How Do Aquarius Men Handle Break Ups?

First off I'm a Cancer....We've known each other for 10 months let me just say.. i always gave him his space!! I'm NOT the typical cancer who needs to see you eveyday or talk to you everyday twice a week is good for me.so i never bugged out about that,but i'm a firm believer in when you are persistent then things start to change somethings up...idc what sign you are...we were supposedly now in a relationship i shouldn't hear from you once a week wtf?? i called him and said "we need to talk" he said "Okay,go ahead" i just told him how i been feeling some type of way and what's going on,and he's playing it cool like 'I'm omw to your house so we can talk" i told him "What is it that we need to talk about face to face,that we cannot communicate through the phone right now"? we talked a little then i had to go and do something,so i told him i'll talk to you when i get a chance...he was suppose to attend a business meeting my parents were hosting so i had texted him asking him if he would still attend and if not let me know.. 11 am...so i'm at work and times goes by and i'm just fed up..WHAT IS SO HARD TO JUST SAY YES OR NO...i Felt like he just don't respect me and my feelings...i went into the bathroom at work and i started to cry because i've been through so much in my life and ppl not being honest and true to me....so when i got off work i just sent him a text saying " I was thinking....there is LACK of communication ,and a lot of distance,so i think i should completely give you your space,idk what goes on in your mind or what goes,maybe if i knew i could empathize.I don't like nagging,complaining,and worrying about ppl all the time,and that's what i've been doing,and i'm uncomfortable,so i'm giving you your space." I stepped out of the room then i come back and see that he called so it was 10 mins later i figured i call back WHICH I SHOULDN'T HAVE!! i did it because i thought we could fix this..he didn't answer i called again and texted no answer!! i was hurt i felt like he don't care!! and i feel like he manipulated the situation i had the power when he called and he must've thought i didn't answer purposely,so when i called back he ignored me.

I just gave up....so next day i just texted him saying "I really would like to talk to you,i thought i was doing the right thing for us both,but it don't feel like it,but if you don't want to talk about it i'm okay with that,and i'll keep it moving" I always try to leave on a peaceful note...because i really love him...we have a strong connection..just our lack of communication mainly on his behalf! and this is primary example of lack of communication..i honestly want to be with him still i just refuse to be in a relationship where someone that's 34 yrs old won't meet me half way...i still want to talk to him but my pride won't allow me to contact him anymore at this point...i really wish he just realize he had something good an could've been something GREAT.

I'm so sorry for all the bad grammar.Lol I get anxious and just don't care at times.

Hi Beauty-I am not an Aqua male nor female. I am a Sag, but I do have knowledge on this sign. I dated an Aqua for 3 years. Our relationship was a constant struggle for him to talk to me and to tell me how he was feeling. Looking back though, he was telling me how he felt, but not as any normal person would communicate, are you following me?
Since Aqua's are so far ahead of the rest of us, in thinking, seeing and believing in things, and not thinking, seeing and believing in things that are not there...they use their mind to talk to you. They may say something that sounds off handed, or like they do not care but they really do. Your instinct should tell you to trust what he says to you. And, what they do not say. Aquas are verbal but in their time. They answer you when they want, and if they are busy it may take some time for them to get back to you. Your best bet is to be patient. Don't fly off the handle, get upset or angry because then their air will just fan you and try to get you riled up. They do not like to fight often, though they are animated when they speak and bold with their words,so it may seem they are looking to brawl.
Just affirm how you feel about him, how it makes you upset and then drop it. Don't drag it out, try to make him feel guilty or blow up. Aquas can blow up to when provoked.
I found out a little too late, but that does not mean that you can't learn about this wonderful sign now.
Good luck! 🙂

I'm a Cap, currently dating an Aqua, so, no, I'm not an expert. This is a very difficult sign to figure out. Just a couple of thoughts:

They show more with actions and you can see it in their eyes.

Also, time to them is not on the same time frame as other people.

I'm a Cap, currently dating an Aqua, so, no, I'm not an expert. This is a very difficult sign to figure out. Just a couple of thoughts:

They show more with actions and you can see it in their eyes.

Also, time to them is not on the same time frame as other people.

Posted by truecap
I'm a Cap, currently dating an Aqua, so, no, I'm not an expert. This is a very difficult sign to figure out. Just a couple of thoughts:

They show more with actions and you can see it in their eyes.

Also, time to them is not on the same time frame as other people.

Very true 🙂

I just feel like if he really wanted this he would've been reached out.It's been four days,and i'm not going to wait around.

