how do you know?

How do you know if an aquarius cares? Is it only when they tell you so? I have not talked to my aqua acquaintaince since what I found out months ago. But it still leaves me puzzled if he could have possible cared about me or was it all an act. How does a person know?

Actually yes I do feel like in the begining he cared but then it seemed as if his interest ended. That's fine if he doesn't want to have a romantic relationship but at times I really miss his friendship.

Well Aquas do have their own distinct ways of showing others that they care when and IF they actually do care. If they care, 1. They'll come right out & tell you. (Aquas aren't ones to exaggerate their feelings for others; if they open up to you about their feelings for you, they're 9 times out of 10 being sincere. 2. Aquas will invest lots of time & energy into that person, & the QUALITY for which they do things for you or talk to you will be alot higher than before when they only semi-cared OR didn't care at all. Aquas may not be very verbal in the beginning of a friendship/relationship, BUT we try our best to make that person feel deep down inside that what we're doing & saying is sincere. The best indicator to see how someone feels is to use your gut, your intuition & your common sense. And sometimes even if an Aqua walks away from you, leaves you high & dry or simply stops communicating with you, that doesn't necessarily mean they did so b/c they didn't care. It's just that Aquas (especially in the beginning) don't go over-board in expressing their love for others in the typical ways that others do. In a way, Aquas will say & do things in a way that they expect their partners to accurately read all of their signals. Aquas care very deeply about the people they invest their time & energy into. Just b/c they don't say "I love you" every 5 minutes or jump your bones every time they see you doesn't mean that they like/love you any less. Once your hip to HOW Aquas show interest, you'll grow to understand that as long as your seeing those "signs" you're fine & have nothing to worry about. When dealing with Aquas, you kind of have to step outside of the box a little bit.

Idk whatever it is that you found out about him, but I'm willing to guess that if it was bad & incriminating, you stopped hearing from him either b/c of 1. Embarrassment or 2. The way you reacted to the situation once you found out. Who knows, he may have saw something in you that he didn't like, thus he walked away & took the quality of what you two had with him. It could be that at the time he was emotionally unavailable, in which if that's the case, you not hearing from him was him doing you a FAVOR. It could be that he's found someone else that he feels he clicks/connects with alot stronger, thus he walked away from you b/c Aquas don't let things linger when they know upfront that it won't serve a purpose. It could be anything. Have you reached out to him?

No I haven't reached out. Mostly out of fear. I'm not sure if he cares to be friends anymore. Actually I rarely knew if he value our friendship at all. He was always aloof as aquas are but randomly he would tell me how much he liked and cared about me. It always sounded genuine but his actions were just the opposite. Talk about confusing. I don't want to be that girl that doesn't get the hint but I know if I ask him straigt up if were still cool I won't get a straight answer. This has to be the most confusing situation ever.

Yeah I mean like I said, alot of people, due to not understanding Aquas, translate everything they do OR don't do into just assuming that their Aqua doesn't care, when in fact that couldn't be any further from the truth. Aquas can pull the "distance" things during both good & bad situations with others. For example, an Aqua might distance himself from you b/c, after careful consideration, he's decided that you're not the one for him at the time, thus it's only natural for him to step away & allow you to seek other partners. However, an Aqua might distance himself too if he starts to feel himself unexpectedly falling for someone, thus he'll distance himself (not to hurt/confuse the other person) for the purposes of removing himself from the situation just so he can be 100% sure that he feels so strongly about the person for all the right reasons, vs. just falling for someone b/c of them allowing their emotions to fully take over (An Aqua's biggest fear). So there's a perfectly good example of how 1 action from an Aqua could mean so many different things. It sounds like you just aren't willing to go the other mile to make this work & hey, that's understandable b/c there's no guarantee that if you do your part that you'll get back in return the same. This Aqua might've distanced himself for so many reasons that probably have NOTHING to do with you. Actually, I'm almost sure his reasons have nothing to do with you b/c of the fact that he still makes it known to you that he has interest in you. If an Aqua distanced himself b/c he saw some things in you that he found unacceptable, he would stop going out of his way to invest the energy into telling/showing you his interest. It's prob. best for you to just back up, get your mind back to it's logical state, take the loss & move on. If you continue to stay in the situation, you'll just go crazy

Just to give a little bit of background, my aqua and I were really good friends for about a year. Then we progressed to friends with benefits. We kinda got stuck in that routine and since that's not really my style I suggested we try to get to know each other better outside of the bedroom. He stated that he was fine with this. I tried initiating some activities but they all seemed to fall through. He claims its because he's so busy (a workaholic) but i'm not 100% sure I believe this. If he was really interested he would make time is how I see it. It's really hard hearing that he can detach during bad AND good times. At this point I really don't know what to think. He said he wanted to get to know me better as well so I don't understand why we're stuck in this position. I've tried being patient, even stopped communication with him. It's hard when you think they care and they ACT like they don't.

Well you said it the best...he ACTS like he doesn't care. Any man can fake it by verbally SAYING that they care, but it's alot harder to fake sincerity through actions. This is why they say pay more attention to actions b/c someone's actions (what they do AND/OR don't do) tells the real story of the situation. If I were you, I'd just walk away. You having to spend all this time analyzing & being so confused is taking all of the fun out of what it means to experience dating and/or relationships. You'll just drive yourself crazy. Just assume that he doesn't have all his ish together, & walk away. And hey, if that's the case, then it STILL isn't your responsibility to figure him out. That's not your job, nor should you make it your job. If you do, you'll spend more time confused than you are happy, which completely defeats the purpose of getting to know & liking someone in the 1st place. You know the answers to your own questions. Sounds like your intuition/heart is telling you that something just isn't right, so now you have to do what you wish he would do, make sure your actions match your words. Walk away. This guy has allllll the time in the world to sleep with you & say sweet nothings in your ear but the moment it's time to talk about comittment or something further, it's no suprise that he freezes up & starts showing signs of detachment. Welp, that's what men do when they're playing games and/or just aren't ready for that level. Either way, there's nothing you can do about it. You can't control him & all the bull behind his intentions with you. BUT what you CAN control is that you won't sit around & be the psychologist for him. If he's not giving you the commitment or the time you deserve then don't sit around & tap your foot, waiting for him too. No, just walk away b/c YOU are the only person's emotions & decisions you can control. Screw him. Find someone else who won't confuse you as much