So I'm trying to sort junk out. I really trusted he wouldn't talk n I went back into my marriage with a new outlook. I might have had sex w him again. Thank goodness he froze out on me. So now I have to help my husband work through this with our friends knowing. I believe he'll forgive me. But I look like an idiot n so does he w our friends. We're the stable ones..... Yeah well. Like sucks right now.
you know who posted after? YOU! with your wise line about flings 😛
Posted by Rambull
Piece of my story: I've been so private for so long.. N e way. He is younger. So aqua mature for his age. I know his love was strong. Looking back, we both moved out of platonic n were scared. He told me he was. He is honest n hated the cheating w a married woman thing. BUT he also loved the idea of winning me. He did it! It took a while. He really lost it when we would see each other n me w my family. He was SO uncomfortable. Hurt maybe? Selfish me thot a fling would be just that. I really didn't know how strong the feelings would be. I was so low on sex. An Aries to the max. We fired it up....
I'm bonkers in Wonderland now.click to expand
her initial posts were more about her being pissed she got caught than being pissed she engaged in a fling.
her apology/remorse were akin to someone saying, "i'm sorry that you're hurt" vs "i'm sorry that i hurt you."
there's a difference and her will hubby will see right through it. you can't see it because you stoopid.
has she stated how old she is yet?
Posted by exam
...I also don't think scartooth tried to teach the woman how to cheat and run away with mistakes, he just thought that she learnt the lesson and it was time to tone down the "tough love" approach? Perhaps, this is where you and him "crossed the wire"?
Just please don't get too emotional...
oh please! emotional? keep thinking i'm mid-rage. in reality, 9 times out of 10 of smoking a doobie and laughing at spongebob 😛
scartoof was protesting before she responded. he made the exchange more about me than he did her. that's why he's researching my posts and offering ridiculous articles because it's about proving himself right. he doesn't care about her plight. hell, he hardly read in the first place.
as far as rambull, HOPEFULLY she gets that blame, minimization and avoidance don't lead to healing. she should figure out why she felt the need to be underhanded in the first place as her lies didn't begin when she slept with the aqua. they began years ago.
she needs to realize that regardless of what hubby does/doesn't do, the only person that she can hold accountable is herself.
do you guys honestly believe that after living a lie for AT LEAST two years she's had an ah-ha moment a day ago? as dr. phil says, you can't change what you don't acknowledge so let's test that...
imagine dating someone and forming a bond with them. imagine feeling connected to this person and feeling as if they are equally connected to you. this could possibly your first "real" love. now imagine sharing yourself physically with this person and afterward their turning and reminding you it's just sex. in essence, you mean nothing. after TWO YEARS of kinship, you're a booty call. they might as well leave a stack of 20s on the dresser on their way out.
there's something fundamentally wrong with a person who has the audacity to think that they can form an emotional bond with another human being (outside of an existing bond) and unilaterally limit that bond to sex. in other words, SHE cheapened her situation with the aqua and in doing so cheapened herself.
she wants to convince herself it's about his depth, friendship, intellect when in reality, when push came to shove, it was about his dick. her words...just not all gussied up for your satisfaction.
how old are you?
you keep ignoring that question so now i'm asking you directly. how...old...are...you?
you keep ignoring that question so now i'm asking you directly. how...old...are...you?
answer my damn question!
and you like this forum because you've had to deal with a leo bastard for all these years. as i mentioned before, you sought the opposite of your husband and you got it. i get it chicky!
you're an aries, your husband is a leo. fire-fire. love-anger. you two fed off of one another and leo has a way about making extreme proclamations that makes you want to succumb/stay/give in.
but fire can only feed off of itself but so long. fire needs air to breathe and what'd you do? you went out for some air.
your husband needs to mature but so do you. you can help him but NOT by changing him. he's FIXED! he will resist you. you change him by changing you. set the example. you need to grow. you need to be more like your opposite. that's what astrology about in the end.
once you become whole, you have you choice: help your husband elevate and grow OR realize that you're no longer on the same level and that you've grown and it's time to move on.
how old are you?
and you like this forum because you've had to deal with a leo bastard for all these years. as i mentioned before, you sought the opposite of your husband and you got it. i get it chicky!
you're an aries, your husband is a leo. fire-fire. love-anger. you two fed off of one another and leo has a way about making extreme proclamations that makes you want to succumb/stay/give in.
but fire can only feed off of itself but so long. fire needs air to breathe and what'd you do? you went out for some air.
your husband needs to mature but so do you. you can help him but NOT by changing him. he's FIXED! he will resist you. you change him by changing you. set the example. you need to grow. you need to be more like your opposite. that's what astrology about in the end.
once you become whole, you have you choice: help your husband elevate and grow OR realize that you're no longer on the same level and that you've grown and it's time to move on.
how old are you?
"be sorry about this stuff before you do it then don't do it! it's called growing up!"
^just heard that line on "Community" NBC
^just heard that line on "Community" NBC
Yes , you both started to insult each other, and you especially kept asking questions with exclamation mark and question mark.You also are using the 'corner' approach , almost like a 'bull' ready to lock horns with others in battle, indeed remind me of 'Red Bull' advert. ( my mind is scattering again, I meant no offence here). I quite admire the ' warrior' style in Earth and Fire sign, you guys will easily 'charge' in battles.
@Rambull: I can see that you're changing more towards the end of this discussion thanks to both tubby and scartooth 🙂 yah, I guess her words do 'cut' but it's like traditional Chinese medicine that will seep slowly into your system and 'cure' the 'illness'
@Rambull: I can see that you're changing more towards the end of this discussion thanks to both tubby and scartooth 🙂 yah, I guess her words do 'cut' but it's like traditional Chinese medicine that will seep slowly into your system and 'cure' the 'illness'
that spazz left because there aren't enough fling proponents?
what a douche.
what a douche.
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