How do aqua feel about marriage?

First of all, I JUST found out that my mother has her moon in scorpio. This is kind of a big thing to me because my moon is in scorpio, which could explain a lot. A little background: when I was younger, my mother and I clashed tremendously. One minute she would be my best friend, and the next she'd be criticizing every single thing I did. We argued all the time (it was more one-sided) and she never could understand me. Needless to say, she was part of the reason why I was depressed for several years; but once I graduated high school and left for college, our relationship changed for the better. As of now, we are much closer and it finally seems like we reached a point where we do get each other.

Now, the reason I'm asking this question is because my mother has never been married. She's been engaged, she has dated several men, but she has never taking the step down the aisle. She's a rather independent, all-knowing person who doesn't really enjoy being tied down. With a couple of her ex-boyfriends, one of them being her longest relationship, he told me that he thinks my mother was afraid to actually get married. I remember she told me after a trip to germany to visit my older brother that she didn't want to marry her boyfriend (who is now her ex)even though my brother wanted her to do so. Usually I can tell how my mom feels about her men, and when she wants out of a relationship, I know before it even happens. Needless to say, my mother not being married has never bothered me. However, she often asks me, "Candice, do you think I'll ever be married?" I just shrug it off and tell her that she might be someday. She obviously wants to get married at some point, but she doesn't seem to want to go there yet.

So hwo do you aqua women feel about marriage? My mother has no issues when she is in the relationship, but by the time marriage is considered, she either waits too long and backs out after a while or decides she doesn't want to marry the guy she is with. Just for a little reference, here is her chart:

Sun Aquarius 19.46
Moon Scorpio 20.19
Mercury Pisces 7.39
Venus Aries 6.16
Mars Cancer 0.02
Jupiter Capricorn 22.59
Saturn Capricorn 24.06
Uranus Leo 23.55 R
Neptune Scorpio 11.19
Pluto Virgo 7.16 R
Lilith Leo 0.47
Asc node Virgo 6.22

I've only met one man in my life that I would marry. Before him, I was convinced marriage wasn't for me even though I was in many long term relationships. It almost requires something magical to make me want to give up my independence.

maybe the questioned should be rephrased..perhaps you should ask, "how would you feel about marrying a neurotic, fickle, air head who would most likely make time for everything in life OTHER than your marriage, while you are left to ponder why the hell you wanted to marry an aqaurius in the first place?!?"

life with an aqaurius, much less marriage is a life of wanting, lonliness and heartache..

a bit of sarcasm, eh, aquanot?


here is a bit of sarcasm for you...


when i meet a girl and she tells me she is an aqua, i say, "aqua?!?.... NOT!"

your name is ringing like a bell in my ears right now...

hardy har har!

Posted by PrinceofTheUniverse
a bit of sarcasm, eh, aquanot?


here is a bit of sarcasm for you...


when i meet a girl and she tells me she is an aqua, i say, "aqua?!?.... NOT!"

your name is ringing like a bell in my ears right now...

hardy har har!

On behalf of aquas everywhere...thank you.

Me too, LittleAqua! Weddings scare me. 😄

Well,i ain't that okey with marriege..cause i am convinced that all good things come to an end,and if i won't love someone anymore,i wouldn't like to go through all the divorce papers,etc. I like to rather be independent,have my own house,own income and not get that seriously involved with a guy.If i like someone,they have the key to be a lil part of my life but i won't allow them to know everything about me,or my past or my work. I'm a little paranoic so i don't either trust a lover. So,impossible for me to wanna settle down with somebody.Maybe i will have other thoughts when i will be "head over heels in love" again and will want everything from the partner but that's why i love to back down from the person to calm my feelings down,and stay stable.

@Candi...Well granted, some Aquas do typically fear long-term relationships, BUT not b/c we're not capable of being in them/maintaining; it's moreso that we fear investing in something that isn't guaranteed, considering we often put our entire body, mind & soul into a person/relationship once we've actually decided to fully commit to someone. So seeing an Aqua who seems to be a little hesistant to take the route of marriage is typical/normal. BUT once again, it's not b/c we fear we'll be the problem/reason things end; We love love & companionship just like everybody else. It's just that Aquas tend to pay a little bit MORE attention to those good ole news headlines that keep forcing it into people's heads that marriages nowadays aren't lasting very long. We take those "statistics" into great consideration & to be honest, it only adds to our fear of losing something we cherish in the long run!

HOWEVER, there's a possibility your mom is 1 of those people who WANT to be ready for something they TECHNICALLY ARE NOT ready for. Maybe she's got some inner commitment issues and/or issues with her self-worth. And I say that since you mentioned her not having issues with simple commitments/relationships. It'd be 1 thing if she never mentioned marriage being a priority at all--that'd kind of make more sense & if that was the case, no one could really blaim her for being the "rare woman" in today's society who actually doesn't see the hype about marriage. BUT...

BUT...Marriage IS clearly on her mind, thus that means there must be something going on emotionally/psychologically that is hindering her/causing that hesitation. Of course past issues/relationships with others usually have something to do w/ it BUT I'm willing to bet you that she was probably a part of the problem in regards to why some of her last relationships soured/went bad.