Four days is NOTHING to them! They don't even realize its been that long.

Haha...True!! he would say that "It's been a week? really,It don't feel that long" lol...

Posted by truecap
Four days is NOTHING to them! They don't even realize its been that long.

Agreed! They can go longer...my Aqua ex and I haven't talked since Nov of last year and this past Sunday he finally said Hi to me again at the gym. It's been 10 months, but who's counting! Not the Aqua, that is for sure!

Posted by Metoo
Do *NOT* contact him. Not at all.
Let him come around & live ur life.

I also agree with this too. Whole heartidly! 🙂

I think you might have been a bit hasty here. I wonder if he was the main reason for this break-down or have you been through alot recently or someone did to disappoint you in the past and you couldn't let go? I mean you want to communicate with him and hope to see him more often and from what I read here he offered to see you at your home to talk face to face. Don't you think it's a very good option? I mean some Aqua men can be a bit slow to realize how troubled a Cancer woman feel and how much support she needs from him. Phones can be a great barrier and from what I know, many Aqua men aren't good with phones and face to face talks(unless you make him feel extremely comfortable and let him know that you aren't going to be upset at his bold ideas!) but they're excellent writers so emails and text messages are actually more comfortable for them. However, he did try to meet you half way here so I think he does care about you. He's just worried that you might be upset or too emotional right now and might make decisions that harm your relation so I think he's keeping quiet till this blows over. I understand it's hard for Cancer women to understand this "bewilding" attitude but if you guys find it too hard to be together then perhaps it wasnt meant to be.

Food for thought:

I have an Aqua male friend who told me once that he has no idea how to read between the lines. He said he doesn't get it and just doesn't see the hidden meaning in things. I tried to explain and show him, but he said he just didn't get it. So, he has told me to be more direct with the Aqua I'm dating. When you are direct, just be nice and mature about it and don't make him feel attacked.

I have taken the advice and my Aqua seems to appreciate it.

I appreciate all of you ladies input..Thanks a lot..@exam maybe i was a little hasty...That day i was totally messed up i had gotten into it with a co-worker,and idk just everything made me upset...i was always taught by my mom which is a virgo that we have to be strong,and always be there for yourself first..at times i just want him to be there,when i need him most...I feel like i give this man ENOUGH space...so he should know when to be present....I basically told him that he would just let me know certain things i could better understand..I don't like arguing,i rather compromise,i like things to be positive and peaceful..@shedevil4u I'm a cancer with a lot of leo in my chart...lol which explains why i have too much pride..i want this to work out but i did try to fix it and he took the immature route and ignored me,so what is left to do but to go on with life? it's been a weak and three days now...i think about him a lot ,i even think about picking up the phone,but my pride won't let me..in my heart i want this,but i feel that he should make the move...i'm afraid that he will just say eff it and move onto someone else...i'm still lingering on it but i'm being strong.

Posted by BeautyNBrains23
How Do Aquarius Men Handle Break Ups?

It really depends of other placements. The ones with water placements tend to act according to their feelings and it may be difficult to move on. Since they are the most "irrational" aquas they will often make snap decisions. Those with earth will be very reluctant at first because they don't like change. Once they give up they gill be very bitter because of the wasted time and they are the least likely to come back after a break up. And the ones who are mostly air will need a little time to cool off so they can rationalize the situation. When they accomplish this, they are able to take anything with a grain of salt. Like they weren't really involved in it at all and they were merely a witness. I think people call it "thinking outside the box".

i am a cancerian female , i was in love with an aquarius man for 3 years we had some fights like any couple but he used to tell me that nothig can beat us , that i'll never live a day without him ! like he loves me too much ! his independence made me always feel sad he knew that but i tried to give him some space ! he was gone for one year to study in another country he used to call skype for hours every single day ! he told me that he is tried without me that he is waiting to come home for me ! i was his home ! i was happy to hug and kiss him again

he arrived at 10 pm and he texted me : i'm sorry for being late my love ! in the morning i sent him a message telling him i can't wait to see him ! he didn't answer me at 3 pm he said he thinks we need to break up ! i was in chock i told him you just can't end 3 years with a message come and see me ! he came he told me that he had doughts and he tried so much but he is unhappy he wants his freedom ! he talked about a future without me ! that he is feeling trapped ! i couldn't believe him i kno that he has problems with money and college ! but i couldn't believe how cruel he was ! he was crying he told me to set him free ! i'm still in chock ! i told him not to do this to us ! that he promised that a day ago he told me i'll never ive without him he said : just move on !