Some people are actually more afraid of long-term intimacy w/o even realizing it. And when you tell them this, they'll immediately deny it b/c in their minds they're assuming if this were true, they wouldn't even want commitment/relationships at all! Truth is, marriage isn't a law; it's not something that each person is FORCED/HAS to do. It's a natural feeling 2 people get when they feel their relationship has reached a certain potential/level. So if your mom is reaching those levels with certain partners BUT YET NOT considering marriage, it's b/c there's something about the ideal of marriage that she deeply fears.

I loved being married - up until the last year of it. 13 years of pretty good times and then, yeah, it turned to shit.

I'm not against it again, but am certainly in NO hurry at all.

I'm definitely not a personal fan of marriage and haven't been for a long time - about the time i started thinking for myself. But it's simply a personal viewpoint - marriage makes the stars shine brighter for some people and if it makes them happy and gives them what they need then I'm happy for them.

So why not me?

It's not a problem with commitment, I'm a big fan of commitment surprisingly enough. It's more about what I view as an out moded concept. Especially when you take into account that I'm an agnostic who doesn't believe in bureaucratic flim flam and a hopeless romantic (another stereotypical surprise from an Aquarian).

People should be together because they want to be together and love each other. Compared to deep feelings of that nature a piece of stamped paper or an oath made to a metaphysical entity or presence which may or may not exist is somewhat superfluous. I believe marriage came about because at one time men called the shots and insecure men might have required a bond of protection to strengthen their frail egos and lack of effort keeping a relationship vibrant.

Now, I know that most women grow up with an idea of a fairytale marriage. A singular day when all eyes are upon them and they are without doubt the start of their own show. A day when they are quite rightly given every opportunity to shine and sparkle. But I don't see why that cant be experienced without the contractual obligations and religious sanctimony.

So I would be all for a 'Declaration of Love' ceremony, a day when the man and women profess their love in front of gathered friends and family and they both have a magical day they can look back on. Just like a wedding but without the elements I'm not personally in favour of.

Now I'm definitely in a minority here (a minority of one or two perhaps) but I just don't see marriage as being romantic.If the only thing holding two people together is a piece of stamped paper, a religious belief, or a perceived duty to the institution of marriage then that strikes me as being a little sad. It should be love that brings a couple together and love that binds them together, forever and always. Anything else is trivial window dressing or non essential clutter.

In fact the only bit of true romance I've encountered at the weddings I've attended was mainly a result of tender heart felt, self written, vows.

I'm actually all FOR marriage. Of course I've noticed the alarming facts/statistics that are warning most people to stay FAR AWAY from it since 1 in 3 marriages are likely to FAIL. I've also noticed the alarming trend of how many people will avoid marriage altogether if they can get the same benefits marriage offers without actually being married (friends with benefits, example). BUT, I'm still old-fashioned & traditonal.

Yeah those statistics scare me too death BUT I'm also a firm believer that just b/c 500 people made the same mistake or had bad outcomes doesn't mean that I will become a part of those very statistics.

I love marriage! Of course I'm more careful now than ever before b/c of all the people showing us examples of what NOT to do or how NOT to do things. BUT, personally I want to get married. I don't want to have children and/or live with someone UNLESS I'm married.

I'm afraid of rejection, getting betrayed & abandoned just like everybody else BUT I've realized that these are some of the risks that come with the territory of love. Not only can the same bad outcomes happen when you're married. Hell we can all experience the same heartaches by simply being in love period! And as I've grown, I've realized that even as much as it SUCKS, I have to be willing to accept the territory that comes with loving someone else PERIOD! Loving someone is always the hard part; loving someone unconditionally takes alot more courage than marrying someone does! If I can surpass the fears of loving someone & allowing them to love me, marriage is no longer a fear.

Every relationship takes the chance of not lasting long. That's why I'm a firm believer in THOROUGHLY getting to know someone before I not only enter into a relationship with them BUT ALSO before I go before God to vow to always be with that person (marriage.) But when it comes to love in general, you can't always worry about the "What ifs." Doing so sort of Jinkx your relationship. Some people fear & run from things that don't even exist

I'm ok with it. I'd be willing to get hitched if I ever found someone who would put up with me. I mean come on, I'm ridiculous.

Posted by DK09
I mean come on, I'm ridiculous.

LOL! I can relate.

i dont personally think at this point its the person's sign...(trust me im really into zodiacs and all) at the end its the way we experienced life. I've been through horrific relationships. encountered men that wanted me to be their mistress. Its detrimental to be the one everyone wants but no one wants to be with. When i think about marriage i literally feel so much fear. Fear of another failed relationship. Fear of not being loved for who i am adn where i am. I also have built up so much negative conditioning. HOwever, i crave it so much. to have that one love and fight for it till death due us apart. But before i make sucha committment i would literally have to know everything about the future husband. His shadows and his lights. His core. and IF i feel his core is something that doesnt fit my wants and needs that are suited to not change over time . i drop them.